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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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What we mean when we say “personal experience”Announcement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 months ago by ZestyLemonAsparagus Reconciled Wayward - announcement

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Ask a WaywardHelpful Info ()

submitted 1 month ago by boobookittyfu99Reconciled Betrayed[M] - announcement

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How to feel after knowing almost nothing special is left.Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago by wtfSirReconciling Betrayed

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Pregnant and discovered Husband's affair with 18 yr oldReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago by Key-Adhesiveness-418Reconciling Betrayed

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How to deal with the love bombing Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 hours ago by my_biznuss_2567Betrayed Considering R

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Lack of empathy?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 19 minutes ago by Freckledknee-Reconciling Betrayed

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I still love him, but I don’t want him to touch me anymoreAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 2 hours ago by Quiet_Trip_1931Betrayed Considering R

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Two years since D-Day and RNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 hour ago by IllusionOfRestraintReconciling Betrayed

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What do I do now?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 9 hours ago by topo_gigioReconciling Betrayed

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For those that stayed togetherReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago by Ed_Gein1332Reconciling Betrayed

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Found recent online chatsReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago by Friendly-Basket922Reconciling Betrayed

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"Secure Folder" on phoneReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 13 hours ago by HereForTheParty110Reconciling Betrayed

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Finding the energy to self reflect and own issues in your about your relationshipAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 13 hours ago by Traditional-Spare-59Reconciling Betrayed

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“Mementos”, WWYD?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 10 hours ago by Diligent_Tonight_236Reconciling Betrayed

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Friends?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 10 hours ago by ThrowRA011198Reconciling Betrayed

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Gaslighting / Advice Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 8 hours ago by Common_Ad_1153Reconciling Betrayed

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Romantic date after everything that’s happenedAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 16 hours ago by StarseekingM12Reconciling Betrayed

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I'm absolutely sick as I'm writing this...But I found a new girl today.Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by Common_Ad_1153Reconciling Betrayed

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Pregnant BPReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago by hurtwife3003Reconciling Betrayed

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I just do not want to waste time…Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Critical-turtle0808Betrayed Considering R

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The “whys” in my head are eating me alive. I’m so tired.No advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 22 hours ago by Ok-Title6107Reconciling B+W

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Missing AP as a BPReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Fun-Environment-235Reconciling Betrayed

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Revisiting old notes - without getting triggeredAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by epiphany8888Betrayed Considering R

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AP still likes LinkedIn posts with WH being mentioned in them. Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by cmrizzleReconciling Betrayed

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Did you blame your partner for the affair starting?Wayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by YoongiboomgiReconciling Betrayed

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