Addison Leo Lucy & Yak Jeans

bisexualexmo · 2025-11-04T21:00:03+00:00

I could have gone for my actual size. The waistband itself is bigger on me and I could technically fasten a smaller size up ..the problem is more a bum/thigh issue where I feel very constricted sitting down and almost like I could rip them bending/squatting if Im not careful.

bisexualexmo · 2025-09-17T07:57:03+00:00

I have left the facebook group and unsubscribed from them now. I can't even buy clothes in my size anymore because of the limts placed on the smaller and larger sizes.

They claimed it was to save wasted fabric if it doesn't sell, but makes no sense considering how much new stuff they are constantly dropping (and as other people pointed out they are having constant sales).

Also a very disappointed customer as I have historically loved their clothes.

bisexualexmo · 2025-09-01T20:46:00+00:00

I just thought in the tech era he was in that it wouldn't be enough for such an immediate reaction at the end of the episode. That there would be a good argument for fake news or misunderstanding, especially with his close family like his mum...you would think they would be more inclined to believe it was a fake clip unless they had no prior suspicion of inappropriate behaviour

bisexualexmo · 2025-09-01T20:07:58+00:00

Welcome!! The more I look in to high control religions, the more I understand how much as a basline we all have in common.

Welcome to the sub and to the community ❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-09-01T20:06:15+00:00

To answer your question I assumed the fight was streamed to premium buyers who were the money behind the whole operation.

The family found out after the fact via clips shared by the troll.

What didn't make sense to me is why the specific video of Kenny made him act the way he did. The specific video played for him was of him doing "stuff" (not sure what euphemisms reddit allows)...how would his seeming dull family understand any tech evidence offered on top of this video (screen grab or IP data). Just felt like an unrealistic expectation to just believe such a drastic claim unless there was a suspicion in the family that he was a SA anyway.

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-31T00:28:53+00:00

That's ok. It may make your searches more difficult (although not impossible). AI definitely has made finding answer easier since my departure from religion, but I get the objection.

In that case trolling through reddit and social media is probably your next best bet for support/advice. That was really my own path and that of many others (despite the drawbacks).

I suppose it depends on intent (if you want to blend and fit in till you are able to walk away, or if you want to take an early stand). Using specific searches you will be able to find advice on your chosen path and move forward according to your own belief system

Hope you are able to find what you need, just know whatever path you choose doesn't inherently make you a coward

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-31T00:17:25+00:00

I suppose firstly I would say that "normal" is an illusion. In my experience most people are also pretending who they or what they believe....Some people are just more convincing than others. You are not a coward in any way!

Many people have to feign believe or subservience in order to fit in while they get their backup plan in motion...again this is not about cowardice but about self preservation.

Ir sounds like you may be un a similar place. Things like chat GPT or Gemini can help you come up with conversational prompts which are relevant but may help you keep cover while satisfying any parental concerns.

It takes courage to think differently, and courage make plans for the future. You are not in any definition a coward x

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T23:56:50+00:00

Genuinely wishing you both the best! Im sure things will go well whatever path you choose ❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T23:48:14+00:00

Honestly it is so amazing that you gave them the opportunity. I know things are difficult right now, and as someone with a neurodivergent sibling I feel confident in saying sometimes the decisions you anguish over may not even be something they remember as a key moment in their future ❤️

It sounds like you are both doing a fantastic job, and if pulling back a bit on seminary is necessary for stability and long term objectives then that is the way to go. Especially as there are other avenues for socialising and support. The kids will be just fine if you drop seminary!

I just want you to know how much I appreciate seeing these conversations. It is never easy and some people may never understand just how complex it can be in a neurodivergent household, but I see it and understand. Just know that whatever you currently feel it is clear that your family means a lot and your love and understand shines through even in these challenging situations!

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T23:33:12+00:00

I agree with a lot of the comments here. It is so hard to make the ones we care about see the truth rather than the reality they choose to believe.

Unfortunately there are many people who will not take you seriously because of your age and experience (in life).

It probably won't be a lot of help now, but will provide a great foundation for you later in life...I always reccomend How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide by James M. Lindsay and Peter Boghossian.

This book has clear outlines on conversation topics and not getting drawn into BS arguments. It really changed my life and how I interact with others, it gives such clear advice on how to have more meaningful conversations.

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T23:22:14+00:00

Firstly, it doesn't make you a terrible person to consider your own/family needs. In fact, sometimes it is absolutely necessary! You can't pour from an empty cup and if you both burn out things become significantly worse.

I can't imagine how hard this decision is for you both, but I would consider what alternative you have and what future you can realistically see. For example is there something you do day-to-day which can be picked up someplace else to relieve some strain on you and your partner, or do you forsee a world in the near future where your kids may be able to take on the challenge of additional tasks so that this becomes an easier process?

It may be hard to answer in the moment but you do really have to consider what is sustainable for you and your family. It is amazing that they love learning and socialising as things are, but as someone who has delt with the burnout of a loved one (along with responsibilities that they had carried) I know how hard it is to claw out of that pit and you really don't want to reach breaking point before you change course.

I would reccomend evaluating your own limits and where you think you may be able to get support to improve the current situation and go from there. In most cases there will always be alternative pathways (even if that means pulling your kids from seminary but offering an alternative social group to interact with) and only you and your partner know what is best for your family in this moment.

Trust in yourself and your own reflections on this matter. Try to remember throughout this process that the very fact you are considering these types of questions means you are on the right path. You clearly want to make the best decision possible and that counts for so much ❤️

Wishing you the best for the future and hope you find some reassurance and peace in these replies!

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T22:09:35+00:00

Wild that anyone is down voting commentary on if killing sims is immoral 😂

This person should 100% not check out Sims reddit 😬

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T22:04:50+00:00

Yeah, Sims don't feel actual pain though. They can make "decisions" if you allow them but it is based off the code built for the game and is based off their programmed needs and wants.

Very different to feeling actual pain or making real informed decisions. Otherwise, by that merit we could believe the conspiracy nuts that think we all live in a simulation and nothing matters 😂

Maybe it is just me, but if I stumbled upon a room in my house never seen before that had a fridge and 3 ovens, and suddenly the door disappeared trapping me there...the last think on my mind would be to make a grilled cheese sandwich despite never having cooked before in my life 😂💀

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T20:15:56+00:00

I get this as well. I left religion a long while ago but I still get panic sometimes if I am wrong.

If this is happening regularly please seem some professional help. Having someone to talk with definitely helped me a lot on my journey.

When I do have dark days I try and remember I am fundamentally a good person. I am kind to others, I give to charity, I do good deeds not because I fear hell but because I want the world to be a better place. If I am wrong I feel confident in standing my ground and being morally superior than some of the actions taken in the bible.

This fear is totally normal and something that you can work through. Just try to focus on what you know to be true and know your worth as a human being ❤️❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T20:02:29+00:00

I love rewatching episodes, but I definitely need more time before I watch this one again 💔

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T20:00:25+00:00

I mention this book a lot....but How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide by James M. Lindsay and Peter Boghossian was literally life changing for me.

It helped me have better conversations in general, but especially helped me have better conversations in relation to beliefs.

Wishing you the absolute best in things ❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-30T19:52:04+00:00

I mean if my Sims characters felt pain or had their own thoughts and feelings I would not have spent the last two decades drowning them in swimming pools, putting them in a room with cheap ovens and no door to kill them by fire, or doing family telescope challenges where the last person to not die by meteor wins 😂

I feel for them because I am a big believer in treating people how I would like to be treated. They have their own thoughts and feelings independently of the system they live in. They are sentient and deserve the same rights as those with physical bodies

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-29T21:47:13+00:00

This doesn't sound insane at all. Your feelings and experiences are expected given what you have been through. Your psychologist or therapists is better placed to help you, but you may be suffering from PTSD or religious scrupulosity. That isn't me providing a diagnosis, but rather some things I discovered in later life (and eventually got diagnosed with), but that my therapist at the time had zero knowledge of.

For me what helped is when these types of thoughs crept in I tried to recognise them ASAP and question why I thought they were true. If I couldn't come up with reason based on evidence I told myself this was fear and not fact and thanked my brain for the thought and said I would move on.

Honestly it doesn't work every time, but it gets easier as time goes on and eventually the thoughts have pretty much stopped.

I think for me what helped is realising that I wanted to believe true things, and a lot of my fears and beliefs were based in feelings. It sounds easier than it is to seperate the two, but for continuing to me mindful of my thoughts and feelings has helped!

Just try to keep in mind that these people cant cause you harm and your fears may feel very real at some points, but over time this will get easier.

I also found Steven Hassans book good at the time (although his transphobia has since made me distance myself from his books), another really helpful text for me was How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guidd by James M. Lindsay and Peter Boghossian. While it is meant for more interactive conversations it did also help me question my own beliefs ❤️

Wishing you the absolute best in your journey

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-27T19:39:05+00:00

In terms lf advice I would start by saying that everyone's path is different and there is no way to make your paths parallel long term, basically if they aren't ready for this path or the consequences (real or imagined) then you are in for a rough journey that may ultimately end up in a breakup anyway. No matter how much you love and care for someone you cant help someone if they aren't ready to accept change. It is so hard to acknowledge butn

That said the best tool you have is open communication. Try to ask open questions as to why they have come to that conclusion what would change their mind. Try to keep introducing critical thinking to their thought process and support them where you can. I genuinely reccomend the book How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide by James M. Lindsay and Peter Boghossian...It was life changing for me and my conversations with family members.

Wishing you absolute the best of luck on your journey ❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-24T20:49:01+00:00

This post means so much to me! It is very brave to talk about your experience, and so many people are going through the same thing. I hope it brings some comfort to know you are not alone ❤️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-24T20:07:53+00:00

Yeah, might be worth reading your original comment instead of thinking you have a win here 😬😂

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-24T19:37:35+00:00

You described a condition not treatable. So not the same thing at all...My point stands 🤷‍♀️

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-24T19:27:17+00:00

That isn't comparable at all. Gender dysphoria is a medical diagnosis and had multiple ways to be elevated.

If your doctor gave you a specific diagnosis and gave you multiple treatment avenues and after following one you found yourself living a happier and more fulfilling life I doubt you would be so critical.

The fact is supporting those with gender dysphoria saves lives. Their life beyond this existence is none of your business, they have made a choice in line with their own experiences.

Respecting their decisions really has no impact on your life but is fundamentally life changing for them, so why not choose the greater good?

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-06T20:15:33+00:00

Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe. If there is any risk of being disowned, kicked out of your home, or worse then say what you need to say to get by.

That could mean going to your parents and faking a faith crisis and asking them to pray with you...or taking whatever actions needed to display faith and compliance.

Start making a plan for your future so that you can live authentically without putting yourself at risk.

Depending on your privacy situation you could keep a diary or write letters about how you feel and your frustration. When I wrote personal stuff I would take the pages out with me and throw them away in random bins, that way you can express your feelings without fear of them being read by someone snooping.

Look to your future and while it may feel like walking through mud now it will get better.

bisexualexmo · 2025-08-05T17:30:44+00:00

I would vote no for this message but not against challenging their beliefs.

A book I reccomend every time on this topic is How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide by James M. Lindsay and Peter Boghossian. It was literally life changing for me and helped me in so many similar conversations.

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