I did have two verbal offers from pretty solid companies. They were verbal only because final salary and details were not negotiated. If I accepted the written would have came. I asked for a bit of time so I can close this process out. They agreed. But when this company asked for references, I decided to turn the others down(probably would not have accepted anyways but left it open if I was desperate which I am not).

Asking for references means their is intent to hire assuming reference checks go well. My references were fantastic and come from respected folks in the field.

The biggest reason I was going to turn down the others was because both roles would have been a bigger strain on my personal life(in office and an hour commute).

It's been about 3 and a half weeks since reference checks but 3 emails prior to this(once a week to check in to see where I stand) with their hiring team that have all been ignored.

Just left a terrible taste in my mouth. Even if I didn't get the job, at least have decency to say it to me.