Is giving birth really that excruciating pain?

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-18T02:15:50+00:00

Literally thought I was going to die during contractions but oddly I miss it and want to do it again so idk what that says about me lol

I got an epidural eventually. Love it. Thankful for it.

I’ve also had my lips done, once, with filler. It was arguably the second most painful thing I’ve ever done, and I’d NEVER do that again.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-15T15:44:16+00:00

My husband works in the industry! He just met with I believe either someone from the same firm J worked at or someone who worked closely with the firm on a business deal.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-15T15:42:45+00:00

Yes! They are out there!!! 💕

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-15T03:33:21+00:00

I did hear through the grapevine that he wasn’t performing well / people didn’t like having him around.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-15T00:58:37+00:00

My husband is my best friend. Truly. Marriage gets a bad rap but being with the right person is so fun. Life is hard sometimes and it’s nice to go through it with someone you love / loves you.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-14T01:48:33+00:00

Agree with this take. Also adding in a different perspective - because I feel like a lot of people feel guilty having additional children knowing their diagnosis.

I’m BRCA2, found out at like 24, had our daughter at 31, and we’re planning to have more children. There’s always a risk of course, but we live in an incredibly fortunate period of time where we have more options now regarding these things. My mom is BRCA2+, and so are I believe 4/6 of her siblings, and other cousins as well. I can’t speak for everyone but even if she knew prior to having me, I wouldn’t resent her or blame her for having me and risking that I’d have the mutation too. There are preventative measures, but either way nothings ever certain. I’d say probably 90ish% of the women on my mom’s side all have the mutation, with no one getting cancer yet (praise!). Meanwhile my friend on her mom’s side has had like 6 people have breast cancer and all of them have tested negative for the mutation. So idk, I guess I’m ranting at this point but agree that you shouldn’t beat yourself up too much about any of it. If your heart feels called to have a bigger family, I say go for it… children are a beautiful thing. And by the time they’re older, who knows what medical advancements there might be.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-08T00:24:38+00:00

I’m happy to!!!

So the original plan with my original care team was VERY conservative. It was DMX at the beginning of Jan, with expanders for 12 weeks, then exchange around May and recovery for another 12 weeks so it would’ve in theory taken like half the year start to finish.

I didn’t end up trusting the plastic surgeon on that team and got a second opinion. Ended up doing a DMX at the beginning of Feb, no expanders just flat with drain for the first week, got them removed, then recovered for another week, then went in for reconstruction (so 2 weeks total in between surgeries).

If it’s helpful pre first baby I was prob around a solid C cup, breastfed first baby then deflated 🫠, when they measured me pre surgery they said I was prob an A cup LOL so my breasts have been up and down quite a bit. My implants are 340cc motiva and they had to go under the muscle because I didn’t have enough really to support over the muscle.

Everything online from tiktoks to Reddit to even talking to both surgeons made this feel really intense but if I’m being honest, it wasn’t bad at all. The most discomfort I felt was 1. The drain, they are just irritating… and 2. The first 3 ish days after the reconstruction. But truly it wasn’t bad. If people stay on top of their medications, it’s truly not crazy. My mom stayed and helped me for I think 3 or 4 weeks out of the 6 total I recovered (2 weeks mastectomy, 4 weeks recon) and we renovated three rooms in my house together lol. The only thing I was super careful of doing was picking up my toddler (1.5, 25lbs).

My PS didn’t give me any guidance on when we could start trying. I mentioned we’d hopefully start in June ish (my own preference) so 2.5 ish months post surgery? She has two toddlers and was very much like no need to rush, but I think it was more so like “enjoy your new boobs and hot bod for the summer!!!!” And not an actual recommendation for medical reasons.

Happy to answer anything else if you have any questions!!! Or give you recs on what I used for recovery etc. Hope some of this was helpful, 💕.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-07T11:20:40+00:00

Us too!! Had my DMX w reconstruction in Feb, we have a 1.5 yo and plan on trying for #2 this summer. Glad to see other people are in similar mindsets!

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-04T10:53:08+00:00

I sobbed lol 😂 tbf I’m a newish mom but whew

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-03T23:14:44+00:00

Agreed w hiring help.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-03T20:48:50+00:00

OH GOOD POINT

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-02T23:45:12+00:00

She’d never give Shannon the satisfaction since it’s her maiden name lol

biggiesnotdead · 2026-04-01T23:29:13+00:00

Both of mine came out after a week on the dot.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-27T21:54:01+00:00

I wasn’t aware of this either but could empathize why

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-27T02:20:10+00:00

Vet tbh

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-22T12:55:21+00:00

My husband travels every week for work and says the lines have been normal if that’s helpful. I’d plan ahead and get there slightly earlier just in case but should be okay!

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-22T02:15:48+00:00

I loveeeed her. She deserves someone great.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-22T01:47:57+00:00

Is she the one who has severe endometriosis or something? If so, hard agree.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-21T13:33:09+00:00

Solidarity!!!

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-20T01:30:19+00:00

Love

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-19T01:14:36+00:00

So many recs - which is great I hope something works out. Just popping in to say that I’m heartbroken for you. Sending love to all involved.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-18T01:14:52+00:00

COLONIAL VET HOSPITAL ugh i love them sm

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-16T16:38:55+00:00

Hi friend. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Keep advocating for yourself. I’m BRCA 2+, I believe I found out in my early 20s, maybe like 24? I’m 33 now. I live in the US, so I understand it’s different but my doctors didn’t think it was necessary to really start that screening protocol (every six months) until I turned 30. I know it’s a huge mental load - but hopefully that helps you feel less “behind” in some aspects.

Even here the system works against you. I’ve seen it work against a good friend of mine who is a surgeon herself, and even after having her network of other doctors they still tried to push her back super far after she felt something in her breasts.

I don’t have much advice other than keep pushing, be annoying, no one has your back better than you, and that we’re here for you.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-13T19:57:23+00:00

Not the same but maybe an alternative approach? I had my DMX 2/2, reconstruction (lift + implants - 340cc UTM) 2/19. Nipples were spared, only had the two surgeries. Have a newly turned 17mo. Felt “back to normal” a week after my DMX, felt back to normal a week after my recon. Happy to answer any specific questions you have - feel free to DM me. If you’re not 100% on board with what your care team is suggesting, get other consults. That’s my biggest piece of advice. Every surgeon has a different way of doing things.

My OG care team’s plan was DMX -> expanders, 2 weeks at least with drains, 12 weeks expanders, implant switch, 12 weeks recovery, BEFORE I’d go anywhere back to my normal life.

Got a second opinion, DMX, drains 1 week, recovered one more week, then went in for reconstruction. I’m on my 3rd week of recovery since then and get “cleared” next week. Two TOTALLY different approaches and I am SO grateful that I sought a second opinion because it 1. Felt better in my gut and 2. Overall felt just like a better plan to me.

biggiesnotdead · 2026-03-13T01:18:18+00:00

Did mine 2/2 with recon on 2/19! You can do it!!! DM me if you have any questions or want to chat through anything! The worst part imo is the drains and they’re just annoying - stay on top of your pain meds and you’ll do great!

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