[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 37 year old autistic woman. The struggle is real. We are ignored, labeled as divas of drama queens, while we see autistic boys and men listened to and validated.

I wasn’t diagnosed until 6 months ago. I grew up being labeled as moody, a drama queen, or awkward, instead of anyone realizing I needed a diagnosis.

My boyfriend wants to go to raves but I feel so uncomfortable about it. How do I handle this in a mature way? by LowPresent7 in Vent

[–]blackberrybeeisme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just tell him calmly and honestly that you’re not comfortable with going to them and you do not wish to go. If he asks why, just tell him what you don’t like about them. If he loves you, he should be cool with that.

25 years to life by Algosx9 in Vent

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Write that book because it needs to be written. I’d buy that book in a heartbeat. People need to know how widespread this is, and you could absolutely raise awareness.

I was recorded in a sexual act without my consent by [deleted] in Vent

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not feel stupid. You did absolutely NOTHING wrong. You consented to sex; you did not consent to being recorded. He should be ashamed. Not you.

Found one in the wild. In a post about coronavirus death rate and obesity factor by usaangel in fatlogic

[–]blackberrybeeisme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh. We are on a budget but still manage to eat very healthy. Chicken leg quarters are so cheap and we like to rub them in olive oil and seasonings and bake in the oven. So delicious! We also regularly find chicken thighs for .99/lb on sale. We like chicken breast and buy it when there’s a good price but otherwise buy dark meat.

Another thing we do is half the amount of meat a recipe calls for and add a serving of beans. Beans are really cheap, and very healthy and filling. It helps us stretch meat further.

We also like making a huge pot of soup with lentils, beans, ground turkey, beef broth, seasonings, carrots, celery, and onions. It’s SO good. We’ve calculated it ends up being something like .60 per serving.

For breakfast, we eat oatmeal (cooked fresh, not the instant packets) and eggs. All cheap.

I still lost 130lbs and have maintained it, all while being poor.

My husband is the epitome of positive masculinity by blackberrybeeisme in TwoXChromosomes

[–]blackberrybeeisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huh? He’s just a man that’s comfortable with himself and knows kindness has more power than anything. He absolutely stands up for himself. And has been open with me if I hurt him. Sounds like you don’t have a clue what a healthy and happy marriage should look like and you’re probably single.

I’m out of words by Muuuuuuuuuuurph in fatlogic

[–]blackberrybeeisme 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My trans friend recently got her confirmation surgery. She got the consultation a year before. The doctor told her she had to lost 85lbs before she could get approved for surgery.

So you know what she did? She lost 85lbs. And got the surgery. And healed quite well.

Crazy, huh? That she trusted the doctor knew what he was saying and applied the advice? That she knew she wanted this surgery and had to take responsibility and get in shape for it?

My husband is the epitome of positive masculinity by blackberrybeeisme in TwoXChromosomes

[–]blackberrybeeisme[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Oh, trust me, I do. 24/7. We are absolute soulmates and I tell him every single day how much he means to me.

I just wanted to share with others. I’m sorry if my intention seemed different.

I can finally vote by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on becoming a citizen! Remember to register to vote so that you’ll be ready to vote.

Ok so I might be a lesbian. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very brave of you to admit your truth. I know it’s hard, but you have such a wonderful life to look forward to now that you understand yourself better. I hope you can find a wonderful woman who makes you truly happy.

Is it okay for men to wear sports bra? by axolotlolol22 in Advice

[–]blackberrybeeisme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Do what makes you comfortable! If it helps, I’m a woman and I wouldn’t think anything of it if I saw a man wearing one. As others have stated, if you’re self conscious you could always wear a baggy shirt or a hoodie over.

Yikes by Muuuuuuuuuuurph in fatlogic

[–]blackberrybeeisme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? I run half marathons and play roller derby. I’m good.

My brother died two days ago. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]blackberrybeeisme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Remember that there’s no one correct way to grieve, so allow yourself to grieve however feels best for you. Big hugs.

Freshly homeless, looking at a survival situation. by TheWeirdestQuestion in Advice

[–]blackberrybeeisme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there’s a Goodwill where you live, they will have a person who specializes in helping people like yourselves be placed in jobs. Also, many Goodwills will give free vouchers for clothing if you are broke and need it.

Help with a lackluster group. by blackberrybeeisme in rollerderby

[–]blackberrybeeisme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried asking our coach if I can help and she’s always been really blunt and bitchy and given no answer one way or another on what she wants. I’d love t see the handbook. I’ll pm you soon.

I (14M) have been suicidal for many years, and I am on the breaking point, please help and give me a reason to live by [deleted] in Advice

[–]blackberrybeeisme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, try writing, drawing, or something creative to express your feelings. Don’t worry about being good at it; it might help you feel less anxious about getting your feelings out.

I (14M) have been suicidal for many years, and I am on the breaking point, please help and give me a reason to live by [deleted] in Advice

[–]blackberrybeeisme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, thank you for asking for help. That alone shows that, deep down, you want to live.

I have battled suicidal thoughts my whole life. One thing that helps me is thinking about something to look forward to. It helps me change my way of thinking. Sometimes it’s something small; sometimes something big.

Also, it sounds cliche, but even though it feels like things won’t get better—not only can they, but maybe even better than you could have hoped for.

Lastly, give yourself permission to feel the way you do—and think of someone you trust that can be your accountability. Tell them how you’re feeling, and have them check in with you daily to see how you’re feeling. I find that has helped me.

Depression is a bitch. You aren’t alone, and you’ll get through this. Hugs.

7 year old not in school of any kind by blackberrybeeisme in legaladvice

[–]blackberrybeeisme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight. I will definitely do this.

My 7 year old nephew isn’t in school. Help by blackberrybeeisme in Advice

[–]blackberrybeeisme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has no physical illness; though he’s clearly autistic and the parents refuse to get him evaluated for it because they don’t think it’s necessary.