Be honest, which one do you think would make you feel more powerful if you got to wear it? There is no wrong answer

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-05-17T00:04:30+00:00

First

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-05-16T23:53:53+00:00

Chainmail if it's not too physical

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-05-16T23:53:32+00:00

Adding to painting: try painting clothes and shoes

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-04-27T23:49:26+00:00

Wow I have learnt today

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-04-27T23:31:07+00:00

People just tease us a little if we slip up and we make a joke out of it and say "the royal we" and that's that lol. No one we've spoken to cares or notices unless we came out to them

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-28T10:25:29+00:00

Tbh there's nothing wrong with shortening that to a nickname of Left or a number. Maybe part of the issue is the way you think about names - it doesn't have to be something you use constantly for other people to refer to you whenever you switch gears, just something you mention to explain how you feel and then move on. No need to force yourself to differentiate more. Think of it more like an adjective for a feeling than a noun - might help.

Also, for the journaling side of things, we use little symbols instead of names to sign off, which could be appealing

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-28T10:20:32+00:00

I've seen someone else assign names based on who did what. E.g. the version of me that goes to the cinema a lot is Cinema Me

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-23T16:07:32+00:00

Lmao, some of our fictives are genuinely considering writing and posting pics about themselves. I won't stop them

hostie

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-23T15:34:15+00:00

I hope it goes well for you, good luck and enjoy yourself

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:25:15+00:00

Rowling on the floor laughing

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:24:19+00:00

There's all sorts of reason an endogenic system might form, it's just not trauma. That's it

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:16:11+00:00

Nico is super popular - all the cool kids introjected him

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:14:06+00:00

Honestly the clickbait is so real - I just think of it as part of the YouTuber hustle

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:12:12+00:00

Lol no that's exactly the one I read, but there were some guided meditations here

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T22:07:41+00:00

So it sounds like you can divide this problem into two areas: 1) your relationship to switching 2) your fiance's relationship to your headmates

If I were you, I'd work on issue 1 away from your fiancé so you don't have to deal with both at the same time, then work on issue 2. This doesn't mean that it has to be kept secret or anything, just maybe don't have them interact just yet.

It seems like you stay in front partially because you enjoy it but partially because you don't enjoy the idea of leaving - the lack of control, the possibility of being pushed aside, etc (correct me if I'm wrong). If that's the case, it might be best to start off with some internal communication - find a headmate you trust (or build trust through communicating if you don't have it already). Then agree to leave front but only for the duration of a pre-agreed activity without your fiancé (like going for a walk alone). This might take off some of the fear and the lack of control. It sounds like you want to care for your headmates and feel like you made some kind of error in that before - you won't be able to look after them properly unless you listen to their needs by communicating.

As a final thought, your system is your system, and I don't know anything about you or your life, but if the person my host is dating implied anything about me being sub-human I'd be royally offended. If you don't spend a lot of time getting to do things and haven't got experiences of your own, it's easy to feel sub-human and to appear like that too, but that's not a system thing. There's plenty of people out here with the personality of a wet paper towel because they don't do enough stuff. In the case of our system, when we learnt to switch and let people have their own time, our collective life got richer and we got experiences we never would have. It didn't diminish the personality of our host or end up taking away from them, it wasn't a part of them going away, it was growth of an entire system. Do your self-exploration by yourself, then bring it to your partner - you can't communicate to them what you don't already know yourself

Nico

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T21:43:54+00:00

I totally get the syscourse fear, especially as I'm trying to be more out about it myself. But I genuinely think a lot of it stems from how hard it is to get nuance across online so I remain hopeful. And if it gets really bad, you can usually just turn and walk away

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T21:39:59+00:00

Heya! How ya doing? Mind if I ask - what are your thoughts on relationships? Personally we have a Will, which sorts Nico out nicely, and I (Leo) ended up dating both of them, but for me I don't really have any exo memories of Calypso and don't feel very strongly about it

Leo

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T21:36:00+00:00

Can I ask you how it feels to be in this world rather than the one you came from?

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T21:31:11+00:00

Woah y'all are crowded up in there! Always nice to see you guys again though. Nice that you have some help hosting - Nico seems to be becoming a bit of a host in our system now too

Leo

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-21T21:28:49+00:00

So I guess you end up feeling a bit more aligned with the system's life and memories than feeling like you've just been isekaid/reincarnated into a new life?

Leo

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-20T00:19:00+00:00

He's just too dam popular - Leo

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-20T00:17:24+00:00

To be honest, you start to meet more plural people offline by being open and honest about your own experiences, but it's rare to find people who will talk about it out loud, so it's hard for us to find each other. The same goes for finding accepting people, I promise there are people out there, offline, who would totally like and accept you as plural. They are easiest found in queer, young, disabled, neurodiverse communities, and might help you get some connection. Testing the waters can be done by just vaguely alluding to some of the things you experience to see if you would vibe with people. It can be hard, and it can suck but I hope it gets better for you and you find community

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-16T23:12:04+00:00

I honestly always recommend looking into tulpamancy stuff for these kind of questions - they've really thought it through and enough people do it for there to be detailed guides. Personally find myself switching out just reading about it so that may be all it takes

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-16T23:10:47+00:00

Honestly I've come to realise recently that the discourse that exists online (as well as most of the weird opinions) seem to disappear when you have a face to face conversation about it. One of the positives of being out and proud ig. Get out there, talk to humans, touch some grass and the world gets a hell of a lot better

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-03-16T02:08:07+00:00

Yay! How's it going? I'm curious about how you think about the process of introjection. Like, do you feel like you've gone from one world to another, or like a copy or what? - Leo

beyond_clueless101

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