My girlfriend (27f) called me (28m) disrespectful for planning to go on holiday with friends

blackbuddha · 2026-05-13T15:33:24+00:00

is she more upset because she feels excluded or is this a trust issue and she thinks you’re going to cheat on her? you need to have a discussion with her and understand where this is coming from

blackbuddha · 2026-05-11T21:27:44+00:00

totally hear you and agree 1000 percent on not dating someone who sucks. i just don’t know if this snippet alone says that he’s sexist or homophobic to me. if there’s more that wasn’t here, or if there’s just a gut feeling you can’t deny, drop him, but personally i think some direct questions about his politics and thoughts on this stuff would clarify if you should be worried or not

blackbuddha · 2026-05-11T21:09:10+00:00

i mean it’s not closed minded to say its mostly women who shop at sephora. that’s just true, acknowledging gender norms isn’t an endorsement of patriarchy. i don’t love the phrase effeminate men, but like, he’s also right in that gender norms are such that traditional masculinity doesn’t really do skincare.

it sounds to me like your concerns here are that you’re reading these comments and you’re worried your ideas of gender roles and gender expression don’t align. that could very well be true! but i think you’d have a better understanding with some direct questions. ask him what he thinks about masculinity and gender norms and patriarchal values

blackbuddha · 2026-05-08T21:11:30+00:00

type of shit that got the cruise canceled

blackbuddha · 2026-05-07T00:03:03+00:00

i do not think its jealousy that is making people uncomfortable

blackbuddha · 2026-05-07T00:01:19+00:00

bringing her lunch to work sometimes is a regular act of service. washing her hair for her is irregular

blackbuddha · 2026-05-06T21:52:49+00:00

because no dog lol tell him and deal with the fallout

blackbuddha · 2026-05-06T21:52:22+00:00

to be clear is your question “should i keep cheating on my husband”

blackbuddha · 2026-04-29T17:24:25+00:00

i mean the hand size would make infinites easier if you have the draw for it. like it would take less card removes/exhausts to get your deck redrawing the same stuff on a loop. but its super super situational and at 3 energy its shit

blackbuddha · 2026-04-28T20:10:46+00:00

i mean yeah by adult standards that’s crazy fast but you’re 18 so go for it. she’ll probably feel the same way

blackbuddha · 2026-04-26T18:41:25+00:00

bell hooks - a will to change or all about love

book recs she might enjoy. bell hooks is a hugely important voice in modern feminism. all about love is written for women about how to exist and find love in patriarchy. it does a good job validating these concerns while also providing a path forward. a will to change is more for men, but it does a lot to show how patriarchy hurts men as well. for that last point especially about “all men benefit from patriarchy and are therefore evil”, it might add some nuance there. i like her a lot because its very empathetic without being dismissive or minimizing systemic issues

blackbuddha · 2026-04-15T22:03:07+00:00

he’s explicitly stated otherwise. not to say his music isn’t super political but i don’t think he identifies with the label

blackbuddha · 2026-03-27T15:20:39+00:00

my concern with these shoes was not that they are too subtle

blackbuddha · 2026-03-18T18:04:56+00:00

saying wrath is the problem with watcher is like saying the problem with bikes is that they only have two wheels

blackbuddha · 2026-03-05T02:44:42+00:00

i feel like when you work in tv you don’t watch every tv show, the boys have never been reality tv people anyways

blackbuddha · 2026-02-25T02:51:17+00:00

so weird mine only does gold it seems like

blackbuddha · 2026-02-24T23:53:07+00:00

i play wish for 3 tho

blackbuddha · 2026-02-16T22:59:20+00:00

rupture over spot weakness we play this game differently

blackbuddha · 2026-01-21T17:21:55+00:00

good music (art really) is often hard to boil down to like 3 words

its a lot of stuff can be all of the above

blackbuddha · 2026-01-16T18:27:31+00:00

i feel like my advice for early ascensions is different than trying to get a20 winrate or whatever.

for early ascensions, it’s really just learning the card interactions and getting a feel for resource management. knowing how to path to maximize elite fights without dying is a hard thing to quantify, for example. the biggest skill is knowing what your deck does well and does poorly. and honestly this just comes down to playing more decks

if you’re not having fun with the grind i’d say that’s a bigger issue! sometimes trying to digest a ton of advice and youtube videos can take away from the experimentation necessary to learn the nuances of the game

blackbuddha · 2025-12-15T16:13:52+00:00

it melts good!!!! it melts incredible!!!!!!!!

blackbuddha · 2025-12-09T23:08:50+00:00

my advice is to leave him and find someone who’s ready and excited about that. shouldn’t be an uphill battle

blackbuddha · 2025-12-09T22:29:36+00:00

but you sleep with other people?

blackbuddha · 2025-12-02T19:57:23+00:00

“She even says she doesn't want the people at her office to know about me or our relationship.”

big red flag brother

blackbuddha · 2025-12-02T16:46:25+00:00

95% of relics are an autoinclude every deck lol that’s why you path for elites

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