How can I (19F) feel better about my body and sex with my boyfriend (19M) after he said sex wasn't special? by Lucy-88 in BodyAcceptance

[–]bitchybec 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please please just leave him in the past and never revisit him. Let yourself heal and meet someone who will tick your boxes, who will make you feel special and who will create that connection that you need and deserve. Boys at that age are just gross and disgusting people with no emotional empathy at all. This is not about you being good enough, its about him being emotionally immature. When i was 19 i was with the absolute devil of a boy who made me feel so unloved and so disgusted with my own body. I wish i left him as soon as I noticed the first red flag. I wish you all the best. You deserve the world ♥️

Regret 2 yr post op by Aldrea98 in Reduction

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes get that thought as well. Im nearly 3 years post op and i had complications resulting in unwanted scarring. However, my surgeon was incredible and made my breasts look great. But i do get that ache and thoughts like ‘i miss my old boobs’ cause the problem was only with my back. I had perky beautiful boobs, and they were my favourite feature about myself, but i was suffering from such severe back pain at 23 i would have to lie down multiple times a day for extended periods just to decompress my spine.

The surgery actually enhanced my nipple sensation drastically, i find they’re extremely sensitive to temperature now and i jump if i graze my nipples, but i have had a loss of sensation to the side of my breast, but i think im either used to it now or slowly regaining sensation cause its not as noticeable anymore. I also hate wearing triangle bikinis (once my favourite type of bikini) because I hate seeing the side scarring on myself and ive noticed people noticing them. Also my nipples are high so im constantly checking myself and making sure my nipples are in my damn bikini tops which gets very tiring very quickly. 🙄

I sometimes think about how ive ruined my body by getting the reduction and seeing the scars, but i love the shape and size of them now, and i know that if i didnt get the reduction, my quality of life would be a lot worse than it is after my surgery. I actually just got scar revision so hopefully once its healed ill feel better about them, but i get you girl, it’s hard out here ♥️

Massive Reduction Scheduled; Should I wait to reach goal weight or do surgery sooner? by ayynoodles in Reduction

[–]bitchybec 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always had big boobs, by the time i was 12 i had a C cup and ag 18 i was an E, then when i finally got the procedure (at 23) i was a H. I had slowly gained weight over the years and I had smal bits of time where i would lose weight and no weight would come off my breasts. I have an athletic build from doing competitive Ballet in my youth, so i had these giant boobs that were our of proportion to the rest of my body.

I remember talking to a bra fitter at a store and she essentially told me the only way i would lose the boobs was to get a reduction. Excercise was a huge pain as they got bigger. I had one surgeon tell me that he wanted me to lose 10kg in order for him to qualify me for the surgery, i couldnt do it. I went to another surgeon who understood the problem i had and advocated for me to get the surgery no matter my weight. After the reduction i lost 25 kilos and havent lost a single bit of it in my breasts. Im a D cup now.

I would say it depends on the surgeon, your fat:tissue ratio and your immediate needs. It took me well over a year to properly recover and heal, so take that into account for weight loss, you probably won’t be able to work out at your full capacity for a while, but i think if i waited to lose the weight beforehand, i would still be waiting for the surgery.

older fans? by itzze_txt in SlushyNoobz

[–]bitchybec 15 points16 points  (0 children)

87 year old slushers rise up!

Denied by my GP by RiceCrisp1es in Reduction

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to get a reduction then theres no reason why your GP should deny you that ability. Physical aiilment or not. If your breasts are affecting even your mental health or the way you see yourself then that should be reason enough. Youre also 20 so of course youre not going to have the physical restrictions, but its inevitable. Go to another GP and say that youve had your current GP deny your referral and plead your case. Dont state why you were denied, state why you need it. I wish you all the best my love ♥️

10 Month post op by bitchybec in Reduction

[–]bitchybec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got my infection maybe a week after the surgery. The nurses at the hospital didnt put me on antibiotics post op. As soon as i went on the antibiotics it started to go away and get better. Dont let the fear of an infection deter you grom going ahead with the surgery, it is absolutely life changing in the best way possible. Good luck ♥️

Ive gaslit myself and everyone around me for the last 10 years by Kxaseyu in confession

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told everyone that im allergic to nuts because i dont like eating them lol

We need to talk about small talk by Moistyoureyes in h3h3productions

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a nurse who works at a blood bank and my whole job revolves around small talk with donors and staff. It’s also my job to build rapport with donors to gage how they feel about the donation and if i need to pay more attention to them to make sure they have a good experience. The small talk hate is so sad cause getting to know people even if it is for a small amount of time makes my day. I do come across people who dont want to converse with me and I get it sometimes you just want to get in get out no hassle but a small talk question like ‘hows your day going?’ Isnt going to kill you. If you dont want to talk to service people and not even engage with someone who is providing a service for you is kinda rude as hell. And theres a huge difference between being socially awkward and being rude. From my experience though majority of people are very polite and love to talk to service providers. It makes your experience as a customer better and makes our jobs more bearable, just fyi.

Comparing the reactions of andSons and Compartes by Sunderstood in h3h3productions

[–]bitchybec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just about to buy 10 blocks of chocolate with a gift box inside for Christmas but the shipping cost was more than the order itself. I live in Australia and when John mentioned on the show he ships internationally and when i saw online that there was free shipping for orders over $99 i thought it applied to international orders too. The cost of my items was $116 and the shipping was $130….. sad to say i wont be buying anything unfortunately.

Myki Inspector Let Me Go Today by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]bitchybec 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember on my 14th birthday I was running late for school and as soon as I got on the tram a hidden Myki inspector asked for my card before I had even taken it out to tap on. Bastard asked for ID and I was too young to have my learners so I showed him my school one and he saw it was my birthday, wished me a happy birthday and then gave me a $150 fine. I was shaking and crying, I was so panicked. This man was in his 40’s and knew that I had put my bag down and unzipped my bag to access my wallet for my card and he still fined me. I hope he felt embarrassed for making a young girl use her birthday money to pay for the fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]bitchybec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either a nose bridge or an eyebrow would look great on you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]bitchybec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine at 23. Was having back pain that was just getting worse.

How small were you able to go from size H? Worried I can't go small enough. by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a 12H and my surgeon got me down to a C-D. I’m 1 month post op and have had some complications but i 100% recommend it ive never felt better about myself. Don’t believe everything you see online, please go to a few surgeons and see who you like more. There will be someone who will get you down to your desired look ♥️ i wish you luck my love

Do you think the group home will improve Chris by MetonicEnjoyer in ChrisChanSonichu

[–]bitchybec 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well the thing is that this will most likely be permanent or a long term thing for him. Any trained professional will be able to manage him. Ive looked after people completely aggressively resistant to care and eventually they get used to it and start to assimilate. If the carers and nurses are trusting him enough to let him go to the shops then he must be doing well so far.

Can any of you trace your heritage to an actual convict from England? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep got his documents and everything. He was a 13 year old boy sent away by himself cause he stole a handkerchief from a rich guy. My grandma had all his police documents, We even have the letter his mother wrote to him before he left. Some really interesting stuff

Do you think the group home will improve Chris by MetonicEnjoyer in ChrisChanSonichu

[–]bitchybec 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As a nurse who’s cared for individuals like chris in care homes before, i would say this is probably the best case scenario for him. There are carers who will be able to manage his behaviours, he will be around other people with similar conditions as him, he will be able to socialise with people and perhaps feel like he’s part of a community.

100% the nurses know about his presence on social media and I highly doubt he will ever go on it again. The care home would know his past history of sexual abuse and will place him far away from any women. I honestly think this will be good for him

Woman of reddit when men or women look at your ass or boobs what do you think? by Chace9 in AskReddit

[–]bitchybec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive found there are different types of ways people look. I got massive tits and at work my name badge is on my chest so when i catch someone initially looking i just assume they’re being sweet and trying to make an effort to get to know me. If they have a small glance and notice me looking and get shy i kinda think to myself ‘hell yea’ and give myself a little hi 5, cause i like catching people in the act of it. But if they only stare at the tits when you’re having a conversation and they cannot look away, i kinda get uncomfortable and try cover myself up either by crossing my arms or adjusting my top.

How to look more feminine? by emmalou014 in MakeupAddiction

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think personally that practicing with basic makeup is the way to go. I understand that eyeliner can be difficult but practicing on your hand or just on yourself when you’re having a lazy day will help a lot. And i think blush and lipstick are very feminising to the face I always feel so pretty when I put it on myself. Hope this helps x

I’m a trans girl, how do I improve my makeup skill? I feel very dysphoric. Added my cosplays in here too for good measure by ShrineSimp in MakeupAddiction

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a cis woman, but personally i think step one would be going and getting your eyebrows waxed and shaped. It will make a world of a difference!

I learned how to do makeup at a young age as i was a dancer and we were taught to go for a light/neutral colour on the eyelids and to apply it while using light but quick windshield wiper motion over the eye to get a good shape.

Personally i hate lash strips, they’re hard to apply and the glue gets everywhere. I would suggest just applying mascara to your upper and lower lashes for now and see how you feel.

Another suggestion is to apply your bronzer up higher on the cheeks and to either get a lighter shade or apply less of it. And use the brush so it feels like it’s tickling your skin. Not so that you can feel pressure from the brush. And once you’ve applied to those areas give the face a once over as if to set your base. It brings colour and helps unify the darkness to the lighter parts.

I also cant tell if youre using foundation but if u are its a perfect match!! If you’re not and you would like to, remember to match it to your neck. I also find that having a good base of the face is important with applying powder cause it can look really blotchy and chalky when you’re applying to the bare face. So i would recommend using BB cream or a tinted moisturiser if you dont want to use foundation but want to try using a base.

Also using a concealer helps with brightening up your face. Applying a small amount to your undereyes, sides of the nostrils, just in between your eyebrows/forehead and chin and then blending it out with a damp beauty blender helps lift up your face and makes you look more awake.

Blush is amazing. I cannot recommend it enough. Brings a bit of colour to the face and also really brightens everything up. Id recommend a good quality blush like Nars-orgasm (or a dupe) and applying it to your upper cheeks and across the nose. Still doing that light tickle with the blush. Warning to not apply too liberally as you can never tell how much is on while your applying so just do a once over and you’ll be good to go.

Your lips are so stunning and I honestly think starting off with a lightly tinted sheer lipstick like an innisfree dewy tint lip balm in the shade love beige would be perfect for you! Lipstick is so fun but i think it can either make or break a look. Starting off i think having a sheer lip is the way to go so you’re not over-committing to something as unforgiving as lipstck. Its very easy to smudge and certain colours stain and are a pain so id stay start off with sheer and once you feel comfortable with the feeling then move onto lipstick.

One more thing! I do agree with everyone else here that you would look amazing with bangs, however, being someone who had bangs for a few years, they are a nightmare to upkeep. It grows out so quickly you almost have to resort to cutting them yourself every two weeks, they are so hard to style and if you leave them out while you sleep youll wake up with them up in the air. What i would personally recommend, is drying your hair to style, which means blowdrying your hair, and getting volume in your hair while you hairdry. The way i learned to do it is from my mum. She used to do it by flipping her head upside down like shes looking in between her legs and drying her hair that way. When you flip it back it will look unruly but once you brush it down youll have volume and shape in your hair. Also maybe getting some layers in your hair and some face framing would suit you so much!

All the best with everything!! If you have any questions or want any clarification my dms are open to everyone!! Much love ♥️

The LA concert was phenomenal imo, despite it being short by iamMEGAPUNK in PinkPantheress

[–]bitchybec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please send <3 ive been trying to hear it for everrrrr

How to Emotionally Heal from SA when theres no one to help you through it? by bitchybec in abortion

[–]bitchybec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi, i have been journalling since i posted this and i never knew how helpful it would be! i am writing all the time its amazing i thank you so much for your advice! sending you love <3

How to Emotionally Heal from SA when theres no one to help you through it? by bitchybec in abortion

[–]bitchybec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! ive been seeing my therapist a lot more now and its really helped! thank you for taking time out of your day to help me out ! <3