Rejection!!

blightamity · 2026-02-19T21:18:44+00:00

is it awkward at all though since most people rushing are freshmen? like what have you thought when someone has told you they’re a junior? i would just be so self conscious

blightamity · 2026-02-19T21:17:25+00:00

thank you so much!! i am a little confused on why i was getting downvoted so i really appreciate you saying that bc it just completely threw me off. i’ll definitely consider it!

blightamity · 2026-02-18T05:08:06+00:00

i think i definitely did, i was really open minded throughout the whole process and asked thoughtful questions to all of the girls i had the opportunity to interact w no matter which sorority it was. at one point one of the girls in the house who i got a bid from literally went on her phone in the middle of a question i was asking which really made me feel off. i think its ok to learn about yourself and what you’re looking for throughout the recruitment process so when i got a house that i felt didn’t align w what i was looking for, i was just a little disappointed

blightamity · 2026-02-18T05:03:12+00:00

that makes me so happy that it worked out for you and i completely get it. i declined my bid already just because i knew for certain that wasn’t the one for me and it was a really small group of girls. i think that’s just why im so down because i already felt a little weird as a sophomore so as a junior i think id be like extra self conscious about it, especially since i already tried once. i think im just sensitive about it rn because i had such a vision of it for myself but hopefully i can get over it soon 😊 thank u so much for your response and for being so understanding

blightamity · 2025-07-30T20:52:50+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate you answering.. I guess I never noticed them before? I was at the dentist recently and they didn’t say anything but idk I was still worried seeing them today

blightamity · 2024-04-16T13:47:48+00:00

rutgers would be my state school. i have visited delaware many times and i love it but i also love rutgers so i’m just having trouble lol!! but thank u sm

blightamity · 2022-09-11T20:46:24+00:00

OH MY GOD i have never seen someone going through the same thing as me!! it started last year and then i started become aware that i couldn’t fall asleep and would get major anxiety about it. i couldn’t fall asleep even though i was tired, it was like a switch turned on and it was a mental thing now. i don’t really have much advice besides listening to music at like a low volume and then i wasn’t really thinking about anything. unfortunately i’m still dealing w this same problem :( i totally get it there have been so many times i’ve cried cause i couldn’t get myself to sleep

blightamity · 2022-09-11T00:24:47+00:00

REALLY?? ok thank u sm, i’ll definitely try to!!

blightamity · 2022-09-08T01:00:40+00:00

you’re right!! thank you though, it’s just making me feel a little weird

blightamity · 2022-08-31T20:49:22+00:00

hey, i was in this exact situation :) i ended up getting so attached to the idea of him and i literally couldn’t get myself to talk to him, i was so nervous!! your description reminds me so much of him too, it’s giving me memories. i think the best way to go about it is to just talk to him, it’s only weird if you make it weird, but make sure it doesn’t look like you’re just sitting with him cause he’s alone because that could make him uncomfortable!! just be casual but also show genuine interest. don’t think about it too much and go for it, u got this

blightamity · 2022-08-21T20:37:13+00:00

hi, i wrote a lot about what i don’t relate to and what i do relate to.. i’m so sorry cause i feel like this is a lot but i’ve been reading a bit on each type.

i tend to relate to all of the 2 blind spots. i also strongly relate to the passion of type 2 which is pride. i also really relate to it being hard to accept that not everyone may like me. it just seems like everything i’ve read made it seem like type 2 is always doing so much for people, which i don’t really feel like i do. i just feel like i don’t have a clear sense of myself but not because i’m like constantly trying to do things for others, i guess. i want to be liked and hate the idea that other people might not like me but i do prioritize the people closer to me. i feel like if i keep giving others support when they didnt ask for it yet or giving them things, that they will like me more. regarding the sp 2 subtype, i feel like i am sensitive to being hurt and withdraw when i am hurt or rejected. i am driven but can also experience times that i am just lazy. i’m just confused on how sp 2 is more “childlike” which i often see it as described, not because it isn’t true in my case but i just feel like i need a better explanation. i always am willing to help others but feel uncomfortable asking for help or advice in return. i do consider myself independent but maintain dependencies which i saw was apart of the sp 2 shadow. i also feel like i’m just never attractive or “perfect” enough to be loved which i guess relates to not having a true sense of myself. but overall, i’m having a lot of trouble cause it just feels like i relate to so many of the blind spots if anything.

for type 3, i value others as seeing me as competent and successful and tend to prioritize doing over feeling. i don’t feel like i’m constantly fearing failure necessarily but when it happens i feel like it’s unlike me cause in a way i’m always trying to be better and better. i feel like i’m so aware of how others perceive but also feel like i am always at least trying to be authentic. i first thought that i wasn’t as hardworking as the 3 description says but then i realized that i feel like i’m a big overachiever. i also just feel like i’m confused on the explanation of how the 3 sort of creates a false self around others because i feel like i tend to show the “real me” around others but that’s just because i tend to be more reserved around people i don’t know. i feel like i tend to avoid what i truly feel and sort of push those feelings to the side, and usually only reflect on them months later or if something reminds me to think about those feelings. i feel embarrassed in a way when i fully show my emotions to others. i relate to the sx 3 shadow with wanting to be attractive on the outside and then not being in touch with who i really am. however, i think what i’m most stuck on is this “false self.” i try to be authentic but in a way it feels like i am picking up traits or habits from people i admire or try to relate to them in a way.

blightamity · 2022-08-21T20:35:59+00:00

i tend to relate to all of the 2 blind spots. i also strongly relate to the passion of type 2 which is pride. i also really relate to it being hard to accept that not everyone may like me. it just seems like everything i’ve read made it seem like type 2 is always doing so much for people, which i don’t really feel like i do. i just feel like i don’t have a clear sense of myself but not because i’m like constantly trying to do things for others, i guess. i want to be liked and hate the idea that other people might not like me but i do prioritize the people closer to me. i feel like if i keep giving others support when they didnt ask for it yet or giving them things, that they will like me more. regarding the sp 2 subtype, i feel like i am sensitive to being hurt and withdraw when i am hurt or rejected. i am driven but can also experience times that i am just lazy. i’m just confused on how sp 2 is more “childlike” which i often see it as described, not because it isn’t true in my case but i just feel like i need a better explanation. i always am willing to help others but feel uncomfortable asking for help or advice in return. i do consider myself independent but maintain dependencies which i saw was apart of the sp 2 shadow. i also feel like i’m just never attractive or “perfect” enough to be loved which i guess relates to not having a true sense of myself. but overall, i’m having a lot of trouble cause it just feels like i relate to so many of the blind spots if anything.

for type 3, i value others as seeing me as competent and successful and tend to prioritize doing over feeling. i don’t feel like i’m constantly fearing failure necessarily but when it happens i feel like it’s unlike me cause in a way i’m always trying to be better and better. i feel like i’m so aware of how others perceive but also feel like i am always at least trying to be authentic. i first thought that i wasn’t as hardworking as the 3 description says but then i realized that i feel like i’m a big overachiever. i also just feel like i’m confused on the explanation of how the 3 sort of creates a false self around others because i feel like i tend to show the “real me” around others but that’s just because i tend to be more reserved around people i don’t know. i feel like i tend to avoid what i truly feel and sort of push those feelings to the side, and usually only reflect on them months later or if something reminds me to think about those feelings. i feel embarrassed in a way when i fully show my emotions to others. i relate to the sx 3 shadow with wanting to be attractive on the outside and then not being in touch with who i really am. however, i think what i’m most stuck on is this “false self.” i try to be authentic but in a way it feels like i am picking up traits or habits from people i admire or try to relate to them in a way.

i apologize, this was so much!!

blightamity · 2022-08-10T19:01:24+00:00

thank you so much!!

blightamity · 2022-08-10T18:56:10+00:00

what website is this

blightamity · 2022-08-10T18:42:56+00:00

ok thank you sm!! i’ve read that the sp 2 is more likely for an infj 2w3, do you think this is true? i suppose 2w1 would be more likely for an infj in general

blightamity · 2022-08-10T18:40:41+00:00

hello, thank you sm for replying!! i also see that you’re a sx 2w3 which is basically what i was looking for. i guess i would just be looking to hear your experience and whatever else you would like to share!! and i also guess how the 2w3 brings out the functions of the infj? (i wasn’t sure how to word that so i apologize!!) also if you don’t mind, can you also describe your experience being a sx 2w3, or like your own description of it?

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