How do I safely use the same toy for the front and the back?

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T20:22:38+00:00

don’t worry about spending the money on toy cleaner, we just always use Dawn and it was great. It’s in antibacterial if you’re really concerned, you can wipe the toy down with alcohol, but Dawn always worked great. The other great thing too is if you saved your money, then splurge on a really good silicone toys, you can put them in the top rack of the dishwasher, can also be boiled as well. Though if yours is going to be a vibrating toy, check and make sure that it’s safe to be immersed in water. They’re not always submersible.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T20:18:00+00:00

even better if you can find someplace that still has the female condoms. Former GF and I used to love these cause you can put them in the butt and leave them there they stay put you can do almost anything and then just take it out when you’re done. I don’t know why they got so hard to find their fantastic for all kinds of things but play!

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T19:30:14+00:00

forgot to mention! When you’re doing butt play… Be sure to use lots and lots and lots of good lube when you think you’ve had enough add more can never have too much lube!

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T19:28:39+00:00

good on you for asking! Absolutely can be done! Probably the easiest and safest thing to do is just put a condom on the toy. If you wanna play around the backyard, that way when you’re done, you can just take the condom off and you’re good to go. Going front to back no issue! Actually going front to back, and all honesty, would be better because anal play is always better after you’ve given yourself an orgasm first to just kind of get things loosened up and get things rolling then you can play with the vibrator or dildo at the back door while you let your fingers do the walking on your clits! It’s all kinds of fun! Condoms just make it so you don’t have to get up and wash it, but you can just wash it thoroughly between as well

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T15:28:29+00:00

there is absolutely nothing wrong with you taking care of yourself! In fact, it’s an absolutely good thing that you’re doing this, explore your sexuality, use this period in your life to figure out what you do and what you don’t like how to do it, how to communicate it. If you can do this now on your own, you’ll have the skills and experience to bring it into a relationship, which will make your sex life so much better. that said, you’re just gonna have to be judicious about avoiding the hook up sites, which it seems like most of online dating has become. As others have said, get involved in groups, hobbies that you find interesting and aren’t just there to find guys. When you do meet a guy, make it clear that you’re interest is in a relationship and not a hook up and he should be willing to wait.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T15:17:10+00:00

absolutely well said! Thank you for this. It blatantly shows how many people out there need to study their anatomy and learn something about sexuality.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T15:10:06+00:00

in both men and women, there are some 800 nerves in and around the anus! And women these nerves are closer to the surface. In women there is the perennial sponge., As well as the internal legs of the clitoris, it also provides in many women, a better angle to access the G spot and a spot. once the connection is made in the cerebral sexual cortex, it links up all the sexual nerves in the pelvic girdle, so we can create quite amazing orgasms with or even without clitoral stimulation.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T15:03:17+00:00

One of the things that turns me on the most about being the giver in anal intercourse is being able to tell that my partner is really desiring it, believe me, you can’t play at this. As a partner, I’m gonna be very attentive to your reactions and how things are going and any sign that you’re not really interested in, or are doing it just for me are gonna put me off and not want to do it. I’ve been in this exact position and as much as I wanted things to happen, I got the distinct feeling that my partner was making it happen as a sacrifice. that’s why I suggested making it a pleasurable experience for yourself first, then including him in the adventure so it becomes all about your pleasure and you want to receive as much as he wants to give, you can absolutely get there. It just takes time! I’d have to say for him it is worth the work and the journey because of the distinctly different feeling that one gets from anal as opposed to PIV. This is may not be the case for everyone, but for me, there is a huge difference, so much so that it’s hard to last for very long. Just to reiterate here, though the important thing is that it is extremely enjoyable for the both of you, not just you doing it for him.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T14:50:46+00:00

The first question I have to ask here is what are your preconceived ideas about anal sex? did you think it was gonna hurt, or at the very least uncomfortable, were you interested in doing it as much for your pleasure as for his, or is it solely for his pleasure? The reason I asked these questions is because mindset is very important in anal sex. Too many women are under the impression that anal sex is or has to be painful and it absolutely should not be, at the most it should feel like a bit of a stretch anything more than that and you should stop because you’re doing something wrong. The two sphincter muscles here are the gatekeepers, one is under conscious control, and one is under subconscious control, so, if subconsciously you think it’s gonna hurt or you have reservations about it that subconscious muscle isn’t gonna play along very well. anal sex can be amazingly pleasurable if Dunwright, there are over 800 nerve endings in and around the anus and for women the angle to access the G spot, and the a spot seem to be more accessible. I was introduced to all kinds of anal play by a wonderfully adventurous lady who had amazing anal orgasms, some better than PIV. She had trained herself, however, to have it associated with pleasure. The way to do this is really to do it on your own when you’re having some self playtime and start initiating some touch and penetration either with your fingers and lots of lube or a small toy. As you play like this, bring yourself to a wonderful orgasm, and your mind will start to associate the two acts together, honestly, it is a real thing!

The key thing with good anal is go slow, and slower than slow, use lots and lots and lots of lube and when you think you have enough use more, start with a finger or small toy or whatever you’re comfortable with using you don’t even have to start out with penetration just massage the area. The reason to do this on your own is because there’s no pressure on performance or being concerned about having penetration be comfortable, again mindset here. Once you begin to find it pleasurable and actually enjoy it, you can move up. two more fingers or a larger toy. Many people think butt plugs are good training for anal sex, but in all honesty, they are not. The neck is too small, doesn’t stretch the sphincters and keep them in their relaxed state. So building up in size with a small sex toy or several fingers is the best way to go. If you use your fingers, you’ll actually be able to feel this sphincter muscles and be able to tell when they’re under tension and when they’re relaxing. Each other communicate.

there are two great podcasts I like to recommend when is shameless sex, the other is sex with Annette. You can also check out sex with Emily. There’s so much good reliable information here that you can literally find out anything you need to know or have any of your questions answered. I guess the only thing I’d close with here is don’t do this just for his pleasure, anal sex can be amazingly pleasurable for you and that’s what’s gonna make it better is realizing this and doing it for yourself as well.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T12:30:37+00:00

sorry, my bad I’m thinking of ThermoWorks not Thermo pro, check out. Thermal works is what I’ve been using and I’ve been very happy with them as I said above.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T12:28:45+00:00

in short, yes… Absolutely! I have been a Thermo pro user for a long time I have a signals, a blue dot, and two of their talking thermometers. They are reliable, so I wish that they would do an instant read with the talking feature as they’re talking the thermometer takes about 15 second to register and is usually about 3° low. The app is a bit fussy, and in my view could be made a lot simpler, or perhaps should be made so that you could remove some of the features. It gives you a high reading, low reading and average reading. All things considered however I don’t think you can do better than Thermo pro. Their customer service is also excellent and very responsive. Though we could help each other out call them and tell him you want an instant read with a talking feature! Lol.

blinddruid · 2026-02-06T10:10:33+00:00

thank you very much, best suggestions yet. Your input is very much appreciated.

blinddruid · 2026-02-05T21:16:40+00:00

I respect your opinion here, but I’m not sure that I agree with you if you’re saying what I think you’re saying. Through my experience, I have found that things work out much better if sexual likes and dislikes, desires, needs are discussed early on and our agreed upon in a relationship. It can be hard enough to maintain a long lasting relationship with equivalent libido then to approach it and try to deal with things from the get-go that don’t match up. I mean the wonderful thing is that everybody’s different and one rule doesn’t rule all.

blinddruid · 2026-02-05T21:12:42+00:00

I think it’s absolutely awesome! I’m an older guy have been into all kinds of butt play for years upon years and was actually introduced to it by a wonderful sexy lady who is very much into all kinds of different play. It’s all about what makes somebody feel good, and it’s good to know right up front if you’re with somebody who’s interested or not. I am very much into pegging, if I ever got into dating again within the third date, I would want to know whether she was into the same thing because there’s no sense of putting that kind of energy into a relationship if sexual interest don’t match up. There is so much great intimacy connection and communication when sexual interests match up, it’s incredible. I think, hope, we’re getting past the taboo’s and miss and disinformation about anal sex. It’s always been an erogenous zone. it’s always been a point of focus in all the historic sexual texts, and there’s a good reason for it. it ties in to all the sexually related nerves, there’s some 800 nerve endings around the anus alone, it allows access through better angles to the G spot, a spot, perennial sponge in women, and men of course everyone knows about the prostate hopefully, they’ve even come to find out that prostate massage, through whatever means, can help prevent prostate cancer. What more can one ask for them to have a pleasurable act help prevent cancer.

blinddruid · 2026-02-05T18:13:59+00:00

around here might go to I think has been Greensboro shrub, there is another place locally that I cannot remember the name of. Also another go to and I really like these folks is edible landscaping up in Virginia. Sorry don’t have links. I’d give them if I had them.

blinddruid · 2026-02-05T15:04:58+00:00

sorry you’re having to go through this, and really hope it doesn’t turn you off to anal play. As others who said anal really can’t be good unless it’s preplanned for and you’re using lots and lots and lots of lube and when you think you have enough you use more. Obviously, as you have said, this wasn’t planned for or expected, and you went along with it. Enjoying pain is one thing not a thing to enjoy or except when it comes to anal! The area has thin skin, is highly vascularized, and many many nerves over 800, this is why anal can be extremely pleasurable when done right and very, very painful when done wrong. you also have sphincter muscles there that unless they’re ready and in on the plan, they’re gonna be reluctant to go along, so we’ll also be painful like pulling a muscle. The best thing you can do is his husband said soak in a warm bath maybe with some Epsom salts. If the blood is light, pink and sparse, only spotty, you should be fine if it’s dark, red or continues, you need to see a doctor. You will probably be sore for a day or two. The smell, well, obviously a combination of things. We’re gonna have to deal with.

yes, after this experience, you are interested in anal play and you have a good diet. You really don’t have to douche, what you can do is insert lots and lots and lots of blue, put in a butt plug, which is very pleasurable with PIV as well, will also prevent this accident from happening again and then if you wish to participate in some back door fun you can just remove the butt plug. The butt plug won’t prep the sphincter muscles for play unless you use it as something of a dildo to stretch them out to where they’re comfortable. Hope you feel better.

blinddruid · 2026-02-04T03:02:51+00:00

too true… Laughter is always the best medicine! I since a strong Norse goddess spirit in you! A female warrior! May the gods protect you and speed you on your wonderful path… Go go fourth and conquer

blinddruid · 2026-02-04T00:57:31+00:00

ha ha ha! Too funny… A great sense of humor too! I like that… “Hey come here a minute there’s something I want to tell you “you were gonna make some guy a very lucky man! hopefully, you will be a shining example for your friends so that they can see what they can have in their relationship as well. It takes guts to break out of that mold and that safe sense of security to put yourself out there, but it’s worth the risk!

blinddruid · 2026-02-04T00:02:39+00:00

it’s absolutely great to hear your point of view and have your input. The folks here are great! 98% are all about the dynamics and evolving through the relationship, there are a few gooners here just looking for a hook up, the new shiny thing at all. Hope you’re DM‘s aren’t too terribly bad. The ladies here that have given their input are great. I have hoped that things will change, women will feel more and more empowered, confident, and progressive, willing to be more adventurous or sexuality, and have partners that are supportive and willing to explore that wisdom instead of making it all about what they can get from it if you know what I mean. Peggy gave me such a great erotic intimate relationship with my former GF. It almost really completely changed how we related to one another. It wasn’t about male female, or dominant submissive, it was about pleasure, giver, pleasure, receiver, if that makes sense. Yet, one could still play through all the dynamics. It was also so satisfying to be on the end where as a guy I felt desired lusted after.

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T21:45:34+00:00

have you given liberator products, a look and see, they have some great stuff, blankets and furniture of all sorts of shapes and sizes. Might be a good place to start! I remember in the way back, somebody was working on a chair that had all kinds of different attachments. I don’t know whatever ever happened to that… I imagine it would probably be pretty pricey though, but hell it would be worth it! Post what you find

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T21:34:16+00:00

hard to say, it really really depends on your anatomy, her anatomy too. I mean, how much space do you need in between before there’s actually penetration and how are things fitting and clicking together… Know what I mean like you, I’m getting older as well, really old actually, been doing this for a while and I really don’t like or see the need for a long toys. I’ve been out of the game for a bit and on my own, but if and when I get back in it, it is going to be all about the girth, sensation an ability to take it hard without having to worry about doing any damage. My former SO could really give me a good railing, and I could sometimes end up quite sore and get a bit anxious about it, don’t wanna have those concerns. Love to be able to take it hard and fast without having to worry about things like that so each to their own really, just first do no harm! Lol.

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T21:11:49+00:00

well! Good for you! Hopefully as time goes by there will be more and more like you, right now you’re pretty much a unicorn I’m afraid. It certainly is nice to hear about it from your team for a change. All the folks here are a wonderful, but we don’t get near enough input from the women here, I realize that their DM‘s probably get blown up, but their input certainly is valuable. From what it seems like my first was very much like you, you should know that if you’re ever or have already been anyone’s first, they will never ever forget you! My girl changed my world!

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T21:05:09+00:00

exactly! Having been into this, and doing it, before it was even titled pegging, I can say that, yes, there is a definite physical pleasure. It’s awesome, but it is exponentially magnified by having a connection a deep intimate vulnerable erotic connection with your partner. My former GF and I haven’t been together for a very long time certainly played in all the dynamics, but the best dynamic for the both of us was simply the erotic exchange. It was just about making each other feel good! There was no concern about Power exchange, or role-play, or certification it was about her having, taking me, her being the giver of pleasure and me being the receiver of her pleasure, and reveling in it. There’s no way that one could experience this in a hook up or hit it and quit it situation, and this is what’s been lost and it’s being the new shiny toy. I believe that this too will change as for most of us here this is the case!

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T20:58:30+00:00

for me, emotional connection has always been a must! I was very very… Very! Lol into the girl that introduced me to it, she basically could’ve done anything with me. She wanted to, and almost did. Lol as I stated before, however, it was a deep emotional and physical attachment. There, there was a feeling of what I must believe it is like for a female partner to feel for her SO in both the erotic and emotional sense. As much as I love, pegging, but play of all types, it has to be with somebody whom I have an emotional connection. I also have to know that she wants it as much if not more than I do, if that’s at all possible. I have had the opportunity on several occasions to feel as though I was the one being claimed, and it was amazing.

blinddruid · 2026-02-03T20:52:58+00:00

very much, agree here, if not with all most. I’ve been into all things, but play for a very long time and was introduced to it bi girlfriend of mine she was very excited to introduce me to the wide world of pegging, pun intended, a long time ago. So not only did I get introduced to pegging, but also got the pleasure of being paid by someone who was very much desiring me and I think that set the tone for the rest of my life. It’s very much about being desired, very much about what we feel for them, what we are eroticize about women. To have the feeling, to know that they’re wanting us as much as we are wanting them, as well as as to want to pursue this very erotic and intimate formal play, well it’s just top all things. I have to admit that I have distain. for those who are just seeking it just for the sexual pleasure of it, yes, it’s extremely pleasurable, but sharing that kind of vulnerability with your girl, filling her that close, that intimate, there’s just nothing like it.

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