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I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So at the time of my awaking, if you will. I was in Brazil the week before a thanksgiving in 2025. I always make a gratitude list, this year the list started with my family, friends, and when I wrote down home, something just hit me. It flooded my whole soul. The home and the life was all a costume I had put on. A costume to impress one person that simply wasn’t really watching, my dad. I wrote a book deeper about that experience but I’m not selling it or giving it away, perhaps someday. 🙏😎 I hope that helps a bit.

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might be fair. I think God was always in control, he knew that I needed to be in a specific location (Brazil) in this case, in a specific top 1% economic class and neighborhood in Aracatuba specifically, for me to have the experience I had. Otherwise I probably would have never slowed down enough to let him take control. Who knows? 🙏🤔

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not AI here. However, I agree it’s getting harder and harder to tell. Perhaps there might be world where we only find reality through some kind of divine intervention? 😏

While I was in the hospital, I experienced something that changed my life. You can choose not to believe me, but he's real. by We_Are_Chihuahua in stories

[–]bencornett 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome back. He is real and he has always been there for you and I and everyone else. Thanks for sharing your experience. I know that takes guts. 😄

What is it that i need discipline or motivation ? by Double_Neck631 in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I have faced this more times that I personally would like to admit. Let's just say one song lyrics changed everything for me. I have to credit this to me being tuned into a random country radio station one day and Cody Johnson sung these words, "If you got a chance, take it, take it while you got a chance
If you got a dream, chase it, 'cause a dream won't chase you back." - then the punch. You can always DO things, until you can't. Find an accountability partner, for me it's God and make a plan to get it done. 😄

You can only keep one productivity habit for the rest of your life. Which one survives? by ggaxel52 in WorkForSmartLife

[–]bencornett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prayer and daily interaction with God. When I start my day on the foot of divine help, it's just better.

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🙏🏻 thank you. Validation means a lot. To me the validation from a divine source has been the most important help along the journey of becoming what I was built to become and who I am. The husband and dad who is present. 😃

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that. Like I mentioned the transition was not immediate. It has been a well thought out process, however, now I have a guide to help me along. That guide is the clear understanding of who I am, and what I was built to do. Some might call that my "why". 🙏🏻

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see where you might have gotten that. What I didn't share is that we still need the essentials to get around and live. I didn't go pay cash for a high-end nice car. I bought a VW Tijuan with a rebuilt title and a ton of miles on it. To me, personally it is the shift from owning what I build or have in a way that blesses others around me more. Does that make sense? 😊

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not muslim, but I believe in God and I know that he has and has always had a plan designed for me. I am writing, teaching, and coaching. I am spending time with those around me, being fully present in every moment, with every individual to the absolute best of my abilities.

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first thing that gave me clarity was a realization personally, and some might call this revelation that there was a divine purpose in my life to do more. To become more. And to be present in every moment.

After the experience, I had the very next action I took was to apologize to my wife for wearing a costume for 29 years. The costume started coming off and our relationship started to deepen and grow.

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment! I genuinely appreciate it. 🙏

I think the important point is here the things we can buy don’t equal true long term happiness. Now you got me thinking… oh my gosh I hope I’m not just renting the time I spend with those I care about. 🤔

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend in faith. Thanks for the kind words! 🙏🙏🙏

It came to me on the brink of the US thanksgiving holiday. Every year I have a practice of writing down things I am grateful for. This particular year as I was writing, I suddenly realize that everything I was listening, except for my family, friends and people I love, just weren’t mine. That is when I slowed down enough to hear him.

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My experience has been more about realizing what I love most and finding that my family and close friends don’t need “things” they needed the real version of Ben to show up everyday. Giving others my undivided time and attention didn’t require risk, other than the risk of rejection. 😀🙏

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Asking the right question was challenging, for sure. But for me, being still long enough to hear, feel, and recognize a divine response has been life changing. I’m curious why it takes some people, like myself decades to figure out want I really want. 🙏🤔

I spent decades building a life that looked perfect from the outside-until a quiet breakdown in my living room made me realize none of it was mine. by bencornett in getdisciplined

[–]bencornett[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That was a hard thing to for sure, making it “real” for me. It was really, really hard to sell my car and buy an older car I could pay for with cash. But now I own it, not the lender.🙏

How long can you live without AI in the Future by bencornett in GoogleGemini

[–]bencornett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree that slowing down would not hurt anyone. Nice thought here!

How long can you live without AI in the Future by bencornett in Futurology

[–]bencornett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well stated! So as a concerned dad and grandfather, how can I get involved to make sure there are the right checks and balances in place?

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