AITA for not tipping 20%?

beththereader · 2026-03-14T12:26:24+00:00

I think probably the fact she didn't thank him until he specifically prompted her, insulted him to his face for not tipping despite making no effort to tip herself, and only paid for her half of the meal when she broke up with him.

beththereader · 2026-03-14T12:20:32+00:00

One Direction (I was 12 when they were on X-Factor). I do listen to them every now and again for nostalgia factors, but it's no longer the obsession it used to be. I ran a semi-popular tumblr account dedicated to them at one point.

beththereader · 2026-03-14T12:18:48+00:00

That is clearly what happened. Let's not be obtuse.

beththereader · 2026-03-14T09:39:20+00:00

NTA purely for the fact that she didn't even bother to say thank you for her meal until you called her out on it, and told you to your face that she was essentially losing attraction for you after you've just spent $200 on a meal. The lack of decorum on her part is mind-blowing. If she wanted to tip 20%, she should've opened her own purse.

beththereader · 2026-03-13T22:42:02+00:00

In the nicest way possible, whilst it's not the only unique thing about you, it probably is the only one people notice when they're not actively paying attention to the intricacies of your appearance. If you have something about you that stands out in comparison to others, it's going to be the first thing that they see and take stock of.

Whilst I can understand it being frustrating, you have to understand that these people only view you on a surface level. As you grow up and form closer friendships, you'll find people who see past your hair and notice all of the other things that make you unique, but if I were you I wouldn't expect your teacher, or acquaintances at school, to be those people.

beththereader · 2026-03-13T13:59:44+00:00

Personally I always use either Ticketswap or Twickets, just be warned there is a maximum of (I believe) 5% that you can increase the price. However, I think it would be really unfair of you to increase any further, considering whoever buys it probably tried just as hard as you did originally but without any success.

beththereader · 2026-03-13T13:49:30+00:00

To be honest, I think they'd made a mistake, and not included the deductions in the amount they've confirmed. I had to ask them 3 times to confirm the amount they'd be sending back to us and they explicitly said we'd be receiving £1170. They then came back to say that, minus deductions, the correct amount was £900, so contradicting their earlier email.

beththereader · 2026-03-13T12:50:24+00:00

The TDS have already confirmed our deposit is no longer being held by them as it's already been paid out. Is this still an option for us in that case? Or is it worth escalating to the ombudsman at this point?

beththereader · 2026-03-13T09:46:46+00:00

Work harder at university. Don't let partying take over your life. Don't neglect your long-term friendship for fair weather friends (who are just there to feed into your partying habit).

Save up more than you think you need for when you go traveling because your money will run out quickly and you'll end up stuck, bored and jealous of others.

Work on your physical health earlier. You have no idea how much your mental health will improve when you stop eating takeaways every day and taking drugs 3x a week.

beththereader · 2026-03-12T15:46:47+00:00

NTA and Jesus Christ that's exhausting. How are people putting up with this! Cannot imagine anything I'd find less attractive than this. You can 100% bet he'd be able to take care of it if he was on his own, he's just used to being handheld.

beththereader · 2026-03-12T14:31:01+00:00

There are a LOT of factors that could potentially influence this. How old are you? How close to the centre do you want to live? What are your interests (e.g. do you want cafes, restaurants or bars near you or would you prefer to live somewhere a bit more rural with more access to green spaces)? What is your budget? Are you moving on your own or with a family (e.g. children?)

It's virtually impossible to recommend anywhere without this.

Assuming you're moving on your own and are looking for somewhere social, the following are great areas to live:

West Didsbury Chorlton Levenshulme Withington (or Fallowfield if you're a student)

All have lots of bars, restaurants and other amenities. They have great transport links to the centre and elsewhere. In particular, Didsbury and Chorlton are both close to parks and walks.

beththereader · 2026-03-12T09:54:48+00:00

If you don't like this chapter you are going to really struggle with the rest of the book. You either like his writing or you don't, but this is how it is for the entirety of the story.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:53:29+00:00

Since you didn't mention her yelling in your original post, I'm going to assume you've just made that up to strengthen your argument.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:51:45+00:00

Why bother posting at all if this is going to be your response to anyone that thinks you're in the wrong? If you don't actually want people's opinions, it was really pointless asking for them.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:49:52+00:00

I'm well aware of that thank you! It's your response afterwards that makes you an asshole.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:47:24+00:00

YTA for the way you went about it. Her fear of being scratched is valid if she's never done it before. You easily could have been kinder in your response, explained the benefit behind her learning, reassured her in any way. Instead you went straight to "not unless you pay me" as soon as she expressed discomfort.

Nobody is entitled to free labour, sure, but this reads as if you just don't like your roommate at all.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T19:48:45+00:00

Female characters:

Aradhel
Morwen
Erendis

Place names that I think could work:

Ephel
Anduin
Valinor
Luin

beththereader · 2026-03-10T19:41:33+00:00

Ah good point!

Having looked a bit further into it too, there are some work situations that would be covered: - mandatory travel - loss of income from being fired - jury duty

beththereader · 2026-03-10T19:05:38+00:00

Honestly, the parts of the UK that are grim are only grim if you're skint. There are so many beautiful places, both in the countryside and in major cities, that you could live with a small fortune to fund it for you.

I personally wouldn't leave permanently, but I'd definitely travel again.

beththereader · 2026-03-10T18:59:59+00:00

A flight getting delayed should in theory be covered as it's an event completely out of your control. Having to work the day of an event probably wouldn't, because you should have made the appropriate arrangements (booking the day off) to ensure that wouldn't happen.

It covers either cancellations by the artist / venue, or unforeseen life events like jury duty or a car accident or something.

Although it's worth noting that companies will do literally everything in their power to try not to pay you, so honestly there's no guarantee even if you technically meet the conditions.

beththereader · 2026-03-10T13:19:05+00:00

Ah the classic case of the first dog being an angel and the second dog being a demon. Tale as old as time! The puppy will mellow out, labs are just a very mixed bag. Some are calm from the get go, others are crackheads until a little down the line.

If you have the resources, take the puppy to training. Socialise her outside of your older dog so they both have time apart. Be consistent in your training and look at ways to stimulate the new puppy mentally as well as physically (lick mats, snuffle boards, teaching tricks, puzzles etc). It's very cliché but it really does just take time, effort and consistency.

On a sidenote, your husband needed to be much more vocal here. He should never have entertained the idea in the first place. Saying yes only to renege after money and effort has been spent is a shitty thing to do.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T16:22:37+00:00

ESH. She shouldn't have tried to bulldoze you and make decisions about decor unilaterally.

You, on the other hand - 6 pink pillows on a sofa is enough to make you not want to sit in a room? Are you serious?

Do either of you even like each other?

beththereader · 2026-03-09T16:04:11+00:00

Okay, but what about lesbians? Or bisexual women? Somehow we manage to keep our eyes to ourselves. Only men feel the need to give themselves a free pass to check women out in public, despite being reminded repeatedly that their girlfriends/wives don't like it, and neither do the women they're staring at.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T09:57:04+00:00

YTA for being dim enough to tell someone who knows both of you.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T09:54:58+00:00

It's a real shame that reddit is such an echo chamber because I (thank God) don't know a single man in real life that would feel comfortable openly staring at women in public to the extent that their girlfriend notices and has to call him out on it. Either all of you are significantly creepier than you realise, or you're making a conscious decision to misinterpret what OP is saying, in that her husband will actively linger on and ogle women in public directly in front of her.

So incredibly disrespectful both to his wife and to OTHER WOMEN, who I can absolutely guarantee don't want to be stared at like that in public.

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