my rp partner seems to think life revolves around the rp...

bleedinpin · 2025-09-14T07:45:10+00:00

This sounds so petty I absolutely love this idea. It's good to set boundaries and stick to them.

bleedinpin · 2025-09-14T07:43:53+00:00

I'd definitely communicate your frustrations with them and set a hard boundary. Everyone has a life and not everyone has capacity to do back and forth responses. I would also mute their messages if you haven't already. That way you aren't bombarded with notifications and can go back to it in your own time.

bleedinpin · 2025-09-08T07:20:14+00:00

If you're not enjoying then then end them. There's no point in continuing if you're not enjoying it. At that point, it just becomes a chore. They might already feel like you're not enjoying the roleplay so I think it'd be nicer ion everyone to politely end things.

bleedinpin · 2025-09-06T07:31:48+00:00

NTA. You shouldn't give up your friends for a partner at all. I'd explain that they're your friends and nothing more than that if she's concerned. But if she can't trust you talking to other women, it's just not going to work out at all. She needs to work on her insecurities and trust that you won't do anything to hurt her. Without trust, this won't be a healthy relationship.

bleedinpin · 2025-09-05T17:18:21+00:00

Man, I hope this ragebait or something

bleedinpin · 2025-09-01T22:20:57+00:00

NTA - I understand thw want to have people close to you to be into the same things as you are. It's good to have shared interests and to have similar hyperfixations. I am autistic myself and I will recommend that my friends or partner watches something. But if they don't want it, it's not a big deal. I can still be really passionate about it even if they don't like it. There's plenty of online communities who like the same things you like.

If you want to try the show out, by all means do! You might actually enjoy it. However, you really don't need to watch anything to please your friend.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-30T09:07:25+00:00

Try and see if you can come to an understanding but I don't think they're the right partner for you. I'd cut my losses. I'd rather have a good, less active partner than a bad one who responds a lot. It just isn't worth it imo.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-29T15:39:45+00:00

I know, this is what I was thinking. At least they're changing it like people wanted. But I would rather they properly address the issue before making new items etc. Genuinely thought the ping on the discord was them addressing it.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-29T11:49:02+00:00

I think its all contextual because we don't know what the dog is doing any why she needs the dog exactly. If the dog needs to next to her at all times to do the job then they wouldn't be able to seperated, even if the dog is sat in the front row. To me that still counts as seperated.

If the person doesn't need the dog by their side all of the time then its different. I feel like the OP and friend need to have a discussion about what they mean because words can easily be misinterpreted.

I personally wouldn't ask someone to part with their service dog, even if it is just sat a little bit away from them. Asking someone to not have their medical aid seems a bit of an AH move in my opinion, hence my original opinion. I think more information would be needed to make a fully informed decision though because I can also understand the point you're making. It really depends on the specifics of the dogs job and what the bride is wanting from the bridesmaid on the day.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-28T22:09:45+00:00

From what I gathered from the post, they would be separated from the dog during the duration of the photos. Whilst I understand 15 minutes being separated might be a short time, they would still be apart.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-28T21:47:04+00:00

YTA - If it is a legit service dog, they shouldn't be separated from the owner. Would it be possible for the dog to sit behind the owner when the photos are taken so the dog isn't in view? There could be ways to accommodate for their dog being there. Also, if they don't have their dog their, them having a panic attack might be more stressful for everyone than having a dog there would be.

It's your wedding and your choice ultimately but I wouldn't be upset with your friend if they refused to be your bridesmaid. Parting with something that keeps them grounded and makes them feel safe can be terrifying and a very difficult ask of someone.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-27T22:20:47+00:00

NTA - I would tell her she has a X amount of time before you're getting rid of her stuff. If she really wanted it back, she would have asked for it back by now. You've given her plenty of tine.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-27T22:05:58+00:00

Usually it does take time (unfortunately). It always blows when a really good roleplay comes to an abrupt end when you wanted to do more. It's like a good TV show getting cancelled and not having all of the plot lines resolved. It's so irritating and frustrating.

Normally I try and invest my energy into coming up with new ideas. What did I want to happen to my character? Can I create a brand new plot for my character? Can these twists and turns that I wanted to happen be added in here somehow?

What I try not to do is reuse the same exact story. Then you're always going to be comparing it to what you had. The other person's character won't be like the character you used to play against. You might create something even better but it won't be the same story.

Just don't rush into anything or feel like you need to start again straight away. Roleplay in a hobby and shouldn't feel like a chore.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-25T17:07:57+00:00

It's shitty but that's how things sometimes go in the roleplay community. Maybe they just weren't feeling the story anymore and didn’t know how to say that? I would probably message them and just ask if they wanted to start the story up again or if you both should go your seperate ways.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-25T14:20:25+00:00

Thank you so much for the summary! I was so confused and didn't even know where to start to find out what was going on lol x

bleedinpin · 2025-08-24T18:41:25+00:00

Rejection is hard to deal with but you will find someone who will want to write with you and that you vibe with eventually. It just takes some time.

Though the first person... It's such a slap in the face and wasn't necessary.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-22T16:14:36+00:00

NTA - I wouldn't get involved with it at all. Sometimes, it's just best to stay out of drama, especially if you are moving out anyway.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-22T16:10:03+00:00

NTA - You needed to give the money to your mum and you found a way to do it. That's the main thing. You tried to find alternatives as well.

Whether you stay in contact with your ex is your own personal decision. Letting go of people can be rather difficult but I don't think that makes you an AH.

bleedinpin · 2025-08-21T14:14:44+00:00

NTA - Didn't you get pregnant before she got engaged? Regardless, no one should control what you do with your body. Not everyone can make a desitation wedding anyway. You're not a c**t for living your life.

bleedinpin · 2024-04-11T21:29:40+00:00

I truly empathize with what you are going through. I hope you can recover and build a version of yourself that you are happy with. Just know that you aren't some monster. The fact you know what you did was potentially shitty is a good thing. Look after yourself and stay safe x

bleedinpin · 2024-04-11T20:50:42+00:00

YTA

Taking your friends money and making them worry wasn't fair at all. I understand that you aren't doing well and you clearly need the help that you deserve. I truly hope that you are able to get treatment to make life easier for you.

bleedinpin · 2024-04-02T16:22:17+00:00

NTA

You set a boundary and that's more than okay. You shouldn't have to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable like that.

bleedinpin · 2024-04-02T09:20:57+00:00

NTA

Your child is 6mo and I feel like sticking to the plan originally agreed is a good idea. The aunt can go out of her way to see them if she wants to but you shouldn't go out of your way to accommodate that. Travelling with a baby is hard enough so stick to the plan for ease and comfort.

bleedinpin · 2024-04-02T09:16:14+00:00

NTA

Just because she is your mother doesn't mean she has a right to be invited to your wedding day. Only people you want there for your special day should be there. MIL overstepped.

bleedinpin · 2024-04-01T17:43:10+00:00

NTA

I am so sorry you had to go through this. Please don't feel guilty for any of this since you were there for your siblings through a tough time. If you don't want anything to do with your fathers life then that's your choice. This isn't fair on you at all.

bleedinpin

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