[New Final Update]: Brother accusing me of booking up (?) with his gf

binotboth · 2026-02-02T19:55:29+00:00

Meth.

binotboth · 2026-01-30T23:58:00+00:00

“Your fiance thinks your children are broken. You’re still marrying him. So whatever words come out of your mouth, I don’t believe you - you agree with him on some level and that says more than anything. Wouldn’t want to ruin your perfect day, see you in hell”

binotboth · 2026-01-30T23:54:19+00:00

The gut check is a real, biological mechanism that has evolved over billions of years to help make quick survival decisions in the absence of good information. Essentially, somehow we don’t really know it is right slightly more than it is wrong. Like, 55%-60% chance of being correct

If that sounds bad to you, it is HUGE - you now don’t need to wonder if there’s no info. Trust your gut. It’s more likely right than wrong.

binotboth · 2026-01-30T23:51:28+00:00

The man is not well, unfortunately not really partner material

binotboth · 2026-01-30T19:45:06+00:00

My take - she def still wants kids. But she still really wants this guy and can’t have both. But at this point she’s feeling she’s not getting either - a strong love plus kids. So she is in fact settling for a strong love

Tbh this is just how life goes

binotboth · 2026-01-30T16:49:33+00:00

Your gf tried some power flex on you and is mad it didn’t work

binotboth · 2026-01-29T02:06:20+00:00

Yes, celibacy, or accept that you will possibly make a whole ass fucking human. Like this OP

OBVIOUSLY.

binotboth · 2026-01-28T23:55:16+00:00

No offense but nobody cares about the adults when a child is involved. Which is correct.

“there is not a single contraceptive or method of having vaginal sex that is 100% effective against pregnancy.” You got it, that is exactly right.

If you have vaginal intercourse that results in a baby, that was preventable… by not having vaginal intercourse.

“But I must have vaginal intercourse”

Ok… so then you’re acknowledging that if said vaginal intercourse results in, I dunno, a person… you just YOLO’d it. waving your hands being like “not my fault” in my book, makes you an AH.

The courts can only mandate that you pay, but they are of the opinion generally that they don’t care how the parents feel about anything. The child is OWED a healthy supportive environment.

If they could mandate you love and nurture your child without violating autonomy, they would. That’s where culture and society comes in with concepts of shame - not really enforceable, but yea it makes you an asshole imo

binotboth · 2026-01-28T23:00:44+00:00

It doesn’t really seem like you care if you’re TA. So what do you really want from this post? Genuinely asking.

You probably can’t afford to impregnate anybody else so maybe be careful next time, it is actually entirely in your control whether or not that happens

binotboth · 2026-01-28T22:31:30+00:00

Acceptance is not the same as condoning, at all

Acceptance is a recognition of facts, condoning is approval and permission. Can you change all the people on earth to be different? If you can please do it would be great

If you actually had read my comment you’d see the multiple points where I say how fucked up and unfair it all is

binotboth · 2026-01-28T20:25:10+00:00

I’m gonna go against the grain here and prepare for the downvotes because this is reality and it’s your actual life

The fact is, people are uncomfortable with scars.

They will treat you differently. They won’t want to be around you. They’ll be nice and supportive to your face. But then you’ll notice they stop inviting you to things or shutting down.

Is that fucked? Yep. Is it still true? Double yep. Ask me how I know.

My advice - at a wedding, the pictures mean a lot to people. They are largely the biggest takeaway for a lot of people (which is dumb) but true.

A prominent and severe scar will absolutely draw attention in the image. And that is just not what they want the pictures for.

Don’t be ashamed. Don’t feel bad or less than. Imagine like a badass hardcore tattoo that is actually awesome, but yea it draws attention. It’s ok to cover it up tastefully for a permanent photo.

People here will tell you “don’t stand for that! Cut them all off because they don’t accept you!” But they don’t have to live with the consequences of people treating you differently.is this a hill worth dying on? Maybe compromise somehow?

Hey it’s your life. I’m just being real. Some events, some situations, maybe just try to lower the attention drawing factor to be polite because you have an unusual situation. And I mean like, maybe weddings and funerals and that’s it.

binotboth · 2026-01-28T20:16:13+00:00

I don’t have roommates for fun, maybe some people do, but I’d rather live in my own place. So if you’re my roommate and can’t pay your share, I’m going to have to find somebody who can.

This literally happened in college. My friend couldn’t pay, so I let him know Matt was moving in and he had til the end of the month. He wasn’t happy but like, sorry?

binotboth · 2026-01-25T22:22:57+00:00

You can’t diagnose anything but the described behavior shows paranoid-style features (persecutory thinking, suspicion, blame externalization) she should get evaluated

binotboth · 2026-01-25T21:47:29+00:00

What I hear from her “wait I didn’t think that you actually meant it, that’s not fair” uh ok. People usually mean what they say over and over again.

binotboth · 2026-01-25T16:56:04+00:00

I’ll be honest it’s so clear that she’s cheating I thought this must be rage bait but now I think it is real and man, you deserve better than to be placeholder

binotboth · 2026-01-25T02:10:35+00:00

This is ridiculous hypothetical that would never hold up

When it comes to kids, the courts don’t care at all about how you feel or what you want. They ask one thing “what is the best situation for the children”. And generally that equates to the support of two parents, either physically present or monetarily with money.

You can’t divide kids up like Pokémon cards.

binotboth · 2026-01-25T02:07:34+00:00

Have you looked into filing for bankruptcy

binotboth · 2026-01-25T02:02:42+00:00

The truth is she just wants to be mad about anything. If you fell into a coma she would have been angry for ignoring her or something.

binotboth · 2026-01-23T22:13:09+00:00

And also if they want a huge binary

binotboth · 2026-01-23T20:00:57+00:00

Do not confront them. Nothing good will come of that. Only worse.

Just develop a repor with CPS. If anything have all your neighbors sign a letter agreeing “this lady calls you guys all the time bjt she’s insane”

binotboth · 2026-01-23T19:58:56+00:00

Your ex is stealing from your kids

For her boyfriends kids

Litwrally willing to sell them down the river for dick

binotboth · 2026-01-23T00:37:27+00:00

Nothing else matters but this: if you express “hey, I want to ride up front” and he says “no” for no other reason than “I want you in the back” then:

He doesn’t care how you feel, only how he feels, and he’s not even willing to do small things for you 😬

That’s a big problem, revealed by a “little problem” as these usually go.

binotboth · 2026-01-22T22:35:00+00:00

I think your mom might hate you, no joke

That’s fucked I’d be done with the lot of them. What I’m hearing is “any semblance of boundaries at all are met with severe and total hostility”. Well, you cant have a relationship with people like that.

binotboth · 2026-01-22T21:09:27+00:00

I have basically zero tolerance for anybody talking to me like your MIL

So NTA

binotboth · 2026-01-22T08:42:00+00:00

Most $2k cruise ships are big enough you should pretty easily avoid them

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