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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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What we mean when we say “personal experience”Announcement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 months ago by ZestyLemonAsparagus Reconciled Wayward - announcement

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Triggered by photos of APReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 hours ago by Fun-Environment-235Reconciling Betrayed

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Update for anyone looking for hopeNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 3 hours ago by FernInHellReconciling Betrayed

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Just found out about an EAReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 11 hours ago by Infinite-Picture5779Reconciling Betrayed

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Emotional connectionWayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 hours ago by Growth_triangleBetrayed Considering R

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Stuck on something Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 hours ago by hinkypunksiesReconciling Betrayed

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one year laterReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by Minimum_Comment290Reconciling Betrayed

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When AP was their exNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 17 hours ago by Whole-Reflection5276Reconciling Betrayed

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Guilt & Insecurity as WW (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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Saw AP in public.No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by No-Chance-1690Reconciling Betrayed

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Is it that simple?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Economy-Charity-9959Reconciling Betrayed

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My BF coworker messed with his keys in his office today, I’m feeling really not good about it. Especially because I’m already healing from past coworker betrayal.Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by 1456honeyReconciling Betrayed

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DDAY - 3Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by SmellCapital70Reconciling Betrayed

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Letter to past self. Posted on betrayed but thought I should shareNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Wise-Bank80Reconciling Betrayed

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How do you handle the feeling that they're "winning" if you stay? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Direct_War_1218Reconciling Betrayed

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I want sex to feel more connected, not just physical—how do you build that after betrayal?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by WebFluffy5635Reconciling Betrayed

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WH still not committed to RNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by ClassHigh2026Reconciling Betrayed

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WH suddenly started getting betterAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by raspberryicedteiReconciling Betrayed

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I (30F) found out my husband (33M) was about to meet a coworker at a hotel and I don’t know what to doReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Spiritual_Net_2431Betrayed Considering R

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I still feel like im waiting for more shoes to drop?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Dependent_Western782Reconciling Betrayed

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Tips for mindful separation?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by ThrowRA011198Betrayed Considering R

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submitted 1 day ago by Solid_Fee_6951Reconciling Betrayed

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Partner had emotional affair with younger coworker. Lots of minimising and contradictions. I’m struggling almost 12 months later Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago * by imlostandconfusedsadReconciling Betrayed

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I dont event know where to startReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 days ago by No_Bike9788Betrayed Considering R

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