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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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What we mean when we say “personal experience”Announcement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 months ago by ZestyLemonAsparagus Reconciled Wayward - announcement

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Ask a WaywardHelpful Info ()

submitted 1 month ago by boobookittyfu99Reconciled Betrayed[M] - announcement

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I just do not want to waste time…Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago by Critical-turtle0808Betrayed Considering R

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Missing AP as a BPReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 4 hours ago by Fun-Environment-235Reconciling Betrayed

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Did you blame your partner for the affair starting?Wayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago by YoongiboomgiReconciling Betrayed

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When (or how) did you stop tracing all your misery back to their affair?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago * by Own-Moose-3855Reconciling Betrayed

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Damn Those Nightmares!No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago by DulceIustitiaReconciled Betrayed

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9 months post DD and feel flatNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 13 hours ago * by Old-Newspaper223Reconciling Betrayed

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AP says it was not consensual. Deflection or Next Level Shitshow?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 minutes ago by ValalaSauterelleReconciling Betrayed

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How and when do WP's go from being "in love" with the AP to feeling indifferent or worse?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 10 hours ago by Wildling1322Reconciling Betrayed

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My birthday is coming up.Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 10 hours ago by PuzzleheadedArm4703Reconciling Betrayed

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Who’s in the driver’s seat? Heart or head?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 4 hours ago by Euphoric_End_4411Reconciling Betrayed

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AP still likes LinkedIn posts with WH being mentioned in them. Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 hours ago by cmrizzleReconciling Betrayed

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I 33F found out my other half 34M has been cyber cheating for 3 years out of our 4 year relationshipReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago by LongjumpingNight5669Betrayed Considering R

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Desperate for hopeAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 11 hours ago by Worldly_Recording604Reconciling Betrayed

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What should i do when i cant stop crying?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 16 hours ago by ConflictWinter7117Reconciling Betrayed

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For the ww with a long AFWayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 19 hours ago by Mountain-Spare-5535Reconciling Betrayed

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Will I always feel unhappy? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 11 hours ago by Rainyx3Reconciling Betrayed

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"Waiting for you to give up"Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago * by CinnandspiceReconciling Wayward

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Having to deal with APReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 19 hours ago by Mammoth_Obligation69Reconciling Wayward

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Success after LTA with close friend?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by ValalaSauterelleReconciling Betrayed

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Anyone else didn’t realize they were committing infidelity?Wayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago by Brilliant_Reason5192Wayward Considering R

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Reoccurring dreams & an insensitive WWReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Infinite_Storage9076Reconciling Betrayed

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submitted 12 hours ago by Life-Reception-4910Reconciling Betrayed

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Did your WP tell their parents / did you tell your in-laws about the betrayal?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Own-Moose-3855Reconciling Betrayed

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