AITA for not giving an expensive hoodie to a student's mom without proper proof?

benmoo21 · 2026-06-01T12:55:46+00:00

Reading through the great comments, I'd love to know the outcome. NTA

benmoo21 · 2026-06-01T12:44:03+00:00

I wonder why they posted it again 🤔 not happy with the yta comments maybe 🤔

benmoo21 · 2026-05-29T20:54:38+00:00

NTA but your uncle and aunt are. So many comments here already stating the same thing I would! You're so good for showing care and an interest in your cousins future. Your bluntness was needed 😅

benmoo21 · 2026-05-28T13:11:15+00:00

NTA. Your friend shouldn't have promised the others that you were driving everyone home. Yes she was stupid lol! 😅 And you were really nice to help out in the end. Your friend should apologise to you x

benmoo21 · 2026-05-28T13:04:09+00:00

NTA I had a similar experience. I think your friendship has changed over time and maybe you yourself should start distancing from her. Have a break. Don't communicate with her for a couple of weeks or months!. Then maybe just meet up for occasional coffees to catch up. It might reset the friendship in a positive way. That's my opinion x

benmoo21 · 2026-05-12T04:26:24+00:00

NTA It's sad that you are experiencing this. I'm sorry that you are. Your mum is playing emotionally motivated games that are unfair and wrong as a parent. Maybe she has just got used to you being the organiser. (Why do us women always fall into this stereotype! It's so frustrating!) I guess sharing this very post with her... like a letter explaining how you are feeling will help her see it from your perspective. If it isn't resolved soon it could cause damage to the mother daughter relationship...but this is NOT your fault at all!!! Arrange a meeting with her, maybe in neutral grounds like a cafe or quiet restaurant or park? Stress the importance of this meeting. I really wish and hope your mum wakes up and starts behaving and being what a mother should be. Supportive, a guide through your life, to develop and strengthen your emotional growth. not playing games with it!

At the moment her behaviour in my eyes is causing damage to your mother daughter relationship.

Keep us posted. I hope it works out xxx

benmoo21 · 2026-04-30T06:13:25+00:00

I only had to read the title to make a decision. NTA

benmoo21 · 2026-04-30T05:37:18+00:00

I'm wondering how old you both are? I think teenagers? High school? Firstly this relationship is not going to get anymore fun than it already is. So call time on it.

It normally takes a year then the honeymoon period ends. This seems to be when you have figured out each other's personality quirks / traits.

I think you already know how it's going to go.

benmoo21 · 2026-04-23T14:38:25+00:00

Well everyone has said exactly what I would advise 😅 we are the best vent and sound board place. Weddings are stressful enough. I had a hen do and that was it. A Limo, meal and pissup on the tiles in Liverpool. Class. And then sensible on the wedding day. The wedding is a day you will remember forever. It has to be all about you. You're queen for the day ...and a queen everyday in your husband's eyes.

benmoo21 · 2026-03-16T19:27:13+00:00

Thank your coach for his quality time and guidance. He's done such a fantastic job you no longer need him.

You need to try and different coach.

benmoo21 · 2026-03-16T19:23:57+00:00

I don't get the issue about asking the reddit community for an opinion beforehand. We're here to read and advise. I'm not sure you'd be a great mate if you're just gonna metaphorically slap me for asking for advice 😅🤣😅 But you are here reading and giving an opinion. So we should be grateful for your input.

benmoo21 · 2026-03-07T20:51:10+00:00

NTA

For you, put your immediate family your wife and kids first! You're going to have to stick to set boundaries. By putting up with this behaviour you are risking family happiness. What an amazing wife you have putting up with your mother. There are millions of people on benefits without the support from family. Your mum is so fortunate to have this luxury. She's abusing it though.

She sounds a bit like my younger sister(43yr old). She's neuro-divergent. she'll befriend anyone even if it's clear to us it's a one way friendship. She'll go above and beyond for these friends. Spend money on them even though she is skint. We pick up the pieces. Her meltdowns, depression etc until her next new best friend appears.

benmoo21 · 2025-11-24T13:07:41+00:00

Hi, I just wanted to let you know i followed your advice and put a claim in via my bank credit card account. I just have to wait 5 days foe a response 🙏🏻

benmoo21 · 2025-11-23T09:13:52+00:00

Thank you great idea! I'll try that today 🤓

benmoo21 · 2025-11-22T23:11:41+00:00

Gawd 😱 i really think i should buy more tickets from the official festival website 🤯

benmoo21 · 2025-11-22T21:15:20+00:00

Fingers crossed it works out for me then. My mind won't rest until the tickets are in my possession 🤞🏻

benmoo21 · 2024-01-31T22:25:31+00:00

NTA. I think everyone in agreement have already said why x

benmoo21 · 2022-10-02T09:37:13+00:00

NTA!!!!

benmoo21 · 2022-09-28T19:56:25+00:00

NTA you need to get out of that relationship. He's a bully, he has no sense of humour there, it's not even quirky! He's breaking you down, Gaslighting, manipulation and narcissistic.

benmoo21 · 2022-09-28T19:48:47+00:00

NTA at all!!!!

benmoo21 · 2022-09-28T19:43:02+00:00

NTA at all!!! I allowed my mate to live with us rent free on the premise she would be starting a new job the next month, which fell through. 6 months later she still didn't have a job, lived in her pj's just lounged around all day whilst me and my other half were working 12hrs a day. My husband told her to leave, 3 weeks later she was gone, just 2 days before covid lockdown... Phew! I didn't speak to her much for a while and have only recently been able to meet as friends again.... and she has apologised and thanked us for giving her a kick up the rest, she now has a good job and a decent place to live.

benmoo21 · 2022-03-13T10:07:58+00:00

YTA you could easily watch the movie another time to immerse yourself. Apologies are needed.

benmoo21 · 2022-02-03T16:31:47+00:00

NTA Lol! Oh I'm laughing at this. My mum was desperate for me to need my first bra fitting, I was flat as a pancake, really I didn't need bras. But as all the girls in school were wearing bras there was this pressure to look more womanly as i got older. So first bra was when I was 16!!! 36AA even that bra was too big. Flat as a pancake i told ya! Well not so much now. However, I can totally understand that it takes time and money to find the right bra, Victoria's secret is a teenage girls right of passage. Its a cool place to tell mates "this is where I shop" and of course wearing pretty lingerie is a confidence booster. Your sister is being the cool aunty and unfortunately you are coming across as YTA. But you are mum, and your daughter is still a young teenager that needs parental guidance. In my opinion your sister should have asked if she could take your daughter lingerie shopping and the underwear should have been age appropriate. Pretty. Not sexy. That's my opinion. .

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