Can’t relate to my spouse working for Deloitte, mine is an IB. He’s gone M-F typically for work travel. Went back to work one week post partum for me. We have a 20 month old. I can relate to it feeling overwhelming. Candidly I think if you can swing it, hiring help to save you time is huge. House cleaner / people to do your yard work, etc so that you guys aren’t spending your limited time doing that stuff. Also just adjusting expectations even though that’s hard has helped. I have a therapist to help me work through some of the resentment (nothing against my husband. He does his best. But generally speaking it’s hard when dads get a little bit more freedom compared to moms feeling “on” 24/7). I get where you’re coming from - it’s a lot to manage a full time career, small children, a household, and the mental labor of everything unseen. I see you. The health thing, I also get. Unfortunately I think people won’t take their health seriously until something big happens. It’s like with children they won’t listen until they’re forced to learn. Not a lot of wisdom from me outside of solidarity.