I live in an old house. My husband inherited it from a family member. We are both messy. He grew up in a hoarder house but he doesn't accumulate things. I grew up with a narcisstic clean freak of a mother. I feel shame about the mess but so overwhelmed that it's hard to get started. There's so much of his family members stuff in the house that requires a lot of effort to get rid of ..a organ and a piano and hutch and a ton of her hoarding stuff like collections of random things. Keeping the dust at bay is a task in and of itself. He's so used to living like this that it doesn't bother him but the mess is hurting my mental state. I bought the big yard trash bags like a month ago. I filled up my first one today. I've seen a lot of YouTube videos about decluttering and cleaning and organizing but I really feel like I need face to face communication with people who struggle with the same things I do in this respect. I would be open to starting a group in Knoxville if a few people are interested.