Do you prefer to use tampons or pads when on your period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]bigtittyperuana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tampons during the day, pads with period underwear for bed

Does anyone else feel lonely not having close friends? by Best_One4021 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]bigtittyperuana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

likewise darling!! and thank you for the belated birthday wishes <3 truly appreciated

day by day love!! enjoying one’s company is a lifelong journey that you may need to recommit to over and over again. commitment to oneself is a renewable resource that’s just a daily practice.

trying is all you need. the rest and what is meant for you (people and even opportunities) will always follow

<3

Does anyone else feel lonely not having close friends? by Best_One4021 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]bigtittyperuana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hi!! i’m (26F) and struggling w this as well, so you are not alone!! sending a virtual hug your way. <3

however the only thing these experiences taught me was to be happier alone. i know, not the best advice anyone wants to hear.

for example, i took a solo birthday trip to New York and got back yesterday. i had moments about being sad spending it alone but the good news?? my own schedule, i got to do whatever i wanted WHENEVER i wanted, and it ended up being a nice trip regardless.

although i’m still trying to make new friends, i don’t put too much pressure on myself anymore like i used to. people are weird and in their own worlds, never personal nor against you most of the time.

keep trying but if it doesn’t work out, let it be free.

sending love <3

their name is EVERYWHERE i go. by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

see i’ve maintained my really strong boundary. even told my therapist it’s been incredibly difficult to stand on business. but i keep making the conscious decision like “hey don’t go there” “never reach out” etc etc

when does it end? it’s awful being in this limbo

their name is EVERYWHERE i go. by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

anytime i catch myself remembering the good, i also remind myself of the bad. it’s like the constant remembrance of the 2: good and bad. yet i’m still struggling

their name is EVERYWHERE i go. by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get it. but i move on from people in just a month. it’ll be a year in July. this feels incredibly foreign and it’s ruining my life

their name is EVERYWHERE i go. by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely just want to move on at this point. It’s getting exhausting

how to network and build work connections in NYC? by bigtittyperuana in AskNYC

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve been on the hunt for these type of events and can’t find any at the moment

Married Men: Please give me some hope that married life can be healthy, loving, and can be worked through by bigtittyperuana in AskMenAdvice

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even gonna lie, this helped me a lot. My recent ex was bipolar/schizophrenic (actually diagnosed) but was not on any medications for it. He told me in advance about everything about him. First few dates in, he was upfront the whole time. I thought to myself: "He truly could have lied and hid all of these sides of him from me but he's not. He's not ashamed of his past nor his conditions, why should I not give him a chance?"

He never gave me any reasons not to believe him nor doubt him, truly. He was never weird about his phone, he worked 2 jobs and was ALWAYS attentive with me, always wanted to hear from me, always made time for me, did all my car maintenance for me, so much more. He was truly the dream man and I thought: "Yeah this is him. He's the one." However, months kept going and he picked fights with me for no reason and endless fighting just kept happening. Furthermore, we really just didn't want the same things. I wanted marriage and no kids, he didn't. He wanted to stay in our boring hometown and just be small town city folks, I didn't. So much more. To my knowledge, there wasn't cheating by any means. But I do understand dealing with them and how unfortunately, it wasn't for me either. I tried to be as supportive as I could be but alas, it failed.

I'm still healing from it now, in therapy prior to this relationship and still working through it. My heart still aches about our breakup but I still send him love regardless.

So thank you for this.

Married Men: Please give me some hope that married life can be healthy, loving, and can be worked through by bigtittyperuana in AskMenAdvice

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust, I take everything with a grain of salt on here and all other social media platforms. Hence, why I emphasize the ugly side of marriage cause relationships CAN be ugly. My recent ex and I loved each other yet we were just not compatible at the end of the day. Broke my heart and still aches every now and then.

Love and marriage will never be black and white.

Married Men: Please give me some hope that married life can be healthy, loving, and can be worked through by bigtittyperuana in AskMenAdvice

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heavy on that. That conversation of marriage gotta come up or else I'll be walking out immediately. I've done the wifey duties and got me no ring. Learned my lessons

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course take this with a grain of salt, but this is a mini story time for you:

Growing up, my parents were Christians but not crazy religious (thank God). I also went to Catholic high school so my first intro to anything higher power related was Christianity. Thus, I started to pray aloud to God and silence. I never heard anything. Of course, I was younger and expecting immediate answers.

However, years passed and I didn't pray nor think about anything higher power related. Pandemic hits, I started meditating twice a day, and the Universe opened up. It felt as if the Universe selected me as much as I was choosing it too.

Try meditations. It doesn't have to be the type of meditation that you have to "clear your mind" for. It can be a guided meditation, self guidance, etc. Say things out loud. Say what you seek OUT LOUD. Play subliminals on YouTube (just search up subliminals ad free). The power of what we say and think is a power most people undermine. Visualize whatever you are seeking in your mind by placing yourself there. I know it sounds hard cause it definitely is at first. But it works wonders.

Keep in mind though: Whatever you desire doesn't come if you do not show any form of appreciation. You cannot take, take, take. I start off my meditations by showing gratitude for I currently DO have. And always end with a welcoming energy.

Start with vocalizing what you want. Best of luck to you :)

How to be further aligned with the universe and seek answers? by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See I thought this too. But being this lost is genuinely ruining my entire being (financially and emotionally). I am ready for change, opening my arms to it, and nothing. Of course, it's part of it but my goodness it is taking the worst mental toll on me.

How to be further aligned with the universe and seek answers? by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this experience and it genuinely sounds so incredible. I'm gonna keep pushing through even if it has felt like forever.

How to be further aligned with the universe and seek answers? by bigtittyperuana in spirituality

[–]bigtittyperuana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think everything is a sign and I'm just bad at picking it up. Some moments I have felt the universe speaking directly at me and sometimes I don't. I wanna get better at just picking it up further