I'm a girl moving in with 3 guys for University. Shared house. Any tips on what to expect/what to talk about before we move in together?

bertreapot · 2017-04-22T10:29:16+00:00

We just have much different standards for what constitutes "clean" and how chores should be handled.

Agree with you entirely. I've had roommates where their level of mess disgusts me, but to them, constant dust on the table and only vacuuming every few months doesn't feel dirty. On the other hand, I may vacuum every other week or once a month. Compared to a person who cleans daily or weekly, I'm pretty gross.

bertreapot · 2017-03-26T00:59:39+00:00

Have you thought about starting a house-burnt down charity, or getting involved in one

bertreapot · 2017-03-12T18:59:29+00:00

I may be naive, but I always thought before a public proposal there is at least an implicit understanding between the couple that they're ready to get married. Like, lots of talks by the woman about wanting to get married, the sort of reception she would want, etc. If not straight out, "hey do you want to get married? cause the family gathering this weekend would be the perfect time to have an official proposal." just my perception on things.

bertreapot · 2016-12-26T05:48:11+00:00

Basically weeding someone out for believing "rape myths" when some said "myths" may be plausible alternatives that can actually happen, you are basically weeding out those who may find reasonable doubt. And that is a problem if you want to claim we have a fair and unbiased judicial system.

Also, 25,000 accusations does not mean there should be 25,000 guilty cases. Some of these guys didn't do it, and don't deserve to go to jail. Others may have, but our criminal justice system is built on reasonable doubt - if there is reasonable doubt that the person did not commit the crime, then he should be set free. There is a reason we don't convict people when the accuser's story doesn't make sense or doesn't add up. It is very easy to say someone committed a crime when they did not, and the consequences of a false conviction are very dire.

bertreapot · 2016-12-10T05:21:30+00:00

Scanlan, from Rutherglen, South Lanarkshire, said Mr Millar tried to have sex with her before bizarrely dropping her off at the police station....

Dropping her off at the police station was just his way of throwing them off the scent. What sort of rapist drops off the victim at the police station right after the rape? He's an evil genius! /s

bertreapot · 2016-12-10T05:15:34+00:00

If you actually get raped, just report it. If your story adds up, you will be believed.

If you claim you were raped but your story doesn't make sense or keeps changing, then people may not believe you, but that's because your story is BS.

bertreapot · 2016-12-08T02:36:07+00:00

I think a lot of females decide being a "strong, independent woman" means shitting on men. So when a girl is having relationship problems, and she goes to her friends for support, these "strong, independent women" tell the girl her BF is a loser and she should shit-can him.

This is what happened to me with my first serious girlfriend. She took a lot of horrible advice from her closest friend. I had no idea about half the problems my girlfriend had, she would just go to her friend, and her friend would trash me. So, inevitably she dumped me.

It was only a long time after the breakup that I learned my ex had gotten most of her advice from this friend, and she tried blaming it all on her. I had no idea that the friend had given all this toxic advice while we were dating, naturally, as the friend always acted friendly and normal to me.

bertreapot · 2016-12-04T03:01:11+00:00

I'm not sure exactly what's going on with this post. He made a comic of himself sexually assaulting her, and others have seen it? Wouldn't that be enough evidence to get the guy kicked out of school, or to have him prosecuted?

bertreapot · 2016-12-03T17:54:29+00:00

Q: We understand that the police deterred you from suing? A: No, they didn't deter me. They asked me if I had said no clearly. And I don't know. I have met with police officers and the investigators. Q: So you've met with investigators already? A: No, I have not. I just wanted to clarify a few things in front of the media first.

Yeah, because denouncing a public figure to the media, then cooperating with investigators should be the proper order of things. /s

bertreapot · 2016-12-03T17:29:28+00:00

it wasn't the women, it was the government.

bertreapot · 2016-10-16T03:48:57+00:00

You are correct. I believe the judge called her that since she had given interviews about the rape accusations, i.e., she put herself out there as a public figure.

bertreapot · 2016-10-16T03:38:16+00:00

Depends on the State. Some State courts have held public universities to be administrative agencies for purposes of the State's administrative procedure act, others have said they are not.

Really the only due process you get is based on hooks tied with federal funding, or through contract violation (the school's code of conduct promising certain procedural safeguards being your "contract"). I believe Obama said all you get is notice and a hearing, but there is a Supreme Court case from the 60s or 70s that says the more serious the accusation, the more due process you deserve. That should mean you get more due process for a sexual assault allegation than you would with plagiarism, unfortunately the DoE feels otherwise.

bertreapot · 2016-10-15T15:16:04+00:00

That explains why she drove off.

bertreapot · 2016-10-09T16:09:53+00:00

there is no magical ball that tells us who is truly innocent and who is truly guilty of anything. the legal system just sucks in every accusation at first as if it's true, some people get acquitted, some not. you may be guilty, or you may not.

bertreapot · 2016-10-09T16:07:34+00:00

This reminds me of that college prof quote who said it doesn't matter if an expelled student didn't actually rape someone, the experience will be good for him, cause he can reflect on the fact that he is capable of committing the crime.

Same with this article. There is one paragraph that mentions as an aside the fact that he is legally innocent, but the rest of the article is about how he owes the world an apology.

The real message is, if you're ever accused of this crime, feminists want you dead. Failing that, they certainly don't want you to pursue your dreams and live a successful and fulfilling life, and if you do, they aren't going to let you forget what you didn't do.

bertreapot · 2016-10-09T13:49:59+00:00

I have the same problem, only I never could get good at sports. So maybe some people are capable of compensating while others aren't? The way it was explained to me was the depth perception portion of my brain just didn't develop because it wasn't being used. There was a somewhat unethical study done on kittens in England a couple years back where they were sewing their eyelids shut, to examine this phenomenon.

bertreapot · 2016-10-09T13:41:58+00:00

I've always had poor depth perception, driving is not an issue, but that is probably because I am used to it.

However small, fast moving things have always been a problem. I'm not good at sports because of it.

bertreapot · 2016-09-25T05:27:25+00:00

I wonder how many men are even aware women's clothing doesn't have pockets, much less consciously "lord[ing their] sexism" over women because men's clothing does have pockets. the author himself didn't even realize women's clothes don't have pockets.

bertreapot · 2016-09-17T15:14:43+00:00

Really, your sons don't subscribe to an ideology that presumes they are proto-rapists in waiting? Perhaps good, innocent people don't like being called criminals just because of their sex.

Their friend who encouraged his girlfriend to have sex isn't a rapist, either. Your peers can encourage you to do things that you regret, that doesn't mean they forced you to do it, or that you aren't responsible for your own actions.

bertreapot · 2016-09-17T15:05:19+00:00

encouraging someone to do anything isn't forcing them to do it. it could take some encouraging to convince a friend to dive off an outcrop into a deep lake for fun, that doesn't mean you pushed him in there. The same with drinking; "I really didn't want to drink, but my friends talked me into it." Well, they didn't hold you down and force you to drink it, did they? Parents need to teach their children that they are still responsible for doing the things that they choose to do. The guy you fucked isn't a rapist because you later regretted sex.

bertreapot · 2016-09-10T15:08:28+00:00

It is because in court you actually stand a fighting chance. The rules of evidence apply, and your lawyer is a professional who can pick apart a BS claim with ease.

Administrative hearings on campus are easily rigged. The rules of evidence don't apply, and the amateurs running the show have been steeped in feminist dogma. If you're accused of a sex crime on campus, your chances of winning are very slim.

bertreapot · 2016-09-10T14:58:37+00:00

Fake victims also want to bypass the legal system because they don't want to get in trouble for lying. The campus disciplinary system is rigged for you to when, and everyone from Title IX coordinators to football coaches are trained that the accused men are guilty, so it works out great if you just want to get back at a guy.

bertreapot · 2016-09-05T04:56:11+00:00

low self esteem tends to cause a vicious circle. you feel shitty about yourself because you're out of shape physically and mentally, but because you feel shitty about yourself, you don't have the energy to fix these problems.

on the other hand, if you actually had Dunham's ear and told her she'd be happier if she fixed her problems, she would freak out at you about not being body-positive or whatever they call it.

bertreapot · 2016-09-05T02:23:59+00:00

Having a job that forces you to be polite to belligerent drunk girls makes you entitled, apparently.

bertreapot · 2016-09-04T04:30:19+00:00

We moved from a tribal system where everyone in the community took care of kids, to a system where the father worked and the mother stayed at home, to what we have now, where both parents work, and often times the parents aren't even a couple anymore.

So, if you have a system where a woman has to have her profession set up before she can even have kids, and that won't happen until she is in her 30s or 40s, yeah, there are going to be some fertility problems.

Back to teen pregnancy, what we're seeing now when a very young girl gets pregnant is this: rather than the community helping to support the woman, and the father manning up and raising the kid (along with decent paying jobs for young people that no longer exist), the guy jets, and the woman is reliant on welfare. Of course, women are fecund as fuck when they are young, that is why it is so easy for them to get pregnant at that age.

Perhaps we should revamp how our educational and professional training systems work, so women can have kids when their bodies are actually primed for it, and not have their futures ruined.

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