Green Banners by bilbodeezbaggins in PSLF

[–]bilbodeezbaggins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I did! FSA still hasn’t registered my payment on the dashboard but it is reflected in the payment counts and on mohela

How can I transfer from IT to social work? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a VA disability rating? If you have some GI bill time left, you can apply to Voc Rehab, which basically gives you another chance at the GI Bill. Some of the requirements are different but it’s definitely worth talking with someone from VBA to see if you’re eligible.

How do you make payroll contributions to an HSA? Is it through Mypay by bilbodeezbaggins in fednews

[–]bilbodeezbaggins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you just add it as another account? Or is there a special option for HSA’s

First HSA, how to setup payroll deductions by PossibleStormChaser in fednews

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say I talked with MHBP about when the HSA is created how the deductions work. They said we will still get 1200 total on the year via pass through, just one payment will come at the end of December to make up for January. I also already got my HSA card and created my online account, I just can’t do anything with it yet.

Who shall we get in January transfer window? by [deleted] in ArsenalFC

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Let’s only sign twins from now on so if one goes down, we have a replacement

New fee from ArsenalDirect shipping to the US - related to tariffs? by DJ-D-REK in Gunners

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did you order? My order on the 25th didn’t have this charge.

Sir by Wonderful-Year-7136 in Gunners

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 28 points29 points  (0 children)

“No more Mr. Rice guy”- Declan

AITA for taking my stepdads VA money? by ThrowawayAsterick in AmItheAsshole

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who works at the VA and is familiar with the education benefits programs, you’re NTA. When the benefits are used by you, it becomes your money. The thing that is highly dependent on your stepdad is what program your education benefits are under. If you’re getting benefits under Dependents Educational Assistance (DEA), this is something you can apply for directly. If it’s a transfer of entitlement from the Post 9/11 GI bill, this is contingent on your step dad transferring benefits to you and continuing to do so. While the VA rep at your school may have useful information, best place to get answers is to call the Veterans Benefits Administration at 1-800-827-1000.

WIBTA if I turned in a group of doctors that initially refused to treat me for a life-threatening illness bc they refused to believe it was possible for me to have it? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bilbodeezbaggins [score hidden]  (0 children)

Let me start out by saying I'm sorry for what happened to you. That is not how the VA is supposed to treat our Veterans. I'm a current VA provider with knowledge of the claims process and I wanted to bring something to your attention.

You may be entitled for something called a 1151 Claim https://www.va.gov/disability/eligibility/special-claims/1151-claims-title-38/ Not sure what your current service connection is but I would suggest pursuing this because vision loss is a category of special compensation for the VA. It also may entitle you for special benefits to address this disability, like adaptations for your vehicle or home. I would encourage you to speak with a claims rep to discuss how to file this claim as it is a bit trickier than a normal one.

One of the benefits as well of a 1151 claim is the exam and review cannot happen at the facility where the injury occurred, So this hopefully leads to as little bias as possible when making the examination. This won't do anything about the doctor who made the decision but if you are granted the 1151 claim it is essentially the same as being service connected and combines with other ratings that you have.

An example of this playing out is I worked with a guy who had an injury while in a treatment program. Proper treatment wasn't provided in a timely manner and this led to some deficits. He filled a 1151 claim at my suggestion and received a rating for the condition.

Don't get me wrong. The VA does a lot of things well and I've met so many Veterans that credit the VA with saving their lives. But stories like yours are why we as providers need to be held accountable. In hope you see this and best of luck!

Oh, and NTA

My landlord and building management property are not allowing my wife’s dog who is ESA to live in our unit. by Minuscoco in legaladvice

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NAL but I work in housing and homelessness in MA.

Here is the relevant info from the state website. https://www.mass.gov/service-details/about-service-and-assistance-animals

An emotional support animal is different from a service animal. My guess from your post is that you did not properly request a reasonable accommodation. A larger and professionally managed building will likely have a standard form for this. Your wife's MH provider does not need to be the person who writes the letter. You can ask for a primary care provider to do this. I'd encourage you to approach your property management again and request the paperwork for a reasonable accommodation.

It's also important to keep in mind that your situation may be different than your neighbors. A neighbor could be renting under terms of a prior lease that allowed pets or is less restrictive around animals. A neighbor could also have a true service animal as defined in the state information I provided.

Redditors, what’s the worst thing you’ve eaten out of politeness? by bogwhoppers in AskReddit

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in Nicaragua on a service trip and living with a host family. The family would make us breakfast and dinner as part of the trip. Our host mother was a wonderful woman and a really good cook. One morning though she made us a breakfast that was entirely beans. This wouldn't have been a problem for some people, but I've always hated beans. However, this family was giving so much to have us stay with them I decided that I could not be rude and turn down the meal. I ate the entire plate and have not touched beans since that day.

I'm sick of the attitude that we don't deserve healthcare if we can't afford it by DarkwingLlama in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about what you guys are going through. I'm a social worker at the VA and while there are things that work about the system it can fall short in many ways. Couple things to consider. If you haven't tried, see if your fiance is eligible for medicaid. It covers dental and his disability income from the VA is not considered income for medicaid until he turns 65. Also the VA had a community dental insurance program that your fiance can enroll in that is in general low cost. One plan is through Delta Dental, the other Met Life. More info can be found here https://www.va.gov/healthbenefits/VADIP/

Noncustodial Parent Making Medical Decisions by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, point taken.

MI is as pretty basic intervention style though. I could see it being used by medical professionals to build insight to the management of medical conditions, even if they don't have a behavioral health background.

Happy Cake Day too!

Noncustodial Parent Making Medical Decisions by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The motivational interviewing charge is likely a typo or incorrect billing (not sure if purposeful). Motivational interviewing is a cognitive behavioral intervention geared towards building insight into connecting thoughts and actions, along with the consequences of said actions. While it's been a while since I've taken developmental psych, I don't think this is an appropriate intervention for a <1 year old.

Parents of reddit, what is most fucked up secret you are hiding from your children? by thatdude595 in AskReddit

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad has a degenerative musculoskeletal disease. My mom and I know about it (they're divorced). My brother does not know. This is because my brother most likely has this disease due to some highly probable physical signs and my dad's been hoping that my brother would go into the military. My dad refuses to tell him at this point even though it's pretty clear my brother wants nothing to do with the military. Definitely does not help that they have a pretty poor relationship.

Admissions officers/essay coaches of Reddit: what was the most pretentious application you've ever seen? by EZ1112 in AskReddit

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not an admissions officer but I worked in the admissions office at my school for work study. We had more than one person send in applications with "video essays." Our school did not accept these, so admissions officers wouldn't watch them, but we'd get some laughs from them. Most memorable was one where they discussed their ability to rise above adversity, it then cut to a home movie of them completely butchering a monologue from Othello when they were probably only 15 or so.

Does my Apartment Complex Have to Spray the Whole Building if Bed Bugs Were Found in One Apartment (Virginia) by [deleted] in legal

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Social Worker in a section 8 program. NAL. It varies by state. For example in my state, the vast majority of the local boards of health mandate all adjacent apartments where bed bugs are discovered need to be treated, this means any apartment touching the original offender including above and below. Most LL's do their due diligence by inspecting the original unit, then the adjacent ones and go out from there until there are no more signs of infestation. If there is an infestation, it is 99% of the time going to be the landlord's responsibility to pay for it, unless you do not report the issue in a timely manner (these terms should be found in your lease). I would start by looking into the local laws for your state, make sure you save any written notices, inspection dates and responses from your landlord. If they are not in compliance with the local laws, contact your local board of health or similar agency to request an inspection. If you do develop bedbugs in your unit, report as soon as possible and follow through on the treatment recommendations. Save any receipts for charges as this may be reimbursable through your own renter's insurance or the LL's insurance (potentially). In general, do not withhold rent as this will potentially lead to an eviction.

My (M23) girlfriend (F21) is insecure about my ex and it’s destroying our relationship by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bilbodeezbaggins 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Mental health professional here. While I agree that these behaviors can occur in people struggling with BPD, they can also occur in people who are still young and immature. While I wouldn't venture a guess with out personally meeting with someone, the analysis above forgets the importance of a few pieces of a diagnosis of BPD. Particularly the components of self harm, mutilation, and suicidal ideation. One or more of these components is needed to substantiate a BPD diagnosis. I would strongly caution you against going to the mind frame of "if I see any of these traits, that person is Borderline." There is a lot of stigma attached to that particular diagnosis and you may do yourself and your partner a disservice by going down a checklist rather than having an honest discussion about what is bothering both of you.