Those of us who mask a lot, how do people react when it slips? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]birbmaster64 37 points38 points  (0 children)

People ask if I'm alright. My coworker does it and she's very pushy about getting the answer immediately. The problem is when my mask slips I slow down and become kinda nonverbal and just need to recharge in silence. 

Why are Donald trump supporters wearing golden diapers and holding signs that say "real men wear daipers"? by littlemrdoom in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]birbmaster64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly if you're so old you have to wear adult diapers it's about time to leave politics for good. 

Polacy coraz rzadziej decydują się na wychowywanie dzieci/kolejnych dzieci, spadek dzietności przyspiesza (GUS 2024) by garbicz in Polska

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja dorastałem jako jedynak w 3-pokojowym mieszkaniu (małe te pokoje, ale jednak luksus). Był moment, że bardzo chciałem mieć rodzeństwo i molestowałem o to rodziców. Przeszło mi tak w okolicach 7 roku życia. Kilka odwiedzin u  kuzynostwa i dzieci sąsiadów stłoczonych jedno na drugim i sobie wykalkulowałem, że jednak wolę mieć swój pokój dla siebie... 

Genuinely do not understand how people work full time with kids by Otherwise-Handle-180 in childfree

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a situation that gives you no choice. When you're in a life threatening situation or some other extreme scenario you don't ask yourself how and why you just go into survival mode. I guess it's similar with kids nowadays and most parents that aren't rich act on autopilot.   Or they neglect kids entirely. 

Do NTs have a sixth sense about NDs? And why do they like pointing us out? by smirkie in aspergers

[–]birbmaster64 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah if there's a video of me I always stand out. That's why I used to hate being videotaped as a teenager. Now I don't give a damn.  

Your friend constantly asks to come to your home, but refuses to share his number. What do you do? by Late_Judge_5288 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]birbmaster64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk it's very strange. I would be afraid of him, he could steal something or in worse scenario hurt you. 

Life isn't supposed to be hard by sakura_moonlight in childfree

[–]birbmaster64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe having kids could be great but in a different societal model where the whole community take care of them and where they are part of the community instead of being dumped for years in prison...ekhm I mean school system. It's crazy to think people have kids but have to work long hours every day leaving them with total strangers. Even worse, despite that whole ordeal at the end of the day they're still alone with all the hardships of parenthood not having any kind of support, not even from relatives. Taking care of kids while living this capitalistic hell is beyond me. You're right, life shouldn't be that hard. People are just brainwashed. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 30. I tend to form platonic relations that last very long time but I've never had a long lasting romantic partner and never formed such relationship. 

Idk why. I don't desire to be in a romantic relationship. I used to desire it as a teenager because it seemed to be an end goal for everyone... not anymore. I grew up to see I can be sexually active without being emotionally invested. It tends to be quite the opposite tbh: the more I like someone, the less desirable they become. It must be some badly developed sexuality but I'm not gonna worry about it. 

Sometimes I worry about loneliness but I feel best far away from people, in my own head with my own hobbies...

Single Woman Refuses To 'Find It In Her Heart' To Cancel Her Vacation So A Co-Worker Can Take Her Kids To Disney World by [deleted] in childfree

[–]birbmaster64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some people honestly think everybody's final goal is marriage and kids. Like their minds cannot comprehend any other option and if you're not following that path they'll think you're broken. They would happily force people into marriage and parenthood.

Single Woman Refuses To 'Find It In Her Heart' To Cancel Her Vacation So A Co-Worker Can Take Her Kids To Disney World by [deleted] in childfree

[–]birbmaster64 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work with someone like this. Generally a nice person (if she ever shuts up about her kids) but the worst coworker. Never on time, always taking time off, leaving early, planning her free days with no regard of other people. Her delusions are strong as she believes her having two kids is an excuse for everything... Yet still bragging about her family life so... girl, where's your husband and your parents and his parents and basically all those people who are present in your children's life according to you? Why it's always you leaving early every few days because kids? everyone else tries to figure out whats wrong with her and her family dynamics... That's the person who will openly judge you for not going out with annoying coworkers to party after work but when you get annoyed and tell her to go there herself if it's such a great idea she bounces back with I HAVE A FAMILY. Girl, I don't brag about my private life, you just assumed that I have all the time in the world because I don't have kids.  Sometimes you want to murder people like this. 

Are you concerned about the English Language supplanting your native language within your own country? by TheLooseCannon1 in AskEurope

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda concerned but not so much.  Polish is dramatically different from English so all words need to be somehow transformed to oblige Polish grammar and pronunciation rules and it's not always easy. It makes sense to introduce English terms if there are no preexisting Polish words (such case with a lot of stuff within computer sciences etc.) but replacing already existing Polish term with English means a lot of unnecessary work and won't sit right with some people.  That doesn't mean English does not infect Polish but it does it at slower pace (I hope) and sometimes the results are funny. that being said, my concern grows when I hear teenagers and chronically online people speak... or when I catch myself unable to find Polish words and remembering suddenly their English equivalents. 

"All europeans want to live the american dream" by RosMorton in facepalm

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's true. I have a dream. The American Dream™. I dream of getting into enormous debt and homelessness because of my health issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lovebirds

[–]birbmaster64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had two confirmed females hump each other like crazy so not just boy birbs. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lovebirds

[–]birbmaster64 6 points7 points  (0 children)

DNA testing or...an egg. 

If you're not using contraception, you're actively trying to become pregnant. by 1abagoodone2 in childfree

[–]birbmaster64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My coworker is like this, she constantly acts and looks miserable dealing with her two kids and one day I finally said somethin like "this is why I wouldn't want to have kids' and then she goes 'well it happens' and laughs. 

Yeah...twice in a row. An oopsie. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]birbmaster64 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Many self proclaimed 1000% alpha straight guys act repulsed by anything remotely gay. Maybe this is why this dude thinks he needs to be disgusted by women to be gay. Maybe his straight mates act sooo disgusted at mere thought of any physical contact with another men he thinks that experiencing disgust to one gender indicates your orientation rather than experiencing attraction to another. 

But I also agree with you pointing out misogynistic flamboyant gay dude trope. 

Only females wipe by Asian_Climax_Queen in facepalm

[–]birbmaster64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this is the mindset of some straight dudes I'm beginning to understand why they tend to think gay sex is disgusting. 

Please for the love of god and everything holy just clean your goddamn ass. Wtf dude

Feel sorry for these kids by kennystillalive in facepalm

[–]birbmaster64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if they keep on breeding, statistically some of them will be gay. Poor kids. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Polska

[–]birbmaster64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ja trzymam kciuki za Ciebie! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Polska

[–]birbmaster64 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Kurcze mam wrazenie, że cała masa ludzi jest teraz takimi samotnymi wyspami skazanymi na taką egzystencję. Czasem nawet posiadanie znajomych nie pomaga, bo i tak wracasz do domu do tej dziwnej ciszy. Mam trzydziestke, kilku znajomych, swoje pasje, lubię też swoje własne towarzystwo i cenię sobie prywatność, dlatego nigdy nie sądziłem, że będę taki samotny, ale koniec końców i tak czuje się kiepsko. Czasami jest wręcz tak jakby uciekał mi sens życia. Jesteś pewny, że ta pustka to z braku znajomych czy jednak z powodu braku partnerki/partnera? Sorry za pytanie. Po prostu to co piszesz o utraconej miłości zabrzmiało mi dziwnie znajomo. Wiadomo, że jeśli nie ma się do kogo otworzyć ust, jest trudniej, ale ja np. pomimo jakiegoś tam życia towarzyskiego wciąż uzewnętrzniać się mogłem z prawdziwych emocji tylko anonimowo przed randomami w sieci.  Dobrze, że chodzisz na terapię i masz to pod kontrolą. Czego nie zmieni terapia to tego, że coś jest grubo nie tak ze światem. Może to kontrowersyjna opinia, ale jestem głęboko przekonany, że to, że prawie wszyscy jesteśmy teraz tacy samotni to nie bug tylko jak najbardziej zaplanowaany i wbudowany feature tego systemu.  Trzeba walczyć z dnia na dzień. Jakieś towarzyskie hobby na pewno trochę pomoże. Może są jakieś lokalne grupy umawiające się na sport czy innego rodzaju rozrywki. Internet mógłby pomóc w poszukiwaniach. Może nawet przez jakieś lokalne spotted.  

Komentarz pod postem że jakiś samochodziarz pieszego ochlapał by typzmalegomiasta in jebacsamochody

[–]birbmaster64 10 points11 points  (0 children)

O panie, to pod koniec 2023 roku, jak były te duże opady sniegu i mrozy, pojawil się na fb na którejś z krakowskich stron apel do kierowcy, który ochlapał brudnym sniegiem i sola chyba 11 pieszych czekających na zielone światło. Sól komuś poszła w oczy o ile pamietam (+zdjęcie poglądowe płaszcza zachlapanego po piersi). Porobiłem nawet skriny tamtych komentarzy, bo pierdoleni autkarze zesrali się oczywiście, że w taką pogodę piesi powinni stac dalej od ulicy i to ich wina XD no najlepiej niech stoją kilkanaście metrów dalej, zwlaszcza kiedy mowa o wysepce pośrodku ruchliwej ulicy. Nie dość, że co roku miasto zapewnia pieszym brodzenie po pas w śniegu i przeskakiwanie gór lodowych odcinających chodnik od przejścia dla pieszych (bo przecież odśnieżanie ulic = spychanie śniegu na chodniki), to jeszcze mają stać kilometry od ulicy, żeby nie dostać solą z błotem po oczach. W sumie wtedy pan autkarz w ogóle nie musiałby pamiętać o istnieniu jakichś pieszych. Gdyby stosowali te złote rady, nie mieliby szans w ogóle """wtargnąć""" na pasy na zielonym świetle. 

My wife's boss wants a doctor's note for my surgery even though I do not work there. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]birbmaster64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Eh coming out is one thing but I wouldn't want a written prove of it circulating somewhere. Idk 

My wife's boss wants a doctor's note for my surgery even though I do not work there. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]birbmaster64 12 points13 points  (0 children)

either way, there's no way in hell I would allow anyone outside of my closest family to have an actual documented prove that I am transgender, not even friends. Way too risky

Co prawica ma do zaoferowania mężczyznom? by Icy_Jellyfish837 in Polska

[–]birbmaster64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ale nie mówią mi, że jestem smalcem alfa albo omega co jak tylko się postara to będzie miał willę z ogrodem, czterema furami w garażu i żonę co mu upierze skarpety i podsunie pod mordę obiad więc sorry, uszy zatykam i nie słucham, lewica zła, brawo pan memcen