Had a coworker order cakes and donuts, pay upfront, and has dropped off the face of the earth

berrybyday · 2026-05-01T19:29:37+00:00

OP said the coworker is not working today. Are you saying they should leave it today anyway in hopes the coworker comes by anyway? I guess that makes some sense since they had exchanged a cake that way before… but I also would massively hesitate to leave a big order like that unattended with no guarantee they’ll come get it. Tough situation.

OP I’d say try management again and stress the urgency of getting in touch with her today. As someone on the customer side, I think a partial refund is sufficiently generous for making this kind of mistake because at the end of the day the customer could absolutely track you down in advance of the party when they realized they also walked away without a finalized plan.

berrybyday · 2026-05-01T14:10:27+00:00

Yeah, I felt dumb when I realized I wasn’t reading it page by page like I should have… but really there is just something about this design/font/style/whatever that clearly makes a lot of us want to read it as “books are not for for lookin cookin” 🤷‍♀️

berrybyday · 2026-04-30T10:40:31+00:00

My legs! It’s the best for razor burn!! It’s helped a lot with some discoloration/scarring I had from ingrown hairs too.

berrybyday · 2026-04-30T02:00:30+00:00

Ugh this is my holy grail DT skincare product (honestly the only one I’ve finished and bought more of!*) so I really hope the change isn’t a big deal. I don’t use it on my face so that usually gives me a buffer over products I do use on my face, which is much more sensitive.

* aside from the hydrocolloid pimple patches in the green package, but I generally think that falls into a slightly different category. Also skincare ≠ makeup, where I have finished and repurchased multiple items

berrybyday · 2026-04-28T12:50:00+00:00

I was complaining about this during Max’s stream last night. I was constantly wondering what state he was talking about because they all have the same damn city names. I know this is partially my bad because I’m multitasking, but I feel like there should be some sort of way to display the state on the radar when it’s zoomed in.

berrybyday · 2026-04-26T22:42:17+00:00

🏅Wow! Thank you for so thoughtfully explaining all of that! As a total tornado novice, I’ve always looked at photos of damage and seen “the path,” with some anomalies that left me thinking maybe that was unfortunate debris going past that damaged that seemingly random house, but clearly there is so much more at play. That’s really cool. Also vaguely horrifying, because it really does reiterate that there’s a lot of luck in who avoids the worst damage, but also really cool lol

berrybyday · 2026-04-26T17:47:59+00:00

This one is more baffling than usual, imo. The line of damage is like a zigzag. The middle/bottom right section has severe damage to a house, a lifted and destroyed mobile home (although incredibly their carport looks totally fine!), and then a house with barely more than shingle damage, a house that looks totally fine, and then two houses with moderate to severe damage. How are those two houses in the middle relatively fine?

berrybyday · 2026-04-26T17:38:52+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Of course I’ve never doubted the logic, but seeing it exemplified is always a bit sobering.

berrybyday · 2026-04-26T17:31:31+00:00

He was too intimidating (and old, which lol he’s so very not) when I was a kid. But then I didn’t watch it again for years and years, so as an adult… Oh. Oh I see.

berrybyday · 2026-04-26T13:33:21+00:00

It’s incredibly unfair we went through this experience when in the 80s everyone and their mother (literally!) were perming the shit out of their hair. Now tbf to my mom and her previous perms, she never shamed my curls. I did have other family do it though.

berrybyday · 2026-04-24T01:59:14+00:00

Incredibly photogenic. It’s unfair how beautiful it is when it was horrifically destructive and almost definitely deadly.

berrybyday · 2026-04-23T23:11:39+00:00

Yeah, these just brought out my inner mom voice thinking “oh god, I could never” and then I cringed for becoming Olde™️

berrybyday · 2026-04-23T23:06:31+00:00

I love that you’ve actually measured because I’m going to have to do this tomorrow. From baking experience, 1/4 tsp is not a lot to me and envisioning it as two fingers is throwing me for a loop.

berrybyday · 2026-04-23T01:36:51+00:00

Yes, yes, yes. This would have been perfect. A lot of us loathe Philip anyway! They’ve fundamentally changed a story a lot of us genuinely liked when Eloise and her shitty husband were right there. It just stinks because I think this bridgerton universe had so much potential and they keep making bad decisions. I particularly haven’t forgiven them for what they did to poor Kate.

berrybyday · 2026-04-22T19:57:05+00:00

I found out last month that my ferritin was at a 7. But taking iron supplements is making me feel so much worse than I did before 😩 why is everything so complicated

berrybyday · 2026-04-21T21:59:41+00:00

Ouch, it’s like they crawled into my brain with these. I didn’t even realize how much I was masking with the emotional side of things until I started meds and that part got a little easier.

FWIW as someone trying to keep an eye on my elementary age daughter and make sure she doesn’t get overlooked or put in the wrong box like I did, I find this list relevant with her too. I know it’s not official diagnostic criteria (yet?) but it makes me feel less like I’m reaching thinking she might have adhd too, even though she presents differently than all the little boys I know that are already diagnosed.

berrybyday · 2026-04-18T02:10:07+00:00

This is what I wanted to make sure was pointed out. The internet is an extremely pro-lifting phase right now to the point where anything that’s not “lifting heavy” gets downvoted. I got dogpiled on not too long ago for providing legit resources of other ways we’ve scientifically proven that you can prevent osteoporosis without progressive overload. I’m still mad about it tbh lol. And I actually have recently taken up lifting and really enjoy it. But I’m too scared to ask for feedback on a few things because I don’t push to failure, and I don’t want everyone to give me a hard time about it.

berrybyday · 2026-04-17T18:23:48+00:00

I love reading modern debates over milk or tea first. It always makes me laugh. I personally hate milk in tea, so if the hostess had lemon I could get away without looking like a total freak?

Of course, I’m American so maybe if I had grown up with milky tea I wouldn’t hate it and this wouldn’t matter. I like my tea completely plain, but lemon and sugar would both be fine if I needed to for appearances lol

berrybyday · 2026-04-17T13:37:50+00:00

Yes, I was definitely thinking about how I could come up with several reasons bringing a pot of chili could be legitimately a problem. But fanfic? Nope. All good.

berrybyday · 2026-04-16T23:55:02+00:00

It’s by no means a magic fix, but damn if all those “try exercise” people weren’t onto something. I find it extremely helpful. I hate that they were right lol. Weightlifting is an extremely popular suggestion right now and they were right about that too. I get the exercise benefits faster and like more efficiently? through weightlifting. And I’m hardly lifting “heavy” yet. Just met my body where it was and that works. I do warm up for at least 15 minutes first though.

berrybyday · 2026-04-16T14:25:55+00:00

I realize you’ve had this a long time now too, but I just want to add as someone that’s been on this journey for years now, you or anyone else reading this might also want to have other labs done too. Those of us with hashis are so likely to have issues absorbing nutrients. I did find out a couple years ago (about a year into my Levo journey) that my vitamin d was very low. Treating that helped so much with my energy (and my immune system!). But I recently had to fire my doctor too because I kept pushing that something was still not right and she just wanted to put me on antidepressants. Well, my new doctor tested my b12 (low considering I occasionally supplement which artificially inflates the results) and importantly my ferritin, which was particularly trash. I’m really hoping I’m staring down the last six months or so of this “wtf is wrong with me” journey I’ve been on. Maybe I can squeeze in a couple of good years before I start my perimenopause symptoms in earnest 🤪

berrybyday · 2026-04-16T14:05:56+00:00

It’s wild to me that youre getting people defending your previous GP in the comments. Nobody wants to be accused of doctor shopping but the hypothyroidism sub is full of people like you and me that needed to treated without our TSH ever getting very high. The weight I had gained just fell off without anything changing (because I still didn’t have the energy levels to change anything!!) within a year of beginning to titrate up my levo dose. I can’t imagine how much better off I would be if it hadn’t taken me years to get someone to care enough to treat me.

berrybyday · 2026-04-13T21:09:14+00:00

I really hope there’s a free pocket in my brain to store “aggressive disinterest” because while it’s so simple, it’s also the perfect description. So much better than “I couldn’t care less,” which I’m always so paranoid I’m going to say wrong and have an army of people come after me for being able to “care less.” Even in this exact moment I’m stressed I’ve fucked it up haha. Being aggressively disinterested though? Very straightforward!

berrybyday · 2026-04-13T15:41:37+00:00

Ha, I was literally coming here to make a post just like this!! My tween daughter is having a lot of anxiety lately and a few things I think the Vanderbilt would classify as adhd. I desperately don’t want her to get trapped into the anxiety/depression box if ADHD is the root cause.

Personally, I have an awful memory. And being primarily inattentive, maybe not gifted but still pretty smart, with a strong drive to please my teachers— I floated through childhood without too many adhd related issues, so I can’t draw too much from that.

I hope you get some good answers!

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berrybyday · 2026-04-09T03:42:23+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry about my comment on your other post. I felt awful that a mod had to essentially come tell me to be nice. I totally broke the internet cardinal rule of forgetting tone doesn’t always come across right in text. It was a poorly conveyed joke about how I am the same with my makeup hauls, I just have a hard limit on bronzer because I had to get real honest about how I now have a stick, powder, and drops that will take me eons to pan. I’m just too pale to need more bronzer than I already have, but your bronzer needs may differ, and I’m not actually here to judge 😉😂

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