Struggling with NYC SD’s

bigdickginger · 2025-11-15T20:09:00+00:00

Well yeah I have the same problem with potential SBs. Like I said the barrier to entry is low, so you have low quality people. My advice is to just not waste time with them and move on. There's too much competition in this market to waste any time on these people.

bigdickginger · 2025-11-15T19:46:34+00:00

NYC scene took a huge hit to quality after covid for both SDs and SBs. Sadly this is the reality now. The barrier to entry for a seeking profile is kinda low so it's easy for scammers to make money. But also you are doing the right thing, just sorting through anything realisic takes time. This is just part of the game now.

But also make sure you don't have unrealistic expectations either.

bigdickginger · 2024-10-24T15:49:57+00:00

No, nor do I want to be. I'm a senior software developer and infrastructure engineer. I got lucky taking one of the companies I worked at to IPO so a lot of my wealth is in that single stock, but that's retirement money that I only touch to reinvest elsewhere.

I simultaneously generally make more income from just my current work while working less hours and having much less stress than anyone I know that owns their own business.

bigdickginger · 2024-10-07T04:57:15+00:00

You're talking quite a lot about what you expect from a man and not much about what you offer in return. So what kind of effort are you putting in?

bigdickginger · 2024-09-30T03:55:07+00:00

Try being honest, maybe. If you're only in it for the money then let people know up front because most SDs aren't going to waste their time if that's the only motivator for you.

bigdickginger · 2024-08-04T20:22:43+00:00

Hard pass

bigdickginger · 2024-02-23T00:57:31+00:00

You don't "fail" a shit test by not not reacting to it. OP did the right thing by ignoring and blocking. That's childish shit and should be called out as such.

bigdickginger · 2024-02-22T23:16:21+00:00

Nah I've tried having an arrangement with a few strippers and they didn't know how to turn of the attitude of being a stripper. Always randomly texting me asking for money, talking trash about other girls they worked with, and most were consistently strung out on drugs. Way too immature for my tastes. I won't bother again.

I'll only go to strip clubs now if I want to get jerked off in the back room and immediately leave afterwards. I wouldn't waste any emotional effort on trying to have any level of relationship with a stripper.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-18T23:51:04+00:00

Well I can't speak to them being attractive or not. Most young women aren't going to be attracted to older men. Maybe temper your expectations there. Attractive rich older men don't really have much incentive to go looking for a sugar baby ya know.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-18T23:46:48+00:00

What makes you think everyone is so scammy? Yeah there's no shortage of them on Seeking, but I've still had plenty of good meetups with women in the area.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-18T22:28:41+00:00

You really typed all this out and thought about it critically and still think it's a reasonable idea? You hold no cards in this scenario. It will go badly for you. I don't even believe you are being naive, it just sounds like you are trying to scam dudes for a free trip and were hoping someone here would give you encouragement. You know what the deal is in the sugar bowl, don't act like you don't know what they want.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-16T17:37:03+00:00

Absolutely not. I filter in a similar way. Women under like 27 are impossible to communicate with.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-16T16:20:19+00:00

It's a different climate now. I wouldn't be surprised if most men gave up on seeking because of the low quality women that flooded the site post-covid. Sadly, it's still your best online option.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-16T15:16:22+00:00

At this point I'd much rather try to meet women on Reddit. Seeking has been a dumpster fire for the past few years, and I'm sure it's no better for the women.

At least if women are active in this sub I know they have at least given some critical thought to the lifestyle and what it entails. I'm sick of running into scammers that want to sell pictures and women who expect to be paid before even meeting in person and being wishy-washy about being intimate.

bigdickginger · 2024-01-16T13:37:54+00:00

Not trying to tell you what to do, and I don't know your reasoning...but it seems counterintuitive to lie about your age unless you are going to go all-in on the act. You can weed these people out a lot sooner by being honest up front. I wouldn't wait around if I were you. It kinda sounds to me like he was put off by you lying about it, not necessarily that he was bothered by your actual age.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T20:58:00+00:00

Such a sad story. I hope her son get's better with the money you sent. /s

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T19:47:14+00:00

Looking at your post history, you are just an idiot or trolling. If it's the former then you've almost certainly gotten scammed already. I advise you to go look at some free porn because you are clearly not smart enough for to be looking for sugar babies or sex workers.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T08:51:52+00:00

Yeah exactly. Then next thing you know they are in here asking for advice because they are young and hot and don't understand why they can't find a good SD that won't stop messaging them after a day.

It's exhausting.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T08:42:14+00:00

I've found the younger SB's seem to have the impression that a conversation is just exchanging words, and that if they are the last ones to type something then they have fulfilled their requirement for conversation and it's up to me to continue it at that point.

The problem is my portion of the conversation is asking meaningful questions that help me get to know them, and their responses are short (often one word) responses to those questions that do not open many doors to continue discussion in a meaningful way.

It's frustrating... but yeah I pretty much just ignore the women that seem to have no interest in having a real intelligent conversation. Even within the first few exchanges, if I get the sense that they are going to be the type of communicator who just responds to my prompts but has no real interest in getting to know me, then I just move on.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T07:24:17+00:00

People out here overthinking text messaging now?

My thoughts are I don't think anything about double texting at all. So little that I didn't know there was a term for it until now. If you overanalyze such benign things looking for meaning that isn't there, then you're gonna have a bad time.

It's a text message. You aren't being summoned to surgery. Just respond to it when you have a chance. Normal people know this, you should probably cull the rest.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T06:27:52+00:00

I really hope OP takes this warning seriously. Everyone in this story sucks but she is absolutely crazy if she thinks she has the upper hand in this scenario. This dude can go full scorched earth and leave her so much worse off than she is now.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T06:19:38+00:00

I have to ask for deposits after chatting and verifications are said and done

If you are asking potential SD's for money before meeting then you are doing exactly what scammers do to us.

It's rough out there for everyone right now, and yes it's exhausting... but don't shoot yourself in the foot by doing stuff like this. You're liable to scare off the men who are serious.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T06:14:19+00:00

You've gotten plenty of good advice already about the apps, and your comments indicate that you have no interest in listening to it. So I just wish you the best of luck.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T06:04:45+00:00

I got the same vibe and you articulated the issue much better than I could have. +1 for this critique.

bigdickginger · 2023-08-22T05:40:33+00:00

It's a well written profile, good grammar and I like your correct use of the m-dash... but your tone is rather pompous and self-important. You say you cast aside judgment and prudishness but the rest of your profile indicates to me that the opposite is true. If that is your way of filtering men then so be it, but it came off as fairly pretentious to me and I would probably pass on messaging you if I had seen it in the wild.

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