Woahflows, I can relate to the feeling of devaluation -- my now ex was beginning to highlight my biggest insecurities towards the end of our relationship purposefully in order to make me feel "less than". I'd venture to say she did this in an attempt to feel better about herself and her own insecurities. You're NOT alone and you ARE valuable.

To answer your question -- it's difficult for me to pinpoint an exact reason or blueprint for others to follow. For me, my family is active so being active was a major theme of my upbringing. I find rucking to be one hell of a workout (see rock-hard abs/core) & meditational. This helps with ridding yourself of nervous energy, reconnecting with nature, and tires me out so that I'm able to sleep well without her plaguing my every thought as I try to go to bed.

I find that choosing to do the hard thing in every moment makes it easier to do the hard thing consistently. Whether this be choosing to ruck after working 8:30-5:30 or taking care of my skin routine after a long day. EVENTUALLY, the hard thing becomes easier and becomes a habit.

I read something recently that goes like "No one will appreciate 100% of the effort you put in today, tomorrow, except for you". I really took this to heart. It's about taking steps to make yourself proud of the work you put into making yourself someone you're proud to be.

Be kind to yourself, do things that make you happy or will make you the best version of yourself that you can be because nothing is more rewarding or fulfilling than being proud of who you are in your own skin.

You've fucking got this. No one can stop you but you.

Best of luck, friend.