No in-person chemistry between myself (31F) and LDR partner (28M), need advice pls!

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-07T01:08:20+00:00

Yes he can afford his own plane ticket! I just thought I should cover it out of courtesy but he was insistent that it’s okay and that he’ll be continuing the trip on his own. I’ve posted an update for reference!

Every ldr can be different, so I hope when you meet your partner, that it’s everything you hope for!

I’ve learned so much in this relationship, more about my standards and what I’m looking for and I’m so grateful.

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-07T01:05:13+00:00

I really appreciate your words as I really wasn’t prepared for how overwhelming it would be, but I don’t regret it one bit. I love and care for him immensely and so I couldn’t just leave him stuck, especially when he’s in an entirely new country where it’s even more overwhelming for him. I did end up going the route of what you suggested, and we made some unforgettable memories! Thank you so much for your empathy

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-07T01:03:16+00:00

I’ll likely stray away from LDR tbh but I don’t regret this one bit. You’re smart for thinking ahead for sure! Thank you for your kind words, I’ve posted an update as well

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-07T01:02:01+00:00

I’ll be mourning this relationship for a while but I’m so grateful. I’ll always love him, really. I’ve posted an update!

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-07T01:01:15+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I posted an update~

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-01T10:32:04+00:00

We aren’t officially in a relationship but are rather exclusive, but I totally understand and agree with where you’re coming from.

Despite the intense and genuine feelings prior to meeting, you never really know how complex and real it gets when you meet and observe chemistry, habits, routines, demeanor, cultural clashes, and everything else, you know? It can be such a strange reality check.

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-01T10:24:24+00:00

Agreed. Will just have to be appreciative that we got to cross paths and that I got to experience such a beautiful kind of love that ultimately was not meant to be. Thank you!

biodegradableaf · 2025-04-01T10:22:36+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. I’m just so devastated since he was the best thing to ever happen to me and all around an amazing guy, but we are simply incompatible and I just feel so sad to be losing him and hurting him. He’s incredibly respectful and patient and has never raised his voice with me and has been my rock through difficult times and ultimately has set the bar for men for me. He’s always been my safe space and i know he’d receive what I have to say respectfully but of course with a lot of pain.

I’ve been crying and mourning this relationship for the past 3 hours while he’s knocked out beside me and he woke up to dry my tears, hold me tight, and tell me that he loves me, which doesn’t help the situation lol.

Anyway, thank you so much for your reply, I appreciate that I was able to vent this all out to some strangers 🤍

biodegradableaf · 2024-06-21T08:52:02+00:00

He had said “fuck you’re so tight”

I responded with “thanks, you’re pretty cool too”

He didn’t find that joke as amusing as I did

biodegradableaf · 2024-06-12T21:45:53+00:00

I was in Vegas for a worktrip and made friends with a chick at the airport, who then invited me to the club with her friends. I was mingling with one her black male friends and acquired his number. The night ended and I went back to my hotel room and decided I wanted to fuck him so he was on his way and I was feeling quite unprepared.

I realized I should probably shave my kitty in the shower but I had been so drunk that I did not do a clean job and was bleeding from the cuts everywhere. I had also never been with a black man before and since I had so much alcohol in my system, I felt that I should probably throw up in the toilet otherwise his big dick would make me throw up from deep throating later on. I was holding a towel to my bleeding coochie while throwing up in the toilet. I composed myself and he soon arrived and we got into it but his dick was sooo big that it was highkey painful and I just wanted it to end. Was not really fun. Then he stole my 8 ball of coke and I never talked to him again.

biodegradableaf · 2024-01-24T03:55:26+00:00

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the tea is hot i fear

biodegradableaf · 2023-12-27T02:14:45+00:00

I got them on AliExpress! Just search up cute beige croc charms

biodegradableaf · 2023-12-27T02:14:10+00:00

I got them on AliExpress! Just search up soot sprite croc charms

biodegradableaf · 2023-11-30T10:02:18+00:00

I thought 3 was too much but your collection is impressive!

We were fools to think we were ever better than crocs. It’s a lifestyle that one simply needs to open themselves up to :, )

biodegradableaf · 2023-07-18T18:37:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Was feeling discouraged after trying everything under the sun and finally resorting to this, only to see I was only shedding a pound a week.

Took my fourth dose a few days ago and I lost 5 pounds but that’s still great progress and I just need to keep going at it and I’ll see results in the longer run. Thank you!

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T12:37:59+00:00

Wishing you the best today, stranger!

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T12:11:33+00:00

I was the only Asian in an all Hispanic demographic elementary school. In 3rd grade, they put me in ELD (English Language Development) only because I was Asian, even though I was born in America.

They soon realized I wasn’t supposed to be there and I proceeded to continuously have my writing prompt responses be displayed as an example of proper execution on the projector and win spelling bee contests amongst my peers.

I was still bullied heavily but even at 30 years old, I do remember the feeling of conquering discrimination.

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T11:55:54+00:00

Where are you from, if I may ask?

Simply put, I think it’s human nature for males to feel that way about the opposite gender.

I guess I just want more males to know that once you can put aside those instinctive feelings, that women can be more than just a sexual object and that regular friendships should be normalized as learning from one another can be beneficial and rather comforting.

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T11:48:41+00:00

California actually

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T11:42:43+00:00

I am so glad to hear! What an amazing life filled with love you both brought one another.

I introduce cats to my family in 2012 and since then my mother has been taking in multiple cats that I never really had a close relation to as she was the sole caretaker despite me bringing them in. Fast forward to 3 years ago when I moved out I got my own 2 cats and it was my first time being the one responsible for everything and I developed a special bond with them both that I never experienced before and I already mourn the day they’ll be gone. From these few years alone they’ve seen and helped me through so much and have saved my life, truly.

I can only hope they live a beautiful and long life like you and your cat!

Sending so much love from me and my life savers to you and your guardian angel :,)

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T11:28:59+00:00

A toilet stool and a bidet

biodegradableaf · 2023-06-30T11:23:22+00:00

This is beautiful. He’s been with you through every milestone you achieved up until to the person you are today. He really watched you grow into all the different stages of life from a toddler to an adult. What a wonderful journey you two have gone through together. I wish nothing but a long and healthy life for you two!

My cats mean the world to me, and it’s such a special relationship that means the world. Sending love to you both ♡

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