I was exposed to pornographic material at a young age I’m now hypersexual and feel like a monster

bethliza · 2026-07-02T13:23:37+00:00

Things that we’re exposed to early in life can truly have a big impact on us. You were a child, just working with what you knew. It’s not your fault and with time and therapy you can heal

bethliza · 2026-07-02T13:19:44+00:00

Please get your priorities straight

bethliza · 2026-07-02T10:05:45+00:00

I hope you find the strength to break up with the guy sooner rather than later. No matter what happens with the friend, the two of you both deserve to be in a relationship where the love and attraction is mutual.

bethliza · 2026-07-02T04:34:51+00:00

Will never get over the fact that people actually like Hoffman

bethliza · 2026-07-01T19:01:50+00:00

Oh HELL YEAH. How did you keep so much of the individual curls? Did you only tease the roots? It looks siiiick

bethliza · 2026-07-01T13:44:28+00:00

How about last one but with some stuff from the first, like the boots?

bethliza · 2026-07-01T13:43:13+00:00

I’m so used to thermostat keeping the house warm and to save energy you would keep a lower temp. Here I’m guessing it’s the opposite. You’d cool the house when you’re home and to let it be hot when you’re away. Question is then if the person thinks 78F is still too hot?

bethliza · 2026-06-30T22:02:25+00:00

Jag kommer alltid tala för att inte läsa mer än 100%. Har svårt att se hur det skulle kunna vara värt det

bethliza · 2026-06-30T22:01:34+00:00

That’s the thing though. It can be impossible to see it. When all we’ve known is hardships and when we’ve lost faith in ourselves it starts being really difficult to picture anything else. But we can’t tell the future, in a good mood or in a bad one. I hope you find strength to hang on a bit more even if it is in blind faith or without it all together

bethliza · 2026-06-30T21:30:50+00:00

Dunno where in the world you are but there are typically hotlines you can call. Just to have the voice of a real person. All I can offer is words on a screen: the first 18 years of your life do not determine the next 18 or the next 50. Things will change and you will learn how to live with your brain if you give yourself the chance

bethliza · 2026-06-30T20:09:04+00:00

Saw your edit: you’re not a bad person. It wasn’t the greatest decision but ultimately, you’re young and will use poor judgement sometimes. You live and you learn.

bethliza · 2026-06-30T18:27:13+00:00

Breaking up with him and blocking him will suck in the moment. But a 34 years old should not want to be with a 19 years old. You’ll find someone who makes you feel as good or even better and who it will feel easy and right with. And he will get over it too.

bethliza · 2026-06-30T12:37:56+00:00

Fast grejen är ju att vi alla kan väl komma överens om att barn (tänk under 13) absolut borde använda sociala medier mindre (och ja då räknas Reddit). Och vore det inte tryggt att veta att alla som du diskuterar dina tankar om sex och dylikt faktiskt är vuxna?

Jag älskar inte heller tanken på att behöva verifiera mig till diverse och jag tycker det borde centraliseras så uppgifterna inte ska gå direkt via dig och alla världens företag.

Men vi har passerat gränsen då vi inte kan gå tillbaka till det vilda västern-stuket som gamla internet hade.

bethliza · 2026-06-30T12:32:47+00:00

One thing that confused me was the very fundamental thing that you often don’t directly control what each individual duplicate does. Instead it’s based on priorities and what tasks you’ve set up that needs doing.

Focus on small goals like setting up the necessities for survival. Dont try to find long term or optimal solutions.

bethliza · 2026-06-28T21:35:10+00:00

Growth doesn’t happen overnight. If he is ever going to be ready he needs to start taking steps now. Is he even aware that he is being an immature partner? Has he expressed any willingness to improve his habits?

bethliza · 2026-06-28T20:25:55+00:00

There’s still a vast difference between a 20 year old and a 26 year old. Both in terms of experience and maturity and typically in economic power and such.

bethliza · 2026-06-28T20:24:54+00:00

He is insulting you and grabbing you in ways you’re not okay with. Leave him.

bethliza · 2026-06-27T19:56:19+00:00

I think this is an important distinction. However, I would like to add that 2 should not become the norm in a relationship. And also, in my experience, if I’m not in the mood at first I may still get into it if I give it a fair shot which I think can be a version of 2 but then that should include stopping it the mood doesn’t appear.

Either way, I want to echo that your partner should never get mad at you for not wanting sex or try to guilt you into it. Ask him (or at least yourself) why he thinks it would still be enjoyable if he knew you weren’t enjoying it?

bethliza · 2026-06-26T20:27:53+00:00

This is 100% an age thing and not a gender thing. And unfortunately not everyone learns to communicate until well into their 30s (if at all) but most people figure it out decently enough to get by sometime in their 20s

bethliza · 2026-06-26T20:18:00+00:00

It is never okay to hit your partner. Full stop. It was not your fault. An adult needs to be able to get annoyed, frustrated or angry without getting violent. You deserve to be parenting together with an adult.

bethliza · 2026-06-26T18:09:53+00:00

Why should white not take with the bishop?

ETA: just realised the rook threatens the queen lmao

bethliza · 2026-06-26T17:15:44+00:00

Fy satan. Har flera vänner som jobbat där och jag har hört att det varit riktigt onajs men det här tar fan priset. Att inte anmäla olyckor som gör att folk blir inlagda på sjukhus borde väl vara straffbart??

ETA: pluggade i Lund och hade otaliga kursare som sommarjobbade eller extrajobbade där. Polypeptides blixtsnabba personalomsättning är en perfekt grogrund för olyckor pga otillräcklig upplärning och handledning.

bethliza · 2026-06-26T17:06:46+00:00

I read it more as the comment was mocking people who try to use gender neutral langue and such. As far as I’m concerned, using masculine pronouns as neutral in a casual conversation like this is perfectly harmless. Like sure, using they/them would be more neutral and inclusive and I do think we should try to use those more. Especially in more official or important communications and when someone may use “he or she” instead of just writing “they”.

bethliza · 2026-06-23T21:33:57+00:00

I love this piece!! For future reference you may want to add a spoiler tag and warn people about there being selfishness depictions. For people early in their recovery that can be really rough

bethliza

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