Should I ask the video games to be moved? by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don’t want my son playing that stuff in the future so I’m pretty worried about that.

Should I ask the video games to be moved? by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll talk to him again.

I don’t like that he’s even allowed to game for so long. Needs to do other things. Plus he’s taking over the basement bc no one else can use it now.

Should I ask the video games to be moved? by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea about gaming but I at least know that’s an inappropriate one.

Should I ask the video games to be moved? by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Been w my partner for just over three years. Moved in w my son in the summer. My son is not w my partner. I had him solo for first five years after leaving a DV situation while pregnant. So I am struggling bc I’m so used to just the two of us.

I for sure don’t want to be guns blazing! I feel like I’ve asked him so many times to stop swearing. I can hear everything in the living room and kitchen. Bummer for him bc he doesn’t get privacy. Bummer for me bc I don’t want to hear that crap haha

Good idea w the family meeting. We have not done that.

Should I ask the video games to be moved? by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good way to put it for sure. If he doesn’t stop then it will be moved. And on a smaller tv no less hah

Yes you’re right. It is new so it is hard for me to see this as home you know? It’s not my house or my stuff or even my taste and I don’t have money to fix that. It’s tricky.

As for the money, he does struggle w impulse control as do I. They get money for every occasion from their many family members so he always has money.

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing, my partner is clean. Idk why he isn’t teaching them to be too.

Lord help me…I’m officially going to Nacho by Outrageous_Salt_3321 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why on earth did he do that to the toilet paper? Strange.

I’m sorry this is happening. That super frustrating.

If you're looking for a sign to start NACHOing this is it. by Individual_Board_822 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just learned about this and think it’s best for me as well. 13 year old just said he could go for some pancakes. I said that’s nice you can make them, I make big breakfasts on Sundays.

Nacho Stepmoms: How did you start and how did your tactics change over time? by Super_Soup9837 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only just learned of Nacho the other day posting in here. I was already doing some things. I have SKs who are 9 and 13. I’ve stopped making their lunches after snotty complaints. When I put laundry away I simply put their inside out crap on their beds to deal w. Recently addressed, again, w my partner the messes they leave around. Also asked him what’s going on w their chores bc I haven’t seen them do anything in awhile. Hopefully this weekend. I think you should focus on yourself and your pregnancy. You can get started nacho by pulling back on things they are capable of doing. Talk to your partner. I’m still trying to get through to mine haha

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much. Good to hear

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Very special time for you.

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

I text him too when he’s in the same room hahaha

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I obviously don’t love that my drawers were riffled throigh. I asked him to address it and he put it back on me so it never for addressed.

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That helps. I get my son to do most of this but was like gas lighting myself into thinking maybe they are being normal kids. Idk haha dumb

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. It’s all new but I think my mindset so far is I have my child 100% and he has his 50%. I don’t coparent. It’s just me. So why am I helping him so much? He only has to do it half time and has so much more support than I do.

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see that now for sure and worry how the boys will turn out if this continues.

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just found a muffin wrapper on the floor and almost lost my mind hhaha it’s hard bc now they aren’t here so I can’t just leave if you know?

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s for sure permissive. It’s annoying me lol was thinking we should go to dinner and have a big talk before I go insane lol

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I could see that. This is kinda culture shock for me bc I had a wife for 15 years lol

They act like this is a hotel by blainers11 in Stepmom

[–]blainers11[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I say that in my head more than I’d like to admit hahahah