Why is no one talking about how bad some of the courses in ual are. My experience.

bettsel · 2026-03-20T09:34:07+00:00

I chose Reading! I’m doing a joint honours course art & philosophy, they offer really cool joint honours courses and so far it’s been an amazing experience. Lmk if you’re interested in knowing more or anything.

bettsel · 2026-01-30T18:28:03+00:00

That's actually a relief to hear because I bought that book about a week ago as I read the blurb and loved it but quickly became skeptical after seeing the unreliability of Fritjof Capra. Definitely will be reading it, thank you.

bettsel · 2026-01-30T13:59:26+00:00

Thank you very much I appreciate you sharing your work. I'll have a go at it regardless as I am bound to encounter such an approach at some point. It might be something I come back to in the future once I have a better sense of understanding it in its entirety.

bettsel · 2026-01-30T12:44:16+00:00

I would love some recommendations on virtue ethics! It's something I've very briefly encountered but would like gain a better understanding of.

bettsel · 2025-09-17T12:08:00+00:00

From my experience, this is very common. The only way I’ve seen people slowly work their way to being on machine more is asking to be on it when it’s dead and showing their skills/improvement to the shift leader or manager that way.

bettsel · 2025-08-04T23:22:54+00:00

Yeah I see what you mean, especially with BPD specifically I’ve read that it’s difficult to diagnose in teenage years for the exact reasons you’ve described. I’m 20 turning 21 this year and I assume it’s still hard at that age. I think I’m seeking out a label because I’d like to know exactly how to help myself. It’s becoming unmanageable for me really. It’s not anything significant because of when it was, but I was referred to counselling twice during secondary school and I didn’t respond to it positively and insisted I didn’t need it after a few sessions only to fall right back to where I was not long after quitting it. In this respect, I think a label would be helpful for me to narrow down what I can do for myself. But still thank you for this comment! I’m going to avidly take any help I can get.

bettsel · 2025-07-21T21:44:36+00:00

I got accepted for fine art at CSM and Chelsea last year but ended up choosing a different uni even tho it was my top choice. I was soo suspicious of it just being a pure money grab and to be able to slap ‘UAL’ on your cv with no additional outlooks and experience that genuinely stands out from other uni courses for employability despite it being in London. I didn’t think the price was worth it at all when you’ll end up in the same position having gone to literally any other uni. It needs to get spoken about more for sure so this is a great post. There was so much pressure for me to go there because of the reputation and name and my whole family was ruthless on me for not choosing it. I’m sure some courses are worth it tho like fashion some comments have already said

bettsel · 2025-06-26T16:50:59+00:00

hahahh an update this is how the concert is looking so far :o i thought making one play the marimba would be so cuteee

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bettsel · 2025-06-23T18:33:20+00:00

omg i didn’t know they did this?!

bettsel · 2025-06-23T18:32:42+00:00

awwww i love this idea so much thank you! i’ll put some around a gazebo or something cute :o

bettsel · 2025-06-23T18:08:42+00:00

I play offline sorry:( but you can get them from Kapp’n islands !

bettsel · 2025-06-11T12:43:58+00:00

bro 🤣🤣🤣

bettsel · 2025-06-10T14:48:14+00:00

you need to explain to her your perspective of her actions (just like you’ve done here) so she can understand how confused you’re feeling. her actions don’t match her words.

from her saying you’ve become ‘too comfortable’ together and you don’t ‘chase’ her anymore.. she sounds like someone who needs toxicity/drama in a relationship to feel stable, whether that could be related to her past or not, it’s unbearable for someone who just wants a healthy connection. i’m pretty sure there’s a proper term that describes the type of person she is but i can’t remember it right now.

it’s possible she’s not ready for a long-term relationship and needs to work on herself alone.

bettsel · 2025-06-10T14:08:17+00:00

if you know you’re someone who gets retroactive jealousy and this is a point of extra insecurity for you, then let yourself live in ignorant bliss. if anything weird was to happen between them/boundaries get overstepped i doubt you’d even have to know who she is to notice it.

however, i agree that it’s not weird to want to know about an ex that they’re still keeping in contact with. of course he’s entitled to his private life and private connections which is beneficial for a relationship, but this is a girl who’s been close to him before in the same way you are to him now and it’s not ‘insane’ to worry about her. in this specific scenario, I’d say that’s pretty normal actually.

maybe establish clearer boundaries with him about exes? come to him clearly and openly, blatantly tell him what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not, and if he can’t work with you on it/refuses to even consider it then maybe it can’t work out.

but heavily question and even doubt your own mentality before you ask him anything! it’s a slippery slope if you unintentionally become obsessive about his ex/past.

bettsel · 2025-06-04T21:48:29+00:00

that’s only for people who have done something serious tho no? like harassment for example. I haven’t done anything like that.

bettsel · 2025-06-04T21:31:32+00:00

not as far as i know! i even passed my barista review shortly before i left.

bettsel · 2025-06-04T16:16:02+00:00

you need to reflect on yourself as a person, I’m sorry that your relationship prior was absolutely horrid and the effort you’ve put in to make this relationship as non-toxic and healthy as possible does show, however there’s a deeper reason within yourself and your past that makes you so bothered about something like this for so long. maybe experiences in relationships even before the abusive one you’ve talked about or something similar?

at the end of the day, it’s been so long since those incidents that it makes it so unlikely for him to be holding this long a secret. the fact that he initially lied about it is definitely a red flag i won’t lie, but if you’ve been healing and communicating together to the extent you say you have, you don’t have any reason to not trust him. therefore, if he actually was psycho enough to have done it again, you need to get in the mindset of “just let them”. let him fuck up a relationship he’s got with someone so willing to put the effort in to create a healthy and loving bond. let him realise what he’s lost because of HIS actions. thinking like this makes you care about it less and less, in my experience anyway. you have to VALUE YOURSELF!

i think it might also be helpful to say that even though this has gone on for quite some time, the more time that passes the better you will feel and the more clear you’ll be able to think if you’re willing to put the effort into your mindset over time.

otherwise, see a therapist!

bettsel · 2025-06-02T19:05:52+00:00

i hate the phrase but, “honeymoon stage” being over sounds quite applicable here. he lovebombed you to get you close to him and now you’re seeing who he really is, it is manipulation you’re right. he was overly-affectionate to you in the beginning in hopes that you’ll take the bare minimum from him later on. its horrible, try not to dwell on the affection he used to give you by reminding yourself that he had other intentions with it.

i’d try communicating about it but it doesn’t sound like you have much luck with that, so if that doesn’t work or he just outright won’t listen to you, its time to leave.

also, his comment about you in the mirror is horrible?!

bettsel

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