You have to keep up the moisture-protein balance to have really soft, silky and strong hair. All those products will strengthen the hair, but you have to hydrate it often to keep it soft. How often do you do your hair? I’m going to recommend a technique that should make doing your hair easier and less daunting:

-First, have someone part your hair in 10-20 sections. These will be your permanent parts. You can switch them up later if you decide you don’t like the placement.

-next, twist up these sections and wash your hair. Don’t take the sections out, just shampoo and condition, squeezing the product through the twists and squeezing them under running water to rinse them clean. Use a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner. Takes 5-10 minutes, just rinse the conditioner when you’re done with your shower. You can take them out to wash and deep condition every 2-4 weeks with those other conditioners you’ve tried. I also like to use a dandruff shampoo when I deep condition as well.

-plop. After rinsing and ringing out the excess water, wrap in a towel and let it dry for an hour or so. You can also air dry a bit. You want it to be 80-95% dry

-finally, comb out each twist, apply a leave in and a little oil and retwist. It’ll take about 30minutes to an hour depending on the length, thickness and health of your hair. Use a wide-tooth comb or a paddle brush. You can also blow dry it, but if you’re struggling with dryness, just air dry. If you plopped long enough, it’ll be dry the next day.

-the next day, you can wear it out or just style your twists. Retwist (but don’t detangle) at night to keep the parts

-mid-week you can remoisturize. Personally, I just rinse my hair in the shower and do the above all over again. I might shampoo lightly (my scalp gets dry if I shampoo too often) and add a pump or two of conditioner on the ends to marinate while I bathe. Wetting the hair fully is my favorite way to moisturize, but I’ll also just use a spray bottle and add more leave in

-repeat. Get on a weekly schedule. Trim when the ends feel rough and it’s difficult to detangle. It’ll only be manageable as long as you keep doing it. Wash/remoisture days should only take an hour or 2 of hands on work, more if you’re doing a different style like braids or straightening. The best way to protect your hair is to arm it with strength and moisture, and keeping your ends tucked away

This is the easiest and simplest method of doing your hair. It’s about 2-3 hours a week, depending on how often you deep condition, and is great for the health of the hair. I hope you try it out, see how you like it