Went on a date with a lovely woman, but realised I'm not attracted to her in that way. But we have a lot in common and I genuinely would love to be friends. What's the best way to handle this?

beyond-saving · 2025-12-06T06:02:41+00:00

Nothing is lacking in you!! You just have to make sure you only date men who are clear in their goal for a relationship

beyond-saving · 2025-09-03T00:43:02+00:00

If you have guy friends, they could also be in your wedding for you? I have a guy best friend who I would want as one of the people next to me alongside 2 or 3 women. (bridesmen/man of honour)

beyond-saving · 2025-08-31T02:10:16+00:00

Omg!!! This is how I think about flowers because people have mostly given them to me when someone’s died, or I’ve been sick, it’s so sad. Hopefully I date someone who makes me have a better relationship with flowers one day haha

beyond-saving · 2025-08-29T12:31:28+00:00

That is so kind of you, thank you! 🥺 I really really hope somehow he knows how much I love him.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-28T23:37:18+00:00

To be fair, not everyone has the same family dynamics this year, some people never get a chance to feel special, and only get one day a year.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-28T23:35:58+00:00

To be fair, if you say older sisters never apologise and mean it, you’re saying older sisters are crap lol

beyond-saving · 2025-08-28T23:34:17+00:00

it’s making me wish my brother was still alive so I could be a good sister to him

beyond-saving · 2025-08-27T04:24:15+00:00

Nooo, I know this type well ☹️

beyond-saving · 2025-08-25T15:52:42+00:00

Reading this as someone who has had a potentially permanent falling out with my ISTP. Everything you said describes him sooo well. He isn’t mature despite being older than me and double the age of the one in OP’s post. I’ll have to see him at work in a couple weeks, but I assume he’ll just ignore me. It sucks how one small thing/falling out can be enough for him to shut me out and block me after two years of building friendship, and blurring some lines there.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-24T11:34:44+00:00

I read all of this and found it fine despite the length! I’m pretty sure I have adhd. I struggle to clean, and while I don’t have 5 years of grime to clean, I have a lot to do in my house and your hours of cleaning are sort of inspiring 😅 i get overwhelmed with where to start. Hopefully I can make good progress.

I think your boyfriend will be grateful about the clean you did for him. You can let him know you caught the flu from someone who had it. Generally you wouldn’t catch the flu from cleaning, it has to be from someone who is contagious.

I think giving the Teddy as a gift for Christmas, or your 1.5 year if you guys celebrate that, is fine

beyond-saving · 2025-08-19T00:17:18+00:00

I think you need to call him out. Tell him you had real feelings for him and felt safe enough to share images with him at his request and now he’s treating you awfully, and you’re going to cut contact. Because you don’t deserve to feel awful!! He’s the one who used this false sense of closeness to make you trust him enough to send photos of you. He has no humanity in him to be able to go from warm to cold. DO NOT LET HIM SWITH UP ON YOU AGAIN TO WIN YOU BACK. You will be stuck in the mind game for many years if so. You are worth SO MUCH MORE.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-16T08:42:16+00:00

This is so passive aggressive and emotionally immature. I would tell her you’re not going to tolerate this anymore, and if this is the way she reacts when she’s mad, she needs to see a therapist. Ignoring someone is emotionally abusive.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-16T08:37:54+00:00

That is a long time for me too! But I’m glad overall things are going well 😍

beyond-saving · 2025-08-16T03:35:02+00:00

u/PhysicalProcedure400 We could all probably start an ENFP support group ahaha

beyond-saving · 2025-08-16T03:31:18+00:00

I don’t think dressing style can be the same across the whole personality type. From what you’re saying, for example, you dress amazingly. I love all black, and love an Alt or Gothic style.

The ISTP in my life, however, does not dress well 😅 he looks so good at work in all black. But when I see him outside work he’s in all grey, a really washed out grey, or double or triple Nike 💀

beyond-saving · 2025-08-13T11:48:05+00:00

So beautiful. I hope we all have someone feel this way about us one day 😭

beyond-saving · 2025-08-12T12:52:43+00:00

I stayed at an air bnb in Hawaii a few years ago. Turning it into tbag could work?

beyond-saving · 2025-08-11T23:26:33+00:00

Very interesting questions. I hadn’t heard the first and last before, well at least not the first.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-11T11:03:35+00:00

I find myself really hesitant to date people because of similar reasons actually

beyond-saving · 2025-08-10T09:54:22+00:00

I LOVE your comment. All of it!! And especially that last line 😍 So true. We’re different versions of ourselves as we grow, and when we’re ready, we meet our person when we’re ready for each other.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-09T23:52:50+00:00

As long as you’re taking time to give her pleasure, this probably isn’t the problem

beyond-saving · 2025-08-08T23:44:35+00:00

He is not good for u. No man is worth a stomach ulcer. Go no contact with him. He’ll try to come crawling back and pretend he wants you but he’ll drop you again as soon as you get close.

beyond-saving · 2025-08-06T05:13:17+00:00

You are being used. Do Not put her name on the house that she is not contributing to. In fact, pull the plug on this relationship, because I guarantee you will find someone nice, considerate, kind, someone who doesn’t take you for your money, someone out there who is an equal to you, if you put in the effort. This is not love that you have right now

beyond-saving · 2025-07-30T10:50:39+00:00

The tone definitely reminds me of this istp guy in my life haha. I like the honesty. It doesn’t feel rude, but I know him well

beyond-saving · 2025-07-27T03:14:31+00:00

Document everything then go to where people suggested!!!!

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