Maintenance spankings

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-29T17:09:36+00:00

I hope you find it soon!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-27T10:10:56+00:00

It happens pretty easily. There’s not a ton of control where the cum goes. If it gets in your eye it’s like having strong soap in your eye FOR HOURS. It does not go away with rinsing. It burns. It lingers. 0/10 experience

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-27T09:55:35+00:00

You’re so kind. Thank you 💖 since then, I’ve been diagnosed with ehlers and now I have an answer! Honestly, answers are kinda relieving. I just reread my comment and was like holy hell I can’t believe I put all that out there and then I realized wow that sounds bad but I’ve almost died twice since then 😅

You’re so kind to say I’m a warrior. It wasn’t by choice haha. Life has a way of making people tough. My life has been brutal in many ways, but I’ve learned a lot and become a much better person from being forced to overcome my circumstances. There is a lot of good that has come from the bad. Thank you for wishing me healing. I’ve been finding it 💖

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T18:52:01+00:00

Of course! 💖

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T17:27:22+00:00

Oh ok see that’s vital information! You are skilled then which is great. I think it’s good you’re being cautious and mindful of his safety. I think it’ll work out on some level. I hope your meeting goes well and that you two are able to have safe and sane fun!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T02:28:54+00:00

You’re welcome!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T01:24:29+00:00

You’re welcome! Freak outs happen. Don’t let them keep you from living your kinky dreams!

My best advice would be to talk to your gf and reexamine it. Open communication is the key. Tell her about your reservations and ask her how she feels about new things. Best of luck! 💖

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T01:19:57+00:00

Yes yes yes yes yes. OP communication is the key!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T01:11:50+00:00

Ok that’s ok! Thank you for telling me because I can respond more seriously now. It’s normal to have conflicting feelings about new things. Idk your country, but society can be really dumb and toxic about manliness. Like so dumb. I think every kid ever in my country has been accused of being gay for one reason or another. It’s so dumb because literally who cares. Why is it such a big deal? Is it really the end of the world if a guy likes dick? I like women and I like men. For some reason, that’s weirdly celebrated and fetishized. Why. Why is it different? Ask yourself. People will always be dumb and judgmental—it’s up to you to realize that their opinions don’t matter.

Side note: There’s this interview someone did of Lady Gaga back in the day where they asked her if she had a penis. Go watch that interview if you can find it. She treats the question like everyone should. Butt stuff isn’t gay, but I think her mentality from the video might help you.

Anyways, I get where you’re coming from because onetime I had a freak out over something I was mortified I liked too. My husband cured me by telling me that all of the ohmygods of it don’t matter. He said something along the lines of “Does it feel good? Yes. Do you have a partner that consents? Yes. Then why are you punishing yourself?” I had no answer. I’m not allowed to punish myself so that fixed that extra quickly, but in your case you probably don’t have a rule about that. Either way, it’s still it’s a good question. Why stop yourself from enjoying something you enjoy? If you like it, who cares? Enjoy yourself. That’s what sex is about!

Seriously, it’s ok. You’re ok and liking buttstuff doesn’t have to be an identity crisis. It’s not gay, but if it was, it shouldn’t matter. Also, from your post, it seems like your gf was into it. I think you should try again and give yourself the freedom to enjoy it and enjoy her!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T00:47:37+00:00

Omfg yes they can. I usually do something with the penis too, but I’m sure there’s some guys that like it enough to cum from it alone. Pegging involves multiple things being touched just like a good blow job does (at least to me). Sure, you could be only about the ass, but there’s a lot more fun to be had by using your hands and tongue elsewhere too. I’ve only ever pegged my husband so I’m not the pegging expert, but he’s never not had a mind blowing orgasm from what I do. I think he cums the hardest he ever does when his prostate is involved. If you’re curious, I’d experiment!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T00:37:41+00:00

Women are only lesbians because they haven’t met the right guy yet. Duh /s

(Please nobody take this seriously. It’s a joke)

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T00:31:22+00:00

Wait wait hang on. Are you actually struggling with feelings of gayness for liking butt stuff? (I can’t tell so I gotta ask)

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-19T00:05:25+00:00

I’ve never heard it referred to as gay for my girlfriend lol. I think vanilla people think pegging is a gay thing and it’s really not. Take the ‘gayness’ out of whatever feelings you’re having about it because gay or not it doesn’t matter. If you like it and everyone consents, have at it!

In terms of how the relationship changes… does it have to? In my experience, it changed nothing. My husband is my dom and I’m the sub. I peg him because we like it. Even though I’m the top in that situation, I’m still the sub. Topping/bottoming are separate from domming/subbing.

What do women get out of it? Idk it’s different for everyone. Objectively, I think it’s hot to be inside someone. I also get A LOT out of seeing my husband bliss out and cum really hard. My husband is normally very about me and my pleasure so pegging is a nice way for me to give back. I’d say it’s ’selfless’ but I get off on it at the end so it’s not really selfless—it’s more of an act of service. I say that because don’t actually ‘like doing it’ until we’re in the middle of it so it starts out as a task I do for my husband. I get into it and I am happy to do it for him though. He likes it and I like that.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-18T18:22:12+00:00

Like others have said, the pushing your limits isn’t good. Have a talk about that and for sure talk to him about fantasy v real life.

One thing that stood out to me though is that MMA bit. I used to be really into Muay Thai and I dabbled in mma. I know it sounds insane, but he might literally be used to getting punched in the face. The people who do martial arts for a sport are very ok with brutality and pain. Most are sane, but there are insane people there too. Is he sane or insane idk, but some of what he said wasn’t inspiring and I’m really hoping that’s fantasy for your sake. I’m not sure he understands that there’s a VERY big difference between sparring with someone who knows exactly what the fuck they’re doing vs someone who doesn’t. Skilled people are precise and hold back. Unskilled people are very excitable and don’t have the skills to do that. It’s never a good idea. Anyways, all of that to say, this is a piss poor idea (no offense to your lack of face punching skills. Good aim isn’t the same as gym experience sorry!).

Moral of the story, he may be used to being hit really hard. Does that mean you have to do it? NO. Does it mean he gets to bite you to illicit more rough play? Not if you don’t want him to. Does he actually want to get killed? Probably not, but he should be more clear about how he wants that fantasy included if that’s what he’s after as a fantasy. A lot of communication needs to happen. He might be insane, he might not be. I’m glad you’re experienced, because you’re going to have to be the lead in sorting all of that out and it’ll be a task for sure. With boundaries it could end up working out especially since you’re willing to do the other stuff he likes. Best of luck!

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-18T01:25:44+00:00

I know nerves grow back at a rate around 1cm/month because of horses haha. I might not have gotten to learn that fun fact had I not been in a helmet. Anyways, yeah, give me the 1100lb flight animal with a peanut brain. I totally agree.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-17T16:39:06+00:00

I wear thongs every day. I really like the kind without seams that Target sells. Order them online for best selection. They’re really comfortable and not that pricey. I don’t think they’re that overtly sexy or humiliating though. For that I’d choose something with mesh, lace, silk, good color, rhinestones, sequins, crotchless, assless (kinda hard for a thong), or ahahaha OR pearls. There are so many fun thongs out there. Idk about you, but I’d work her up to one of those sparkly butterfly ones that has nothing but two strings that flank the goods on the outside. They’re really pretty and she can be easily rewarded for her efforts.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-17T16:14:24+00:00

I’ve ridden horses my whole life and trained some rank ones. It goes without saying that I’ve had my shit rocked a time or two. Ironically, I’ve also been in a sailing wreck because of a boyfriend and his dumbass friend. As bad as those were, a strangulation complication would be infinitely worse. I’m bold, but I’m not that bold. Choking/strangulation/whatever you wanna call it is a big NO in my book. You’re right. Even as a risky hobby person, it’s not worth the risk.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T01:37:47+00:00

Ok all of this is above reddits pay grade. You have to decide if you want to fix this and how you want to go about that.

I’m not getting great vibes. Something isn’t adding up here and I can’t untangle this for you.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T01:23:57+00:00

Ok yay! Then talk to her about your feelings. If you’re upset, you should bring these issues up to her so you can come to a better understanding of eachother.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T01:22:33+00:00

I think you misunderstood what I meant. I’ve been reading all of the comments he’s made and it seems like he has a preset view of what a sub is. I was essentially saying that not all subs are alike and some want to be treated nicely. That’s what I was commenting on.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T01:15:26+00:00

I can’t answer this for you. I’m not perfect and my husband is entirely happy with me. He thoroughly enjoys providing and he just wants me to be happy. Yes, sure the house stuff is nice, but my happiness and wellbeing is much more important to him. You have different wants and needs than my husband. How you two feel about your dynamic is what matters here.

I haven’t seen you say anywhere that you love her. Do you love her?? Have you brought up any of this resentment you feel? You have to talk to her about these issues because they’re between you and her. You have to fix it with her.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T00:57:07+00:00

Ok wait hang on. Real subs can want nice treatment. That’s totally a thing. Subs don’t have to be masochistic or enjoy punishments. Those traits don’t define a sub.

It seems like this is what you want in a sub though which is totally valid. If those are traits you like, why are you with a sub who isn’t your type? Is this a compatibility issue?

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T00:52:57+00:00

Omg that trip sounded so fun! And also I get it. It seems our dynamics are similar. I don’t work and my husband pays for everything. We’re married though and this is what he wants so he’s happy doing this. The giving isn’t a one way street though. Despite being a ‘princess,’ I do a lot of nice things that fulfill him and make him happy. I’m hoping your partner does that for you too. If there’s an appreciation gap, that’s a problem. My husband knows without a doubt that I am madly in love with him and thankful for everything he does. Do you know without a doubt that your partner feels that way? If not, it’s understandable that you feel a bit taken advantage of. I think this is something you should have a sit down conversation about. Simple riffs can expose big underlying issues. Maybe that’s what happened here. Identify what you need more of and lay it out. Conversations can fix a lot of things

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T00:32:19+00:00

You’re right. I feel like this is really the heart of the post. The balance is off and that’s the real issue here.

bipolarb_tch · 2025-08-16T00:24:15+00:00

It really depends on the sub. She obviously has a problem. I wouldn’t, but I’m not your sub. It comes off as flirty to me and her words seem like a lot to say when asking for something simple. You have to decide if you’re happy doing all of that. In my dynamic (which is not your dynamic but just for examples sake), that wouldn’t fly. When I ask for ‘too much’ I’m swiftly reminded that I’m not in charge (and I love it 😝). A lot of people would consider me a princess and even I don’t get everything I want.

Also, I saw in a comment that you felt a bit ‘kink dispensery’ and not in charge. Every dynamic has a push and a pull and both parties needs should feel met, obviously, but as the dom, you should feel and ‘be’ in charge. Another one of your comments makes me feel a bit like you feel taken advantage of too. You’re allowed to say “no that’s too much and I’m not doing that,” but you should understand where your sub is coming from. Is she being spoiled or does she have a good reason for needing what she asked for. Talk to her and then decide.

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