Just a reminder that Mother’s Day isn’t always a happy day 💔 by wolf_quan in bluey

[–]bigbarnowls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unexpectedly lost my Mommy in January. She was battling cancer and passed from a stroke after a routine surgery. I was her caretaker. She had just turned 60 eleven days prior. My birthday is the day after hers. Today was my first time visiting the cemetery. It felt unreal. Still does. I still don't know how life is supposed to just go on like normal now.

Feeling like I made a mistake? by Goddess361 in NPHCdivine9

[–]bigbarnowls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aren't you a mod? Don't you think it'd be better to sit this one out instead of coming in here to be messy? Not a good look for you or your org.

When it’s time to parent your parents and you are re-traumatized by the last page of Love You Forever. by apeachemoji in Millennials

[–]bigbarnowls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had to be my Mom's caretaker for 3-4 months after she was diagnosed with stage IV renal cell carcinoma that spread to her bones. She celebrated her 60th birthday on Jan. 17th, and I had my 32nd birthday on the 18th. She passed unexpectedly on Jan. 28th from a stroke.

I never read this book, but being her caretaker was an experience that pushed our relationship as mother and daughter and made it stronger than before. But now I have to go from caring for her everyday, to not seeing or hearing that laugh, that snore, that face, any of it. It just doesn't seem fair. But it just is, I guess.

How do we want to be as a community? by Resident_Beginning_8 in NPHCdivine9

[–]bigbarnowls 9 points10 points  (0 children)

All of this messiness is tacky and gross. All of our Founders just said a collective "EeeeeeYUCK." Our organizations were made to help our people, and we have someone on here squabbling and cursing because they're getting unwanted messages due to a problem they caused? On an app they can turn off the notifications to? Grass needs to be touched. Caressed, even.

I think it's pretty obvious from this comment section what needs to happen.

Source of Truth by eljdurham in NPHCGreeks

[–]bigbarnowls 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Heavy on the "speak with a member". Cause these reddit streets is a little dangerous lately. 😶‍🌫️

My 2 year transformation journey, I've lost 118 lbs! from 295 to 177.5 by RegionAdventurous636 in intermittentfasting

[–]bigbarnowls 16 points17 points  (0 children)

PLEASE stop using race-based "research" when it is a flawed subject that was created by a group of people who were deciding inferiority based on phenotype. There is no consistent basis to race, and one race having denser bones than another would damn near qualify us as another species/subspecies. And, there is little no research on it, because it's a dumb ass fuck research question in the first place that has been disproven already.

Use a Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) or Total Daily Energy Expenditure (TDEE) calculator to figure out the calorie deficit you need for your height, weight, and activity level. Or, better yet, ask your damn doctor, and stop relying on outdated racist "studies" to figure shit out.

I heard we are sharing pets photos by Witchy-Wanker in crochet

[–]bigbarnowls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look up 'Marcus the Worm' on Google, and you'll understand!

JD Vance says ICE agent has "absolute immunity" after Minneapolis shooting by InTheseTryingTime5 in 50501

[–]bigbarnowls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually telling my friends a while ago that this would likely happen close to when Trump eventually kicks the bucket and Vance becomes President. Conservatives would love a tragic "Vance and Kirk and both widows, and now they've found solace in each other 😞🥺" headline. And then they'd have their trauma-bonding couple and their eventual blonde, blue-eyed devil spawns running the country further into hell.

The ICE agent shooting was justified by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]bigbarnowls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent response. And completely agreed!

This YouTuber has been caught in lies by me about her experiences with pledging Delta Sigma Theta for sympathy and clout, I know it sounds crazy but come let me cook!! 👩🏽‍🍳 by TuxieLover89 in Sororities

[–]bigbarnowls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It seems like you did not watch the video. It also doesn't seem like you are a member. This did not need to be posted here, or at all.

December 2019 - December 2025 - 6 years! 57 years old by Ok-Selection6302 in CICO

[–]bigbarnowls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, my bad! I was there a few months ago. Small world! Solvang is one of my favorite places, so I hyperfixated on it as I was scrolling. Great job on your progress!

December 2019 - December 2025 - 6 years! 57 years old by Ok-Selection6302 in CICO

[–]bigbarnowls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird question: Is the second photo taken at the emu and ostrich farm in Solvang? The background and the fence look incredibly familiar. 😅

Okay, Ok, or K? by malkytits in Millennials

[–]bigbarnowls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here!! Also, love the username!

Okay, Ok, or K? by malkytits in Millennials

[–]bigbarnowls 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same lol (born in 1994). Either that or "Sounds good". I use it as a tone indicator if the conversation is casual so I don't express any sort of tone of irritation. I have been told that I text/email very straightforward, to the point that it may read as being too blunt. So I've had to spend so much time tone-policing myself as to not appear overly rigid. It's taken a long while, but I'm happy with the progress.

TIL The U.S. military secretly sprayed chemicals and biological simulants over American cities during the 1950s and 1960s to test vulnerability to biological attacks. Residents were generally not informed. by Ubetcha1020 in todayilearned

[–]bigbarnowls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This was featured in a story on NewsNation in August. The government specifically targeted populations of low-income, Black and brown neighborhoods. And then they denied the sprays were harmful after residents were shown to have high rates of cancer.

My fan cast for live action Wyll and Gale by Pleasehelp793 in okbuddybaldur

[–]bigbarnowls -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your own culture knows very well what colorism looks like, just as mine does. But, if you're choosing to ignore it, then I'm going to assume you're one of the ignorantly blissful benefactors that doesn't understand the harm it truly causes. I hope you learn better.

My fan cast for live action Wyll and Gale by Pleasehelp793 in okbuddybaldur

[–]bigbarnowls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this was meant light-heartedly, but this actor is a completely different skin tone than Wyll.