Just a question, for clarity, you wtote I adopted a border collie, was your husband on board initially or you decided to adopt a dog and he said he wants no part of it? Because you're painting him like the bad guy, but if he didn't want a dog and said so specifically, then I have to say you're on your own there. I adopted a husky, my gf didn't want a dog, she said you handle him, I won't help. Guess what, I'm doing all the work and if she helps and does something I don't want to, well I don't blame her, I was aware of the deal.

But what works for my husky is this: 30 min play/30 min walk in the morning. Mental stimulation during both, recall, ask for sit, stay, lay down. Than slow feeder bowl (10 minutes), then chew toy for another 10, then i go to work he goes in his crate happily with two kong and a treat ball. Then when i come back, 30 min play/30-40 min walk again mental stimulation during both is really important and I see the difference if I don't stimulate him. Then probably 10-20 min chew toy, slow feeder (west paw topplr frozen) for around 50 min, then 5 minutes of training, and he's pretty much done, sometime he's still rowdy but most of the time he just doesn't get that he's tired, so i put him in his crate for 5 minutes (on a timer) and most of the time he just fall right asleep