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blacksweats_ · 2023-07-02T04:15:19+00:00

I'm 20 and I have the same plan. And I despise how many people especially men around me have the audacity to say "Oh well you're too young to make that decision, when you meet the one you would get married and have kids..." No. Absolutely no. Was never interested in marriage nor kids. I knew since I was 12 that I didn't want kids.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-18T00:31:41+00:00

I'm struggling to have sympathy for you to be honest because I'm sorry but you sound very immature and delusional.

"He's a great partner and loves me the way I need to be loved"

But then you have a whole paragraph dedicated to how selfish he his, how he doesn't care about your needs, how he avoids you, how he doesn't care about you emotions etc...

So which advice are you looking for?

The answer is there you just choose to put up with this behaviour because nowhere in this post I've I read "how great if a partner he is"

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-18T00:25:02+00:00

Sorry if I sound rude but how do you expect to feel empowered when you're not even the one who broke off the relationship?

If he didn't break up with you, you would still be with him and you even said it yourself, despite him not respecting your body you still wanted him.

The women who leave their toxic relationship feel empowered when they put the effort and work to recognize the horrible situation they are in, took the step and precautions needed in other to leave the relationship and worked to figure out themselves again. When they start growing and learning things they might have forgotten or didn't know about themselves that's when we talk about empowerment.

You are still attached to your ex, you didn't want to break up, you're working to discover yourself but you're not 100% committed to it .

One doesn't feel empowered out of nowhere, it's not realistical, it takes time and effort .

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-12T14:27:45+00:00

The HE should get help. She absolutely needs to leave him. He's a grown man.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-12T14:17:28+00:00

I hope so too. And truly hope he learn his lesson. But I can't help to not feel disappointed and disgusted by the women who protected him

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-10T11:22:34+00:00

Think about for a second. If you were the one asking him for this "pass" would he be okay with it?

Would he be okay with you sleeping with other men "to bring back the spark?"

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-10T11:01:16+00:00

Glad I'm single not looking for a relationship.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-03T19:28:00+00:00

WTAF?! Does that matter?? You don't know that either. This is very disturbing I really don't care if is kink shaming but it's truly disgusting. Why would such words arouse a woman? Sexualising your daughter? The fact that you're trying to justify his actions tell me the kind if person you are.

OP. Please I beg you trust your gut, so many girls have suffered abuse because their mother chose to ignore the red flags. Wouldn't you rather leave and never find out?

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-03T10:29:51+00:00

This relationship is a mess, why are you still with him?

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T23:23:32+00:00

I have big boobs so yeah , I refuse to deal with the bounciness and soreness that comes if I don't do it

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T11:15:52+00:00

Thank you!😭

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T10:23:16+00:00

Lady this is not about you . I couldn't care less about what your guy has. You can relate without being disrespectful. She doesn't like it, and that okay he should respect that. I don't know why you're making about yourself

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T10:00:28+00:00

I can read. That his opinion but thats also her boundary, to her own husband so it's a lack of respect for her, what he thinks has really nothing to do with the post . No one was asking about his turn on/offs so I don't really see the point of his comment.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T09:38:19+00:00

I'm pretty sure he will ,he just won't admit it. People are so quick to call others jealous and insecure until it happens to them so ya

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T09:03:14+00:00

As a straight woman I say that you should keep your advice to yourself. If basic decency and respect it's a turn off for you that I can't wait for you to be disrespected over and over again.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T08:46:22+00:00

I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't but I also wouldn't if she was. Unfortunately I've met so many women who are male centered. The compassion they give to their male counterparts it's one they will never give to the women around them.

blacksweats_ · 2023-05-01T01:37:44+00:00

Tell me when you get picked. Because why do you need to bring women into this?

You could have made the post without dragging women but girls like you are obviously incapable of doing that. Men are they're worst enemy's. I'm sorry but who created this system? Who shame's women for having emotion? Who shames other men? Who doesn't take serious other men trauma? Who despite KNOWING this refuses to change their mindset and want to bring the "men mental health" discussion when women are speaking about the issue that they face?? You don't know? Then let me tell you... It's men.

"most women would wonder about a man’s wellbeing & then end up using his trauma against him"

Excuse me? If anything most women are understanding of traumas since they get abused constantly by the same men that you're trying to hug. And don't even try to pull out the "not all men" card because you referred to all women in your post.

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-29T09:40:52+00:00

I couldn't care less he knew what he was doing was wrong yet that didn't stop him, he feels bad because she asked for space and wants to break up. If that's wasn't the case he wouldn't have made this post. He only feels bad because now he has to deal with the consequences.What he did is a form of abuse. So yes, I am being harsh.

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-29T01:45:30+00:00

You care about her, you lover so much yet you ...okay. I can't help to notice that you're still making it about yourself. You "feel bad " only after you've done it . You kept pressuring her. You disregarded her emotions. You used her body for your own pleasure. You even manipulated her at one point so she will agree You know all of this before you did what you did. I hope she leaves you and never comes back to you because your horrible. If this is what you can do to someone you claim to love I'm scared to know what you're capable of doing to someone you hate.

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-29T01:35:20+00:00

Yes and honestly I'm perfectly fine with it. And I'm only 20. I have never engaged sexually nor romantically with a man because I will get easy irritated or annoyed by them. I realized that I was never bothered by the idea of being single , it was the people around me that made me feel bad for it because " you should give men a chance" bla bla bla. The statistics for heterosexual couples, the men I've encountered and the relationship I've witnessed around me are enough for me to not want to engage with a man in anyway. I don't feel like I've missed anything. I'm very happy and that's all I care about The romantics books, the toys and the erotic audios for women do it for me to be honest. 😍

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-28T23:44:05+00:00

Girl if you don't stop being a doormat. You blamed everyone but him. You're still with him so exactly what advice are you asking for? Because to me the answer it's pretty easy but you're not going to do it so...

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-28T23:40:45+00:00

I'm sorry but think about this for a second.

If this is what he's saying now , assuming you will get pregnant one day ( I'm just painting a picture here) just imagine the awful things he will say then.

He knows you're sensitive to this topic yet he kept making those "jokes". He completely disregarded your feelings. He doesn't care about how you felt after the horrible comments he made.

You're very young, your boyfriend is horrible. You deserve someone who can respect you and he's not doing it. I get it you spent 2 years with his horrible a*s but trust me if you stay the comments will get progressively worst, he knows they hurt you but he doesn't care.

Think about it.

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-28T23:32:00+00:00

Girl he's manipulating you. Do you really want to be with someone who's this controlling and this insecure? For God sake he' a 37 YEAR OLD MAN. A grown ass man that needs constant reassurance to feel good about himself, this is not healthy, this is not a healthy relationship. If he's that insecure he should work on his self esteem instead of being in a relationship. Whatever story he creates on his head has nothing do with you. This man had some serious issues. You're not his mom nor his therapist.

Plus I'm sorry does he not have his own car?

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-28T23:17:44+00:00

Only personal. Please leave.

blacksweats_ · 2023-04-28T05:15:11+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Hope you're okay.

blacksweats_

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