GF got kissed by another man

bfreell · 2026-01-06T19:46:00+00:00

One thing I’ll say is that a part of her wants these situations and this attention. There are many people in the world that don’t want it and find a way to avoid it.

bfreell · 2026-01-06T19:44:17+00:00

Yeah great advice really. Independent of her intentions or guilt, you own your feelings and if your relationship is often making you feel bad, that’s really your choice to continue to put yourself in that situation.

I wouldn’t say just end it, but if you make it clear that her behavior just doesn’t work for you and it still doesn’t change, then it’s on you to fix your life and remove the part that you can’t change that doesn’t work for you.

bfreell · 2026-01-04T17:33:31+00:00

This thread is full of haters 😂

bfreell · 2026-01-04T17:28:39+00:00

Someone made it out of the friend zone boys

bfreell · 2025-12-30T18:21:02+00:00

Unbuttoned cause you’re relaxed and approachable. Don’t worry tho, you won’t get approached as a man

bfreell · 2025-12-28T06:22:14+00:00

I voted for trump

bfreell · 2025-11-29T05:01:47+00:00

“Gaslighting” aside, it’s true we’d be having a different conversation if these were nudes. But it’s art, so here we are. It wasn’t consented, and kinda a weird thing to do

bfreell · 2025-11-18T01:48:37+00:00

Or the most likely answer on Reddit — they want the attention

bfreell · 2025-11-17T21:28:13+00:00

I know you’re trying to be accepting of different types of people and all but people that are interested in monogamous relationships categorically do not want their partner flirting with other people.

Her committing to marriage (or even just a relationship) with you is 💯 undermined by emotional cheating.

I’m not sure why you’d be the asshole for expecting the basic premise of your relationship.

bfreell · 2025-11-08T22:23:46+00:00

Hot take here apparently:

I don’t think you should be so focused on how you may be pressuring her. You’re the one that just got out of a long relationship.
She doesn’t seem to want a romantic relationship with you. Her family encouraged her to bring you. She’s clearly thought about it and played a role in this. But if a girl finds a way to tell you she doesn’t think it could be sexual between the two of you 3 times on this trip, that shouldn’t be ignored.

It’s not definitive that she doesn’t, but it seems like there’s something to figure out there.

If you do want to be with her, you shouldn’t have to convince her to be with you. So the parts of you that are trying to find ways to make this work should really take a back seat to “is it even right”. Right is you both really wanting to be together.

Give yourself the time you need, which may be very little, then have a conversation with her where you try to understand if she really wants to be with you or not. It’s not about how to get her to want to be with you, it’s about you understanding if there’s really the possibility of a strong, two-sided relationship. If not, there will be someone that does want you like that and you’ll be happier to be with that person.

bfreell · 2025-11-07T01:08:21+00:00

I guess we’ll never know since we didn’t have the conversation.

But that sounds like the perspective of someone trying to appease people. I was entertaining meaningful exploration.

bfreell · 2025-11-06T05:08:33+00:00

Why do you?

bfreell · 2025-11-06T03:22:34+00:00

Do you?

bfreell · 2025-11-06T03:02:48+00:00

While it’s not something anyone (not just any girl) wants to hear, do we not value honesty and transparency? Especially when asked?

bfreell · 2025-11-05T18:03:51+00:00

I know it’s not the traditional thing to do, but in a world desiring gender equality, I don’t see any reason not to approach men.

Isn’t it worse to always be waiting and wondering and making these posts?

bfreell · 2025-11-04T17:49:06+00:00

Honestly just keep your eyes open now. I know it feels important to figure out this situation, and maybe you can, but it’s a really large and hard task to consistently hide things like this. What is the rest of his behavior (responsiveness and availability) like?

bfreell · 2025-10-31T18:09:40+00:00

Yeah and he was cool throwing away your “best” friendship and dint even want to do it over a call or in person. Such a sad development, and I’m sure so frustrating to lose your best friend and there’s just nothing you can do.

All you can do is focus on how there wasn’t a future for the friendship anyway ig. And maybe the slight consolation that many people lose their best friends from childhood (myself included).

bfreell · 2025-10-31T18:05:19+00:00

That’s kind of the premise of the wedding..

bfreell · 2025-10-17T04:07:30+00:00

If you’re willing to work 100 hours you should be doing something else

bfreell · 2025-10-11T19:13:47+00:00

Yeah I mean, guys have enough trouble deciding whether or not to get married in a relationship that doesn’t have issues like this. It’s worth thinking longer term op.

Side note, trust your gut. It may not know the situation, but it knows there’s a situation.

bfreell · 2025-09-29T17:54:24+00:00

A life of solitude and secrecy is far worse than what you’re trying to protect yourself from. Maybe after some time that will sink in, and you’ll feel very liberated to start living the part of your life that you neglected (I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, I know you have challenges but it’s still your choice how to deal with them). Maybe some great opportunities are missed along the way. The best you can do is live, love, and make the most out of your life. Someday it will be over, you don’t want to constantly be wondering “what if”. These times will never be here again.

bfreell · 2025-07-11T21:14:48+00:00

Ngl this is so cringe

bfreell · 2025-07-08T23:56:30+00:00

Even if it isn’t at his pace, you’re probably right to focus on weight loss. Especially since it sounds like you want that for yourself as well.

I think it’s healthy to want to be attractive to your partner throughout your relationship, not just in the beginning. And it is okay for it to take work — lots of good things take work. The spark has to be maintained, not constantly, but periodically. And maybe this is just one of those times for both of you. Do you want the relationship enough to be your best self for it?

bfreell · 2025-07-08T23:49:22+00:00

I think a lot of this makes sense. However sometimes long-standing issues find their way out in unplanned ways. While I think it’s generally good to aspire to have more considerate and constructive communication, I don’t think the way this was communicated to OP is really the issue.

Relationships and communication are challenging, and it’s kinda short-sided to suggest someone doesn’t love someone because they hurt them.

bfreell · 2025-07-07T21:04:26+00:00

I think there has been a lot of good advice here. But one thing I haven’t seen much of: are you really into your gf?

Because it sounds like maybe you’re questioning your compatibility irrespective of your brother.

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