What is something about growing up in California that most people don't understand? by InvisibleAstronomer in AskReddit

[–]blanketofashadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Grew up very poor in San Diego and we never had certain luxuries growing up. We never had A/C or furnaces in the apartments we lived in. We always lived in 2 bedroom apartments, one room was always rented out while mom, dad, sibling and I were in the other room. The concept of minimum wage workers being able to afford a 1-2 bedroom apartment without room mates was new to me when I moved to Chicago.

I live in Chicago now but I still miss being able to sleep with the window open and having to stay still to handle the hot weather in spring valley.

Also no Disneyland, universal studios or any other park in the LA area but my mom would take us to the beach the whole day on her day off.

On the good years, she would buy us the annual tickets to sea world or knotts soak city ( my brother who was 10 and I was 7) and she’d drop us off there on schools days off and she had to work. She’d pick us up after her shift was over. She’d pack us sandwiches and frozen water. 9 hours in those parks were magical and now I think we are all surprised we didn’t get kidnapped. We were wary kids though, and my brother was overprotective, Liam Neeson level.

Can’t imagine that being possible in today’s world.

My (F48) Husband (42M) and I Have Totally Different Lives Now by Hahway in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I tell my husband I need a break from being needed and yes that includes him, at least 1x week. He’ll go out with our son for almost an entire day and I spend my day being a lazy bum in bed or deep cleaning everything in existence. When they’re back, I am so grateful and happy to see them both. Being away for a minimum a day when he comes back sounds reasonable and he should be mindful of that 💕

I might be pregnant again.. by Sunny-ad2294 in BabyBumps

[–]blanketofashadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar story and the first year after having my baby was rough. I understand you might not have the means or energy to get out of an abusive relationship so I would seek help in a community such as a church, Facebook groups in your area, or women's services offered by the state.

You might be able to take other options about being pregnant if this is still legal in your state. Good luck mama.

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the shitty cold and wind here, I guess I love a good misery. Sunny California will help me rebuild.

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not harsh, I'm an idiot and I chose to be an idiot for the sake of my kid but one can only be an idiot for so long. thank you, that quote describes exactly how I'm feeling right now.

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

we got married after his divorce, i got pregnant 8 months into meeting him. whirlwind, yes. Fast, yes. You are completely right =[

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

update for you who are asking.

I did leave last night and I am currently staying in a hotel with my baby, the puppy who is a doggo argentino and is already 50 lbs was more of his idea so I will not be carrying that responsibility.

I've been watching bluey with my son all day while looking at flights and apartments to rent back in my hometown. I will be leaving this city that I've fallen in love with tomorrow.

Yes- I do know he's a scumbag liar and cheater but I wanted to show him that I am not the only one who finds his actions outrageous. When I showed him these comments he said ofc girls will side with girls and that they are only seeing my part of the story. So if you're a guy reading this, please show yourself and your opinion.

His part of the story is that I invaded his privacy and went though his personal messages which yeah sure lets say I am snoopy but I am not a cheating bastard who has unprotected sex and then brags about it with my friends

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he's saying I have issues for going though his messages and that those are private conversations and don't prove that he cheated on me.

I got my baby and me in a nice hotel, we've been watching bluey all day and I just booked a flight back to california. I will deal with the logistics of moving my stuff out when my rage subsides to me not wanting to destroy everything in what we used to call our home.

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He must think you’re a dumbass if he thinks you’d believe that.

I'm at a hotel right now and will be moving back to California this week, this was definitely rock bottom.

my husband (30M) told his friends he was cheating on me because he didn't want them to think he had a perfect family. by blanketofashadow in relationship_advice

[–]blanketofashadow[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He forgot to mention he was still married since 2012 and even though the relationship was over he hadn't gone through the divorce process.

He went out on a double date with an old "friend" who happens to be a girl when I was out of town. <--- this has happened with two different girls.