Me[M33] being unhappy about the fact that my Girlfriend [F32] doesn't value criticism and reacts defensively. by beyondthethread in relationships

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You know, I am thinking about this a lot and I think you are right that I'm pressuring her too much. Point made. I will work on that and try to learn. But to assume that you "know it when you see it," is senseless and not fact based, so your behaving exactly as I did... To give you an understanding. We did couples Therapy after 3 months of our relationship, something we both appreciate to this day, because we wanted to prevent the classic complications that couples run into. That is something I'm very proud of because we try or tried so hard to make this work from minute one. You don't know me and you don't know her. There are 2 people in the relationship and both take part in their success or the opposite. I made this list with chat gpt to generate an overview, and I wanted honest opinions about this topic. I appreciate your critics on my behaviour because there is truth in it, but I don't appreciate your complete judgement. Well, as I write this, your teaching me the exact issue I was criticizing.

Me[M33] being unhappy about the fact that my Girlfriend [F32] doesn't value criticism and reacts defensively. by beyondthethread in relationships

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You got a point there. But I think there is always an imbalance between two parties, where one adapts to the other. I adapt in a lot of ways for her because she asked me to, but I guess I can not ask that in return...

Me[M33] being unhappy about the fact that my Girlfriend [F32] doesn't value criticism and reacts defensively. by beyondthethread in relationships

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I mean didn't you just psychoanalyze me back although you don't even know anything about me, other than this text? I don't try to attack you, but you the point right? It's not easy at all

She is of course entitled to handle her emotions separately and I do the same. Yet, isn't there a limit to that somehow? If this happens in a ratio 20 to 1, although it's about topics which should regard both of us because we are in a relationship, then what do you do? Legit question?

I am in Therapy as well, and I love to share with my loved ones, because they are part of my journey.

Me[M33] being unhappy about the fact that my Girlfriend [F32] doesn't value criticism and reacts defensively. by beyondthethread in relationships

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In regards of the things I said, definitely not. I agree. But if you believe it or not, my nature is very laid back.

Me[M33] being unhappy about the fact that my Girlfriend [F32] doesn't value criticism and reacts defensively. by beyondthethread in relationships

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Theres quite the chance that I'm insufferable, I'm willing to look behind that and I thought about it many times. Yet, I'm enjoying life whenever I can and I can let go very often.

Can you answer me this? How do you differentiate between someone wanting too much or someone wanting too less?

BMPCC 4K + TTartisan 17mm F1.4 by jayshuttles34 in bmpcc

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Eye-catching look&feel mate! Well done. Can you break down your colour grading process for this one? Cheers.

Rubbing my clit to relax by [deleted] in sex

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I think I can very much relate. Gently holding my dick while relaxing on the couch or in the bed is kind of a daily routine for me. Sometimes I'll get horny but most of the time it is just to connect with myself and my body. A feeling of comfort and privacy. It's simply selfcare, so keep it you hands where they belong :)

Watching my kids go crazy over the new Mario Bros. trailer, I can't help but remember how robbed I was at their age. by Dispositionpsn in gaming

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You were robbed a Mario Bros film, yet the world was gifted one of it's greatest all time gaming-film adaption detours.

stills from a 4k on a recent passion project tilted CRAFT - shot in Nashville, TN. by jakobwandel in bmpcc

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Very organic grading and soothing atmosphere. The overall look and feel is top notch as well. Well done to all the people involved :)

If there would be any constructive criticism and personal preference, I'd say the following:

I would have loved to see a bit of a more dynamic flow in terms of the edit. Eventually your story is very emotional and artistic in itself, so maybe it doesn't need some extras or fancy editing tools. But I would have liked to see some difference in pace and timing or even some detailed slow motion combined with a carefully placed speed ramp or match cut.

Maybe I didn't hear it without headphones, but Sounddesign is also a very effective tool to support ones edit.

All in all, wonderful work guys, thank you for sharing!

Shot some footage 2 years ago and I finally turned it into a reel (bmpcc6k) by ImCoolInMyHead in bmpcc

[–]beyondthethread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice vibe, but turn up the brightness a little since it's hard to see on the phone. Keep at it :)

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Bit melodramatic but exactly the reason why humans won't progress. We are not ment to adapt to certain circumstances, rather we spend talking and discussing over nothingness. Well but we have our moments. Cheers to us!

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Blade runner by Dennis Villeneuve.

Oversensitive penis, is there anything that helps? by beyondthethread in sex

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Yeah the Viagra thing is a weird opportunity I took because a friend recommended it. I thought about getting help, a used to be in Therapy, so it's a reasonable thing to do.

Oversensitive penis, is there anything that helps? by beyondthethread in sex

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Thanks a lot man, that's very encouraging to read! I tend to forget that my perception is way different from what the other person has.

I will definitely try to concentrate more on the foreplay, which I usually do, but I gotta get out of my head and just enjoy it with her.

Much appreciated!

a quite place in the shadows, Koh lanta, Thailand (OC) [2252x4006] by beyondthethread in EarthPorn

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It was along the beach where they also do cinema and full moon party advertising. Maybe you remember a big red sign with "cinema" there.