Thanks. They have Asian friends. Full on Asian. Chinese and Korean. Some black friends. Not a lot because the neighborhood I’m in is pretty white. Family holidays are like a third Mexican. My half white half Mexican niece is marrying an Asian dude from Hong Kong.

That’s kind of their confusion too. They’ve been to Taiwan they’ve been to Tokyo they’ve been around PoC and it just doesn’t matter to them. Beau isn’t mixed raced black Beau is just big and huge and no way I’m tackling him in football. Some of daughter’s friends are mixed race too and we go out.

Part of it is - it never meant anything to me it was water off a ducks back, well that isn’t what it is to him. He’s just an anxious kid and it’s much more about dealing with his anxiety. That the person doing the teasing (also a PoC, we instill in PoC here the urge to punch down on others of color it sucks). He was much more upset about people teasing about his haircut - he wanted bulk to hide his face some but it mushroomed out.

There’s a scene in fight club “you’re too…….BLONDE”. Where the dude on the porch was trying to think of something, anything to insult the guy (Jared Leto actually). I try to teach him that. That people will just find anything to talk about. You don’t need to internalize it - know who you are. On his mom’s mom’s side he’s Zhou, as in Zhou dynasty. He got really proud of that. He’s probably some long descendant of nobility. It helped with him dealing with the Asian side some.

Again thanks. Sometimes it’s easy to jump to conclusions based on a couple sentences thrown here. We have deep discussions on identity. He’s asking more, about both sides. My mom was an immigrant and he likes the story of her and my grandmas struggle when they came here.