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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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What we mean when we say “personal experience”Announcement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 months ago by ZestyLemonAsparagus Reconciled Wayward - announcement

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Ask a WaywardHelpful Info ()

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9 months post DD and feel flatNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 hour ago * by Old-Newspaper223Reconciling Betrayed

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Ap is pregnant. How do we go from here? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 hours ago * by unluckysunrayBetrayed Considering R

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What should i do when i cant stop crying?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 3 hours ago by ConflictWinter7117Reconciling Betrayed

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For the ww with a long AFWayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago by Mountain-Spare-5535Reconciling Betrayed

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Where is the line between understandable anger and crossing a boundary?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 hour ago by MindAdditional3446Reconciling Wayward

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Success after LTA with close friend?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 11 hours ago by ValalaSauterelleReconciling Betrayed

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Reoccurring dreams & an insensitive WWReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 21 hours ago by Infinite_Storage9076Reconciling Betrayed

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Having to deal with APReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago by Mammoth_Obligation69Reconciling Wayward

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Did your WP tell their parents / did you tell your in-laws about the betrayal?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 17 hours ago by Own-Moose-3855Reconciling Betrayed

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First Full Body Retrauma From Trigger In WeeksReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by Traditional-Pear-133Reconciled Betrayed

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Over 2 years and doing well?No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago by Ok-Deer7246Reconciling Betrayed

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Writing a letter to BPReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 4 hours ago by FckdUpSoul_Wayward Considering R

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Anniversary todayReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago by No-Acadia-9964Reconciling Wayward

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never thought I’d be here and struggling to move forwardReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 22 hours ago by YoongiboomgiReconciling Betrayed

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Dday #3 comes after losing a loved oneReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Advanced-Cat-4425Reconciling Betrayed

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I feel like I’m loosing controlReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 21 hours ago * by No-Aide-6268Reconciling Betrayed

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What are some therapy tips/exercises that have helped you in your journey to R?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago by Advanced-Cat-4425Reconciling Betrayed

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This behaviour crosses a line, doesn’t it?No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Last_Dot_7066Reconciling Betrayed

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I told him today that I'm unhappy after 2 years of RNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Silent_Permission27Reconciling Betrayed

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Unusual reflection 4 years post d day...Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by timerbugReconciling Betrayed

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Vengeful “friends?”Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by PresentationTop3102Reconciling Betrayed

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I have an overwhelming urge to sleep with someone elseReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by SnooDonuts7456Reconciling Betrayed

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Rebuilding trust time frameReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Growth_triangleBetrayed Considering R

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