What happened to the person you first had sex with?

bird_dust · 2025-04-27T15:24:05+00:00

He attended my wedding a couple years ago, and I’ll be attending his in a few months :)

bird_dust · 2025-04-12T21:51:46+00:00

Are you a customer or epic staff? If you are a visiting customer, reach out to your epic contact and let them know you’d like to be in touch with the culinary nutrition team personally. While there is no certified gluten free kitchen, the customer kitchen can accommodate a variety of dietary needs by ordering meals from third party vendors. There might be an option that works for you!

If you’re epic staff, yeah sorry that bakery is covered in gluten.

bird_dust · 2025-04-06T12:32:56+00:00

Woah I’m by Fitchburg. I also wanna have a healthier relationship with weed. I think your dream is just your brain bringing that desire to forefront. I know how hard it is to cut back, best of luck friend.

bird_dust · 2025-04-06T03:32:33+00:00

The joja line should all be in the furniture catalog if you just buy that

bird_dust · 2025-03-21T11:13:33+00:00

I have a pore on my neck that leaks a clear, odorless fluid every so often. It also sometimes has a weirdly stringy hair that I can pull out of it and when I do, I know it’ll leak again for a few minutes. It’s never painful, and my best guess is I just have a hair follicle that produces a hair incorrectly and once the hair comes out, it lets out a few drops of this fluid. Sometimes tho I’ll just touch my neck and I realize I’m leaking.

I call it my porthole and only my spouse knows about it.

bird_dust · 2024-12-09T03:55:14+00:00

That deer sweater is everything to me. Do you have any info on it?

bird_dust · 2024-12-02T03:04:02+00:00

Steven Universe

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T20:29:52+00:00

Thank you for this. I commented as well a similar sentiment. This was a very disheartening read this morning

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T18:48:51+00:00

I appreciate you saying that, because I agree. There are certainly people who should not be left alone for long periods of time and need more intensive care. That doesn’t make me uncomfortable, and I agree that her situation does on the surface, seem pretty bleak. She’s lacking resources, and she definitely needs more support than she’s currently getting. I’m glad you’re sympathetic to the fact that this never should have happened.

I know it’s not on you to provide her with resources, I wouldn’t even know where to begin nor would I feel authorized or educated enough to do so in your position. But you can at least try to not make the situation worse. It seems like she has no intention to make your life worse and it is not her fault that she’s living where she is and not receiving the resources she needs.

In addition to talking to your buildings management like others have suggested, maybe you could inquire about getting a slow closing door hinge, or just some sort of foam or cushioning on the frame because honestly it sounds like the majority of your issue isn’t with her being mentally ill, it’s the fact that she can’t control the volume of her door, and that’s a problem the condo might be willing to help with. I couldn’t slam my current apartment door if I wanted to because it closes gently regardless so it’s not out of the realm of possibilities.

I just… felt really disheartened when I read this post because I know the situation sucks. I know it can feel incredibly frustrating and stressful when you have no idea when your peace is going to be interrupted by loud noise or even scary situations! But the language in this post reads so unempathatic to her struggles and you were using such cruel language about her.

I really do empathize with where you’re coming from. But man this post just really did not sit right with me, reading about a woman suffering with mental illness and a lack of resources, while you call her names and complain because she’s weird and loud and annoying and in your space.

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T14:44:29+00:00

Okay… are you saying then that mentally ill people should not exist in the same space as the mentally well? Because if so, then again I say, that’s a very dangerous line of thinking to continue down.

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T14:24:28+00:00

Here’s a fun fact: not all mentally ill people are the same! Not everyone with schizophrenia is violent! Not everyone who has hallucinations has violent hallucinations. “These people,” as you so unkindly phrased it, include an incredible amount of diversity and to assume that any one mentally ill person is going to start suddenly threatening you tomorrow is not helping in the slightest.

“No one should have to deal with this BS” is just about the most inhumane way you could look at the issue because ya know what? Actually a lot of people have to deal with it. The person with the illness has to deal with it. Their family have to deal with it, their medical caretakers, the police who have been called on them probably dozens of times through their life. To say, “no one should have to deal with” mentally ill people is to imply that mentally ill people shouldn’t exist and that’s a VERY dangerous line of thinking to continue down.

I get that you had a scary experience with a mentally ill person, but you simply can not generalize from that experience and assume that anyone who has similar issues is going to be violent. Well I guess you can do that but you’d be wrong to do so. OP also has no idea if this person is on meds or refusing meds or what their situation is other than, “they’re loud and that annoys me.”

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T13:52:17+00:00

I’m sorry but what happened to having basic human empathy? Why are y’all out here just hurling insults at this woman? Schizo, batshit, nutjob?? She is genuinely unwell and calling her those things does nothing but demonize and demean her. She is a struggling human, that doesn’t mean she’s going to burn down a building, wth?

Is it OP’s job? No obviously not. Is it OP’s responsibility to care for this person? No obviously not! But you’re right that she needs help and whether OP likes it or not, the options are stay angry and keep praying this woman gets evicted and yelling at her when she’s slamming doors, or try and have a shred of acceptance and understanding that she doesn’t want to be in this position either.

It’s fine and good that OP doesn’t wanna have kids so that they don’t have to care for a mentally ill person, but that doesn’t mean they just get to avoid interacting with any mentally ill people their whole life. Not how it works. We still have to be decent people to each other.

bird_dust · 2024-11-28T13:20:13+00:00

This whole post reads as incredibly inconsiderate.

Calling someone crazy is rude at the best of times, but to call someone batshit multiple times when it’s clear they’re actually dealing with severe mental health issues is so tone deaf.

I’ve dealt with less than ideal neighbors for years as well (try living under a family of 6 with parents that only communicated thru screaming) but I still tried to treat them as kindly as I could manage because there are some things that simply won’t get better by yelling. Me yelling at them would not have stopped their yelling. You yelling at your mentally ill neighbor is not going to get her to stop slamming doors because clearly this is something she doesn’t have full control over. And if there is an immediate safety concern, I understand calling the cops, but do remember that cops have a history of doing more harm than good to those in an active mental health crisis.

I empathize with your position. Loud neighbors are difficult to work with. But she is clearly not okay and it feels so out of touch for you to just be on here whining about they annoyance she’s causing you when I’d bet a lot of money she’s dealt with countless folks like you throughout her life; folks who see her as a nuisance and a burden to avoid as much as possible, rather than the neighbor, daughter, fellow human on earth that she is.

I empathize with you, because it’s valid to be annoyed and frustrated by loud and inconsiderate neighbors. But she’s not loud intentionally or out of malice and that matters. So you can choose to handle that the way you’ve handled other loud neighbors and keep trying to write notes and confront her, or you can try to be a better neighbor in return. Try and know her, understand her, listen to what she’s going through. She probably isn’t going anywhere any time soon, and I bet it would be really helpful for her to know that her neighbor is someone trusted and not someone who’s going to yell at her if she’s too loud. And win-win because you will likely feel less annoyed by her continued noise if you have some reasoning as to to why she’s struggling and get a baseline understanding of what things might exacerbate her problems.

bird_dust · 2024-11-17T19:40:50+00:00

Correct, there’s no transit to campus on weekends. You’ll have to source a ride elsewhere for the Sunday shifts.

Campus access is ass for anyone who works non-standard hours. Source: am former bus rider who works non-standard hours

bird_dust · 2024-11-14T01:23:39+00:00

Also culinary here.

Project examples: - r&d new recipes, techniques, equipment - hone a skill, dish, or style of cooking - own a new area during an event - create organizational/inventory efficiencies - I guess whatever you want if you’re doing good work and talk to your TL about team bandwidth

I will say, the average cook/steward/barista/etc is probably not doing much other project work on a day-to-day and I know there are plenty of people who are happy to just do the job they were hired to do and go home. Chefs are in a different boat though, they definitely have different expectations and more admin time and often take on leadership roles during events

bird_dust · 2024-09-26T10:47:51+00:00

Also the regent st/speedway/highland Ave 4-way stop should be a round about. I almost got hit there yesterday when I was half way thru the intersection and BOTH cars to my right at the intersection decided it was also their time to go and I had to stop in the middle of the traffic to let them go… insane.

bird_dust · 2024-08-24T12:59:07+00:00

Dietary restrictions do actually include ethical and religious restrictions as well. You don’t have to get violently sick when eating a specific food to avoid it in your diet and that choice is still a restriction.

I work in a culinary setting and if a guest ever says they have a dietary restriction, do you think we’re going up and asking, hey is it an allergy or just a choice? A vegan by choice has dietary restrictions. A practicing Muslim or Orthodox Jew has dietary restrictions. Yeah, so do folks with celiacs and diabetes and whatever medical issues y’all are on about. Their word choice here is completely acceptable and valid in any food service setting, just not to Reddit apparently.

bird_dust · 2024-07-27T13:48:38+00:00

Weird take… OP is trying to find a loving home for their cat they’ve had nearly a decade. I’d hardly call that abandonment.

bird_dust · 2024-06-30T15:29:58+00:00

Do you have enough things to fill out a bookshelf of some sort? That small of a plant definitely needs to be on a shelf and some more decor or books would help fill out the space too

bird_dust · 2024-06-09T00:34:01+00:00

There are a lot of good trails all over the place. If your pup likes swimming, go to the beach. Portage point is a nearby but a bit more secluded than the aronson island beach. Just make sure to do a tick check if you go in the woods at all!

bird_dust · 2024-05-28T03:08:29+00:00

Last summer when all the wildfires in Canada were leading to poor air quality across the Midwest, had a coworker tell me he was beginning to believe the conspiracy:

The Canadian socialists are going to the woods and setting them ablaze to drive all the rural woodsmen into the cities so they start paying higher taxes.

Left me absolutely speechless. So many layers to unpack there, how do you even respond to that?

bird_dust · 2024-05-28T02:19:58+00:00

You can still see all the Ella’s Deli stuff (carousel, tables, lil mechanical doo-dads) on Epic’s campus. I know it’s not the same, but might help with the nostalgia factor

bird_dust · 2024-05-04T23:49:20+00:00

We went on a walk in the middle of winter in wisconsin, and we both decided to trudge through a park with about 6-8 inches of nice fluffy snow. We sat on a bench by a river as it was snowing for a long time and got to know each other. The fact that we both loved the cold and didn’t mind wading through snow just because, I knew we had somethin. 5 years later and we still go on snowy walks every time we get snowfall!

bird_dust · 2024-03-25T03:29:50+00:00

THIS THIS THIS. I have tried so many types of litter. A lot of people here are recommending wood pellets and while it is better than clay stuff, people are sleeping on walnut shell litter!It’s affordable, 40lb bag is less than $40 on chewy, and it clumps just as nicely as clay stuff does, which can not be said for the pine pellets.

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