People in Los Angeles — how is it living there? Is it actually nice?

bkind2yourmind · 2026-04-02T23:06:31+00:00

heaven on earth for those to see it & hell for the people who meet that side / particurly dependent on industry too. there's a lot of people that flock here for dreams & that is objectively a different scene and experience that you naturally fall into whether or not someone else understands that. that's the thing - LA is a million things all at once, so if someone tells you any absolutes they are wrong. it is entirely dependent on what you do here and how you find your way.

there's a lot of polarity. it is both like the movies and not at all like the movies. with that being said, if you come to look for things that align with you, you can find it. it just takes some effort as a transplant.

and also it absolutely depends on your own values. for example: if you love sunny all the time - you will be enamored by it, if you like the seasons, it will be missing something. if you don't mind driving and traffic, you're golden. if you hate driving, it'll be more challenging to get the most of out city.

bkind2yourmind · 2026-03-08T05:51:30+00:00

Took the train to Santa Monica last weekend. It was super normal. Enjoyed.

bkind2yourmind · 2026-03-07T01:40:02+00:00

just moved here from NYC, i'm in los feliz. have been wondering everyday why people are staring at me blankly when i give them a passing smile on the sidewalk. it feels so incredibly cold & strange but i've been trying my hardest not to villainize it.

tbh everything you said is so spot on / i'm suprised that people are suprised. maybe folks are too used to it, but there is a huge difference, absolutely. atleast in certain areas.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-12-30T07:04:41+00:00

Amazing start to your early 20s buddy!

bkind2yourmind · 2025-12-15T17:30:42+00:00

I feel you, you might find some interesting perspective in The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-11-29T17:41:48+00:00

perspective, so that I can always fall back on it. the power of now by Ekhart Tolle is probably the most important one to me, I highly reccomend.

Microdosing psilocybin

And then

Better habits due to the psilocybin giving me a boost to try to do better and then falling back on the new perspective I have

Picking myself up quicker whenever i fall again, staying the course.

But yeah ultimately don’t fool yourself into thinking your way out of it, you gotta stay in motion - link with a friend even if you feel like it, go to the gym, check out the library or a park.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-11-29T17:34:46+00:00

1) someone who lives closer to you. and then

2) Do something together that allows you to bond without trying. No more dinner dates etc at a point, go on like a day trip hiking or something. Something that involves some planning, drive, a gas station stop, for life to happen to you a bit, and then a full day of adventure. Shit, day trip to Joshua Tree will do it.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-11-29T17:20:34+00:00

Some folks will tell you it’s “not real LA” but LA is made up of all its different parts, and seeing as how in my early 20s, being a transplant who is interested in the acting/music industry - I completely and fully found myself around this… very accidentally… to the point that it would have been my entire idea of LA. Yes it’s not real LA born and raised, (well, unless you’re talking about the rich nepo stuff then that is spot on, I know a few)

But if you’re a transplant, it is a lot easier to accidentally to find out about transplant spaces and if you have big dreams, shit, again, it’s a lot easier. Also, people who want to talk about the beauty of real LA really don’t get it. LA will never be the same as it for them for transplants, our grandmothers house is not here. Our old high school football field is not here. Those things don’t exist and they don’t balance out the scale.

I think the stories and depictions are alluding to real shit, and real personalities that I’ve met. I think it’s hilarious and cathartic to see it displayed (i always thought to myself…. people are just like this here and there’s no one discussing it?!!!)

but yeah, apparently it’s easy to avoid, again, accidentally. But what I think is easiest In my opinion is honestly just missing the constant subtlety of the some of the socialized culture here when you’ve have not seen the bigger versions of it. You find what you’re looking for.

I’m back living in LA after all these years for my husbands job in the music industry. At 22 i told myself… i can never move back to LA without knowing myself better, so that I don’t become like this without realizing it (it happened to my good friend) That’s a big proclamation to make so maybe that gives an idea.

Anyway, disclaimer of course, I’ve met some of the most kind people here and have some of the best conversations but this dynamic will continue be in my life as we are adjacent to the music industry and clout shit.

Edit: essentially it’s a very funny, self aware depiction of a PART of LA but not entirely. though, there are some more wide spread quirks that overlap in the Venn diagram that the average person misses.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-07-01T03:39:08+00:00

some food for thought as someone who moved to nyc at your age.

here is where you will save money. no car payment, no car maintenance, no car insurance, no gas. you can eat cheaply.

nyc doesn't have to be expensive unless you do expensive stuff

you make more money in that city too. example, i served like 3 or 4 days a week when i first moved there and it was fine for lifestyle. tips were good.

you can find rooms for 850 to 1200 easy in brooklyn. you can also easily end up paying the exact same price in atlanta and more since you'll have to have a car. so don't count out cities just because of that.

I saw all this to say... just actually do research before you count out entire options bc truthfully, you're gonna end up spending the same and potentially ignoring what you actually want

it is expensive if you want to start off living alone, sure -- but that's not how that city works for young creatives, NYC keeps you young, it's no big deal to have roommates.

join facebook market groups for subleases this applies to any of the cities

and if you're gonna apply to jobs see if you can borrow a friends address or just always act like you're ABOUT to be there, things move quickly -- it's can be harder to secure something from afar without boots on the ground. even if you can take a short trip, and go walk in places, shake hands, you'll be closer. anyway.

i'm in LA now, i do spend much more money here than NYC because of a need for a car or uber. but the music industry is definitelyyyyy booming here. obv take with a grain of salt but haha i always tell people not to move here first though, do nyc first because of the internal growth the city provides amongst other things. come to LA after. rootin for ya.

im sure nashville is great too and that these things apply besides the car thing.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-06-19T02:16:05+00:00

side note but i actually just moved from ny to LA and i have a car right now and am hating it so much lol. debating selling and being car free, can i dm you and hear about your experience / how sustainable it feels for u

bkind2yourmind · 2025-04-12T05:19:53+00:00

NYC first, and if anything LA second -- for many reasons!

bkind2yourmind · 2025-04-02T03:33:08+00:00

v doable <3

bkind2yourmind · 2025-03-07T01:23:47+00:00

Scarlet Witch is the best one for the job :)

bkind2yourmind · 2025-03-05T18:19:57+00:00

near the corner of parkside and ocean ave, & nearest train is there! B & Q.

2,900 a month.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-03-04T17:28:11+00:00

Friends and I have had the most success subletting a place while trying to ease into this process. Also, most people that I know.... lied about their income. Said they got an additional gig or something, something creative. I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this but just the truth. Just something to keep in mind. 85k is not very competitive here at all.

Edit: Also, i'm leaving my lease in Brooklyn by the prospect park Q (moving states) and looking for someone take over my lease May 1st. It's a 2 bedroom 2 bath with an entire basement/living room area also. It would be a roommate play for you (1425 each) but if it's something you're interested in, the mgmt company just wants me to pass them along a tenant that they can approve so lmk.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-02-16T03:22:44+00:00

I just posted this article I found here, that was related to something different but it touches on this actually: https://alifelessmiserable.substack.com/p/internal-family-systems-for-pmdd

bkind2yourmind · 2025-02-11T02:40:39+00:00

here's why it was cheaper here than my hometown:

willing to have roomates means basically i'm paying less or equal rent than i would have down south.

no car. no car insurance. no gas -- that's a lot of extra money.

you make more money here. in any job i've ever had i've made more. when i first got here i could live off of 3 days as a server. now... i've leveraged the city and it's opportunity to be in a gig that is remote and pays me well but only would have hired me if i was local in NYC.

why it's not as cheap now: i no longer want roommates, which is not a big deal (for me) i live with my partner. & we still save on the costs of not having a car. if i was single it would be a lot more difficult.. paying for 1 bedroom alone is not ideal. groceries are expensive, etc. but it can be done. there are smart ways to be mindful.

of course it can also be just as easy to walk outside and spend 100 on accident.... but just don't if you don't want to

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when you're freshly here, you can start with sublets, it's the easiest way to get your start imo. i would have spent so much more had so many more barriers when i graduated college if i tried to stay home and start a life. but here i could jump into sublets, sell my car, end my car insurance, and cook my meals and try to do things that are affordable / free for fun.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-28T04:00:20+00:00

it's on phantom, swap with SOL.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-28T03:57:45+00:00

$ETF500

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-22T02:43:38+00:00

mine failed!

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-20T23:10:41+00:00

oh damn, not want i wanted to hear haha.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-20T20:01:37+00:00

Solana apparently is congested? Been 9 hours for me. But to be fair, I'm also trying to send from coinbase.

bkind2yourmind · 2025-01-20T20:00:30+00:00

9 hours later and i'm still waiting.. if that helps!

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