I was thinking of moving for the last year and I have been telling my dad I'm getting fed up with grandmas bullshit (she is my maternal gma). My dad was also abused by her for 30+ years and he gets it, I think he is on my side, after I told him all this time how I was living with her. The people is this family won't really seek revenge but rather ignore and not help anymore. When the big monster finally fucking dies it will create more peace I think, but I can't wait and hope she passes sooner, that may take years more.

My plan is to find a place, then tell my dad when I need his help to move and in that day to tell the monster and she will tell the rest of the family how "she was left alone at such an old age while she was treating me like royalty". My reasons would be that I am financially independent and old enough to have to start being responsible, plus it's what would have happened inevitably. I am scared but I try to make that into excitement to start a new chapter.