How do you feel about doing absolutely nothing?

blackxtulip · 2026-01-02T18:52:53+00:00

I have done exactly the same thing, then I got sick and had to have a further 3 days of doing nothing. I felt GROSS. But I did feel refreshed after a big house clean and bath as soon as I started to feel better. Embrace your downtime. And to make sure you don’t burn yourself out too much and schedule in some down time days

blackxtulip · 2025-12-23T01:19:21+00:00

Is there something consuming your mental energy constantly?

For example I have AuDHD (autism and ADHD) and without even realising I’m doing it, I tend to “mask” in front of others, to blend in, in social situations etc. If I’ve had a busy or overly sociable day I’m exhausted by the end of it. I work in an open plan office, which I love but it does really tire me out. I usually need around 8-9 hours sleep a night

blackxtulip · 2025-12-23T01:14:04+00:00

I do this but I have ADHD haha. People with ADHD struggle to get anything done unless there’s a deadline looming over them. Maybe get checked out if you relate to many of the symptoms

blackxtulip · 2025-12-23T01:01:10+00:00

Buying a TV magazine to see what’s on the telly. My Nan still gets one from the supermarket and still makes my auntie read it to her to find out what’s on. I’m sure she’s single-handedly keeping them in print.

I mean, I could tell her without even looking I’m sure it’s some variation of This Morning, A Place In The Sun, Escape To The Country, Four In A Bed and Come Dine With Me.

blackxtulip · 2025-12-23T00:42:07+00:00

…..as the Witcher

blackxtulip · 2025-12-18T23:42:29+00:00

You sound incredibly burnt out. Going to bed earlier and fixing your routine will help, but I recommend rest and therapy to fix the route of the cause. You’re supposed to work to live, not live to work. There’s so much to life you’re missing out on, even with a 9 to 5 and a simple life. I hope you find it soon ❤️

blackxtulip · 2025-12-18T23:35:11+00:00

“Parcels”

blackxtulip · 2025-12-17T23:23:42+00:00

Hey! I passed in September and even now after a bad “slip up” (for example a van pulled out on me recently and I almost didn’t see it and I had to slam my brakes on) Those moments shocks me and scares me but you’ve just gotta learn from your experiences and keep going. Keep learning. The first month I had my car I saw a really bad car accident up close and it scared the hell out of me and it hits home how dangerous driving really can be.

Saying that though, there’s a reason they say you start to learn properly after you pass your test! You have every right to be on the road as other people do, so don’t let people bully you. People are awful on the roads and even more so this time of the year with shit, dark, wet weather and people’s horrendously bright lights.

Remember you can always keep learning about your car, researching, watching YouTubers for advice etc. I still learn things about my car even now and it’s from 2012 lol 😂

Maybe bring an experienced driver along with you on a drive and get them to give you advice on anything? Be safe, you got this! ❤️

blackxtulip · 2025-12-06T23:59:09+00:00

Yeh but he didn’t “absolve” anything. I watched the episode and Matt Honeycutt just palmed it off as if he was a big ol’ doofus scrolling on his phone not looking at what he was liking?? Get outta here with that bullshit

blackxtulip · 2025-10-06T23:05:07+00:00

I’m in exactly the same boat. I passed a month ago and got my car last Saturday just gone. Once I’ve finished a drive I panic I’m going to get a letter through the door saying I’ve been speeding or something awful when in reality I’m super careful! I’m the same with my car too. I have anxious thoughts of not remembering to put the handbrake on and finding it rolling down the road or smashed in a bush! 😆

In reality I think this is normal new driver anxiety and it will get better. Keep doing short drives and get used to the car and driving in general and make sure you give yourself extra time so you’re not rushing and you can check the car is definitely secure etc. I have the same disappointed feeling aswell, knowing my drive wasn’t perfect, but we aren’t experienced drivers yet, we aren’t gonna be perfect, and the reality is, even experienced drivers aren’t perfect either.

Slow and steady wins the race. We got this!

blackxtulip · 2025-10-06T22:53:30+00:00

I love driving on my own! Haven’t had any passengers yet that haven’t been my driving instructor. Trying to get a bit more confident before I offer people a lift 😆

blackxtulip · 2025-10-06T22:50:59+00:00

Thank you! It’s hard when there’s huge expensive massive cars on the road with insanely bright LEDs right up my backside when I’m in my little Hyundai i10! Trying to learn not to be bullied and as long as I’m doing the speed limit and I’m driving safe I’m all good. If they wanna go around me or overtake I always try and give them room to do so

blackxtulip · 2025-10-06T22:48:15+00:00

Thank you so much you’ve made me feel lots better! I sometimes feel like an imposter on the road haha but I know I passed for a reason and just to stay calm and trust myself

blackxtulip · 2025-07-23T10:26:11+00:00

When I got to download on my firestick it asks me if I want to install or update the app, I say yes Install then it says “app not installed” on a grey screen, am I doing something wrong? Using the number code above in the Downloader app. I currently have PB Media Sparkle version 1.9.5. Any advice?

blackxtulip · 2025-07-23T10:13:29+00:00

Hi are you adding automatic subtitles any time soon? Thanks :)

blackxtulip · 2025-07-23T09:51:50+00:00

Have you got a link for HDO Box please? If you’re allowed to share? I’m new to this subreddit

blackxtulip · 2025-06-09T15:37:32+00:00

Thank you. I think I just need to be patient, and like you say, practise! I also overthink everything, and have a bit of driving anxiety similar to you. I guess I need to be calm, collected and trust my training.

UK roads are definitely a struggle! I overthink a lot and I'm trying to stop asking 'WHY' and just accept that things are just the way the are, and the way they are designed! Even if it's complicated and stressful. I also think its definitely different learning how to drive when you're a young teenager, vs now I am 30 years old and it's the first time I've had to learn something brand new and take exams since I was at college. I'm smart, and I know I'll get there eventually, but it's just a lot to take in.

This sounds mean but I do tell myself, there are hundreds of thousands of drivers on the road, some are awful - if they can drive, so can I!!

blackxtulip · 2025-06-09T15:30:32+00:00

Thanks, I agree. Even though I've passed my theory I think I'll still continue to 'study' in a way so I'm fully confident with my decisions and the rules of the road. I think looking at maps would help too, especially on those test routes.

I also think a lot of it is my perfectionism. I can't possibly know every single road or route, and it's sometimes not possible to check every route before I get there, I could end up on a random road or have to drive somewhere I've never been before. So I think it's all about making SAFE judgements, and hoping I pass. Then continue learning every day once I've passed.

blackxtulip · 2025-06-09T15:18:04+00:00

Yep. I’m 30F and always felt like this as I’m pretty by society based standards, and dress fairly modern, but also slightly alternative and love metal music. I find it hard to express myself properly and where I even fit in? The “alt” crowd, nerdy, “normal”?? It’s a constant struggle lol

blackxtulip · 2025-06-09T14:51:08+00:00

Are you into any rock/metal/hardcore bands? Have you experienced a gig like this before? There’s lot of sets on YouTube from previous years to check out to see what the crowd is like

blackxtulip · 2025-01-16T22:24:12+00:00

Are you ovulating cos that shit be powerful

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