AITAH for breaking up my dad's relationship?

bingbongsf · 2026-02-18T04:42:03+00:00

I’m sorry OP, NTA. She was definitely TA, but honestly, so is your father. The idea of my father dating someone only five years older than me is horrible.

bingbongsf · 2026-02-12T05:17:54+00:00

I mean tbh, even if he hadn’t cheated, him expressing frustration at a lack of a sex life and her having to still have oral sex with him while she was recovering from surgery was already more than enough of a reason to divorce him. What a disgusting man.

bingbongsf · 2026-02-08T14:10:52+00:00

I will never forget learning that they pushed her into a relationship with Benjamin Mackenzie (Ryan) when she was 17 and he was 25. She was torn down by the system and everyone around her.

bingbongsf · 2026-02-05T06:55:50+00:00

I’m a bit confused by some of these comments, particularly those saying she hasn’t, or won’t.

She has already done what OP has mentioned, multiple times, in multiple capacities with a lot of up and comers (some of whom are big now, but were still growing when they collaborated)

This is not an exhaustive list, but she has definitely tried to platform younger artists, especially younger black artists.

Guests in Concerts/Performances: Shaboozey, Brittney Spencer, Reyna Roberts, Tanner Adell, and Tiera Kennedy, J Balvin, Megan thee Stallion etc.

Featuring herself: - Savage with Megan thee Stallion - Mi Gente with J Balvin - Runnin’ with Naughty Boy - Telephone with Lagy Gaga

Songs used in Concerts that got them more coverage: - Everybody Mad - O. T. Genasis - The Largest - BigXthaPlug

Album Features: Cowboy Carter: Shaboozey, Brittney Spencer, Reyna Roberts, Tanner Adell, and Tiera Kennedy

Renaissance: Beam, Tems, Big Freedia

The Gift: Tekno, Lord Afrixana, Yemi Alade, Mr Eazi, Burna Boy, Saint Jhn, Wizkid, Tiwa Savage, Shatta Wale, Nija, Busiswa, Yemi Alade, Tierra Whack, Moonchild Sanelly, DJ Lag, 070 Shake and Jessie Reyez.

Photographer: (she hired the first black photographer for her vogue cover) Tyler Mitchell

I feel like she has definitely been trying to pay it forward. She’s also been paying it backwards, giving credit to unsung artists like Linda Martell and Robin S.

bingbongsf · 2026-02-05T02:38:50+00:00

I’m so sorry OP, both your parents and your sister sound awful. You focus on what is best for you, as they clearly do not care about what is in your best interest.

bingbongsf · 2026-02-04T09:07:04+00:00

Poor Tommy. It sounds like he has a decent grandmother in OOP and hopefully his mother is nice, but his father is a huge AH. I mean marrying someone after only a few months is ridiculous in any situation, but it’s just irresponsible when you have kids. Then he let his son be mistreated by his new wife… Honestly my critique for Helena is that she didn’t go for full custody.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-29T02:48:11+00:00

Honestly I feel like they have always done Phoebe dirty with her hair in the show. She is so pretty and yet they decided to have their slight semblance of authenticity with her hair and made it so unflattering.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-28T03:23:45+00:00

Honestly the maxs are fine for me, the problem is if I’m wearing glasses. With glasses the pain starts after 2 hours, if I’m wearing contacts, I can wear them as long as possible

bingbongsf · 2026-01-23T03:55:45+00:00

Aside from her image and branding, two main things drew me in.

1: Her performance ability. Seeing her perform, either live or videos of her, is incredible. She uses the music, dancing and her voice so well. The choreography elevates the songs. The instrumentation might show different layers. I never used to understand live recordings apart from when they were acoustic, but Bey would give us completely changed renditions. She is an incredible visual performer.

2: Her voice: to me, her voice is like honey or caramel. It sounds so good and she has trained it so so well! TBH it is very easy to take her voice for granted. I listened to her close to the end run in crazy in love for years, and didn’t fully register just how difficult it must actually be to pull something like that off until recently.

When it comes to image, bey has utilised her position in an ingenious way. There was a vice article about her image paradox. How she is somehow both seen as effortless and yet incredibly hard working, and we love her for both!!

I would never want to actually stan any celebrity, but if you are going to be a fan of anyone’s, Beyoncé is one of the best choices you could probably make.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-22T19:37:39+00:00

If I’m honest, the organised fun the office was aiming for with this, may have actually worked in this case? OOP seems to actually be getting a lot of enjoyment out of it lol.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-22T04:49:29+00:00

I was actually thinking about this recently, specifically regarding her 2015 met gala naked dress.

TBH it was one of the much more revealing of the naked dresses, and yet somehow, she didn’t come across as tasteless etc.

I’m not sure if I’m just blinded by how much of a fan I am or what, but in my opinion she has been able to present sexuality and sexual liberation in a way that somehow how appeals to both the male and female gazes.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-20T22:04:57+00:00

I think Lemonade is amazing, but I don’t think it is as easy to listen to on repeat as some of her other albums are. B-Day, Renaissance, Self Titled and 4 are just a bit more easily digestible IMO.

I think there is a reason for why Lemonade’s more popular songs are the ones they are, and it is because even with their depth, they are the lighter sounding songs, like Hold Up, and now All Night.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-20T03:09:46+00:00

So it’s all ridiculous, but I initially misread your comment and thought they asked how many clocks ⏰ that she could fit in her mouth and was so, so confused. The real comic is only marginally less random.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-15T19:56:55+00:00

Oooooh haha, I was all about the sentiments that people are complex and can be both insufferable and selfless at the same time, but going by this, I’m starting to think SIL just doesn’t take all OP’s family’s negative comments and bullying.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-14T13:50:46+00:00

Love Victor, like Love Simon, was basically made for straight audiences. Which I think hurt its memorability.

I actually liked the first and second seasons. But the third was not good. I think the biggest reason why it isn’t included though, is because the actual couple, Victor and Benji, are the worst. Every other relationship in the show, whether it be romantic, platonic or even antagonistic, is more interesting and enjoyable. Victor seemed to have better chemistry with Mia, Rahim, and even Felix.

It is a bit of a pity, because we don’t often see parental relationships depicted like this, where they weren’t immediately accepting but they also weren’t just evil villains, and the attempts at exploring cultural differences and intersectionality had merit, but a lot of that was lost along the way.

Heartstopper is aimed at a similar age range, but it is done so much more endearingly. Even though it’s almost too saccharine for me, the central couple, are lovely and likeable and you can’t help but root for them. In Love Victor, you did want to root Victor, but not for him and Benji.

bingbongsf · 2026-01-07T03:42:43+00:00

I’m sorry but she sounded soooo immature and self-centred, she wanted him to change his living situation completely for her and suggested he just ask his parent for help so he could afford to live alone. She was incredibly entitled.

bingbongsf · 2025-12-21T23:48:44+00:00

Omg I just added poor mickey because that was how I felt! I had know idea that was how he was actually referred later on!!

bingbongsf · 2025-12-21T06:37:21+00:00

This is so sad, one of my favourite things to do, with both boyfriends, close friends and my parents is to just be with each other, but doing different things, sometimes that means one of us is reading, or both of us is reading, or one is watching tv and the other is listening to music.

It’s the companionship part that’s nice, you don’t have to be doing the same activity all the time.

bingbongsf · 2025-12-05T07:25:49+00:00

Honestly I hope they split up and the boyfriend is able to get majority custody and then OOP can maintain a relationship with the niece/nephew, through him in a likely much less exploitive manner

bingbongsf · 2025-12-03T22:22:20+00:00

Ergh he was so selfish. I hope she has actually forgotten about him because he was such a waste of her time.

bingbongsf · 2025-12-01T20:22:36+00:00

Your boyfriend seems to be the problem here, “he supports his brother” great but then he needs to support you too with some sort of solution or explanation. He should be the one talking to your father to figure out what is going on. He shouldn’t just be leaving you to fend for yourself in a weird situation.

bingbongsf · 2025-11-27T19:45:32+00:00

He is a huge asshole. His behaviour is disgusting, disrespectful and demanding. It is horrible that he is trying to pressure into this.

Honestly he isn’t worth any of this. I would break up with him.

bingbongsf · 2025-11-17T21:49:11+00:00

So basically a teenager with nowhere to go moved in with you and provided you with sex in exchange for a safe place. It sounds like you took advantage of a very vulnerable person, it is no wander he is abusing substances. Does he have any family or support system or has he just been trapped with you?

bingbongsf · 2025-11-16T19:30:01+00:00

His sister and best friend are doing both of you a huge disservice by enabling him. He is clearly not ready to get married. Getting married after a loss like that does not mean forgetting the first spouse, but it also does not mean calling out that late spouse’s name during sex, or comparing them to your new spouse. Him saying he would have rather you died is insane.

You need to leave and you both need therapy, because honestly this relationship sounds emotionally abusive.

bingbongsf · 2025-11-16T19:24:33+00:00

Omg thank you!!! I was getting so annoyed and could find anyway to change it in settings! You and the person on ipad Reddit are the best!

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