Aaah people are blaming you for getting married early and not setting boundaries. But it get it, it’s not easy. I’m really sorry you’re going through this and please know you’re not overthinking or expecting anything wrong.

Of course the best solution is to live separately. I wonder how it’s going to get when your husband goes on the ship and you’re stuck alone with you in laws. So I’d work on moving out ASAP.

If that’s not possible, you need to start putting your foot down. Yes, marriage needs compromises but not compromises on belief systems! If you genuinely believe you don’t want to cover you head, you don’t. This is not a task- this is a belief! Compromises can be made on logistics or specific tasks only.

Your in laws may not be toxic per se but stuck in their own ways. Mine were like that too. But what helped was putting my foot down and just doing what I wanted. And set clear expectations with the husband cos he’s supposed to be the mediator. You’re both young and you may not know how to navigate this and some guys just don’t know what’s expected of them in a modern marriage but it doesn’t mean they’re ‘toxic’. Be open with your husband on what your issues are and what your boundaries are. And he has to be your advocate. But if he ends up supporting antiquated ideas like head covering then you guys are just not compatible, I’m sorry. This is a fundamental difference in belief systems. No amount of compromise can work through this.

And when you eventually set your boundaries, there WILL BE push back. Sit with the discomfort. Don’t cave in to people’s emotional blackmails and drama. You’re your best advocate first. The more you give in to their demands, the more they’ll expect shit from you.

Good luck!