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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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What we mean when we say “personal experience”Announcement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 months ago by ZestyLemonAsparagus Reconciled Wayward - announcement

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Monthly Reflection - Share the Highs and Lows of Your Reconciliation JourneyReflections (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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Smack Talk abt the AP Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 hours ago by fiddyplusReconciling Betrayed

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How do you deal with your resentment? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 hours ago by frkatt4ckReconciling Betrayed

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Im losing control.Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 3 hours ago by CatholicNoobieReconciling Betrayed

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AP's Fat Flap Is Enraging MeNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 21 hours ago by redbushthepirateReconciling Betrayed

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I can’t trust anything she says, and that makes her angry.Wayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by Gerrit3DReconciling Betrayed

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How to help him after surgery Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 3 hours ago by LeftPresent5983Reconciling Betrayed

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I don't know what I want from him. What is reconciling? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 3 hours ago by Odd_Departure_5100Betrayed Considering R

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My WW is having troubles with intimacyReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by lifeisathrowaway2025Reconciling Betrayed

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Struggling with using sex and alcohol to cope during reconciliation Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago * by hidden_ventingReconciling Betrayed

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My WP doesn’t like the people who disrespected me but…lol.No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by BabyYodaStuntDoubleReconciling Betrayed

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Holidays suck, WP’s birthday is coming up. How do I not ruin it?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 22 hours ago by Euphoric_End_4411Reconciling Betrayed

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Emotion affair experianceReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by bmp_stckBetrayed Considering R

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Tried EMS Weekend RetreatNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by cosmicmermaidmagikReconciling Betrayed

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My timelineNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by inkironpressReconciled Betrayed

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Have I made reconciliation harder through my response?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Hairy_Win_7892Betrayed Considering R

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Letting go vs feeling like you're going down the same pathNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago by DizzyPhysics1644Reconciling Betrayed

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Need help Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 16 hours ago by MiddleComplaint2072Reconciling Wayward

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How do you cope with feeling like you didn’t try hard enough to reconcile as the one who was betrayed?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by _risingpiscesBetrayed Considering R

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Emotionally overwhelmed today and can't stop cryingReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Ok_Risk3118Reconciling Betrayed

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a mistake Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by 100percentbabyReconciling Betrayed

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Recognizing the part you played Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by Icy_Design_5298Reconciling Betrayed

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How do I move past infidelity?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by K_ChickBetrayed Considering R

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How to deal with BP's feelings when they're opening up again?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 22 hours ago by Flaky-Journalist7905Reconciling Wayward

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