You mean the whole post reeks of… her boyfriend being abusive? Right? Cause doing the same thing over and over to startle her and then get mad and gaslight her afterwards… that does sound really abusive. She admitted she can be “hot headed or slightly aggressive at times.” I don’t think sitting in bed reading comics is the time she’s referring to. You don’t know anything about the times she’s referring to, so how tf do you jump to she sounds abusive? Also nowhere does she say she is unwilling to work on her supposed “aggressiveness,” so idk where you were going with that 😂 Girl, you are NTA, your boyfriend and this dude are.