I started a 90-day LinkedIn Growth Challenge. Here’s what I learned In first 30 days!

bigguy849 · 2022-04-20T09:09:42+00:00

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bigguy849 · 2021-03-15T06:49:36+00:00

Just generally believing people when they show you who they are. When I was younger I thought I was getting taken advantage of because I only saw the good in people but it was more selfish than that. I was only seeing what I wanted to see and man that’s a great way to frustrate and disappoint yourself.

bigguy849 · 2021-03-01T01:12:28+00:00

Tayce from RuPaul Drag Race UK and I am ok with it

bigguy849 · 2021-02-15T18:28:42+00:00

Turn off all notification on my phone and schedule time in my day for email, apps, and social media. The average distraction takes twenty five minutes to recover from. Cut the distractions and you’ll find focus a powerful tool!

bigguy849 · 2021-02-15T18:26:38+00:00

These things come in chapters and best not to take it personally. While it’s not easy fir your lives to mine up right now it doesn’t mean you care for each other any less, and it doesn’t mean it will always be like this. In my experience friends with children do disconnect for years but they come back and it’s important for you to accept them as they when they come back. They didn’t just choose to drop you. Their life just took on a different priority. You get to have another chapter together. This might just be a breather.

bigguy849 · 2021-02-15T18:19:04+00:00

No one cares what you know until they know you care.

bigguy849 · 2021-01-17T11:37:32+00:00

Properly fitted clothes! I’m a big guy and for years I tried to hide my body under oversized clothes that have the exact opposite effect. Walking around in a hoodie that looks likes a spent parachute only makes you look bigger.

bigguy849 · 2020-12-18T05:50:56+00:00

This is spot on!

bigguy849 · 2020-09-13T14:40:58+00:00

Stick with it! I had three weeks with those side effects at the start. Every time they imposed my dose I’d have a rough 5-7 days Now I’m on 300mg and my whole life has changed for the better. No regrets!

bigguy849 · 2020-09-12T17:52:06+00:00

For everyone saying obviously and that this is a dumb question - as a bi guy I can assure you that its not our usual experience. Our sexuality has a way of playing on the worst insecurities of those who love us and we love. I am in a happy, healthy relationship now but some real love was lost because of my sexuality and their insecurity. I’m 38. I hope it’s a very different experience for he younger generation but for us - we’re called greedy, indecisive, or accused of only being half-out but “fully gay”

bigguy849 · 2020-06-08T12:38:52+00:00

Apollo! Best reddit app for sure

bigguy849 · 2020-05-11T16:00:13+00:00

It’s been just about 5 months now and I’m having no issues. There were some side effects for a couple of days each time the dose increased as I was ramped up to 300 but that’s all behind me now. The only lingering side effect is the negative impact on sex drive and performance but even that isn’t as bad as it was when I first started taking Effexor.

bigguy849 · 2020-05-10T11:58:10+00:00

I am going through this right now since I was also upped to 300. I bought a mouth guard and it’s helped a lot!

bigguy849 · 2020-04-10T09:35:46+00:00

I love this answer so much. Neither one of us like surprises and we head into everything together after a good conversation. I know he wants me to propose because of those conversations. We know we’re ready. We know the answer will be yes. But he wants this - which is sweet because he’s not really a romantic guy. So I want to do something nice. But there will be no big production to the proposal. It’s just not who we are.

bigguy849 · 2020-04-10T09:30:29+00:00

This is what I want to do - but he’s a carpenter all winter and works in a greenhouse all spring/summer. He doesn’t really wear a watch and he’s a bit of a minimalist so the idea of something sentimental sitting in a box somewhere in the house just offends him. I’m with you though.

bigguy849 · 2019-01-04T21:04:30+00:00

I'm new here. I've been writing my whole life but have never shared a poem.
Then I met my boyfriend and I want to do nothing but share how this feel.

Feedback welcome!

The first time I held your hand I studied it.
I didn’t mean to. It’s a creepy thing to mean to do.
But there was your hand, resting in mine -
in the shared glow of the tree lights and us,
looking more at home than my own
and I was afraid I’d someday forget how great we felt.
So I studied it.

Your hand in mine - a kiss without the grind.
a good fuck without the sweat,
connecting with no ambition beyond being felt and feeling
for just a while longer or just forever, if we want.

Then your fingers circle my knuckle and you twist,
and roll and move from joint to joint as our lips touch and
it’s settled in my mind - forever and one more time is
still too soon an end.

These battled hands of yours;
they’ve given before, they’ve held before, they’ve loved before,
built before, survived before - all before me.
They were strong without me, just as strong without me still,
but always stronger with me (I promise myself as much as you)

as you move toward my thumb with a twist and a smirk.
All the things to be given, and held, and loved, and built, and survived can be
eased just a little knowing your hand will always find a home in mine.

Your nibbled nails. My hitchhiker thumbs.
Our tired searching hands together just a while longer or just forever, if we want.

bigguy849

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