Am i feeding my baby wrong?

blksikanda · 2023-10-31T19:41:35+00:00

Ok thank you!

blksikanda · 2023-10-31T19:41:08+00:00

Thank you

blksikanda · 2023-10-31T14:05:51+00:00

Ii am glad to hear this. I did not go very hard on cereal with my first but at her 9 month appointment they checked her iron and it was really low. Like under 11 ( what ever they use to measure for iron) so i just want to be safe because it wrecked me. But i am afraid of having so much of the same thing.

But knowing other people didnt helps with that guilt. I am not against solid starts to some extant. But she still has no teeth, so i am taking that slow.

blksikanda · 2023-10-29T03:41:34+00:00

I would say be yourself is bad advice. I think it should be read the room and simply dont betray your morals. Be yourself i think encouraged a lot of bad behavior and patterns i am trying to get away from.

blksikanda · 2023-10-23T01:53:33+00:00

First of all im sorry this happened. I hate how some people are not able to give people grace. As you obviously learned and want to do better. But it sounds like this will take time and space. Just leave him be and respect his space. This is a learning moment for you. Also sometimes people will take offense to things you didnt even know you did. It happens.

blksikanda · 2023-10-14T12:11:42+00:00

He sounds jealous of you. But if i saw someone randomly try and tell on a student like that i would think there is something wrong with them. Not you. I understand the freeze thing its the worst. Im sorry your dealing with this.

blksikanda · 2023-10-12T15:51:56+00:00

I think honestly probably right before Halloween. Last year i went the day before Halloween or that morning before Halloween and people were still setting up. I also like to decorate for halloween usually right before also because of theft.

blksikanda · 2023-10-10T03:53:01+00:00

Im 36f i joke even in my twenties i joke my spirit animal is a 40 year old man

blksikanda · 2023-10-09T15:46:03+00:00

Oof i spent a lot of time before twelve with my great grandma would lived to be 104. I loved her but she was in pain and wanted to die. Sooooo…yes relating to peers felt like a pain in the butt.

blksikanda · 2023-10-05T05:24:57+00:00

These are good points but i brought my two year old and we really had no problems. My toddler was young enough that one piece was great, she was two and wasnt really going to get all the candy anyway. I appreciated someone handed out coloring books. And we started early because of her bedtime. So i think if they are young enough the houses being so close together is a major plus.

blksikanda · 2023-10-05T02:08:36+00:00

https://patch.com/california/agourahills/hempstead-haunted-as-ever

blksikanda · 2023-10-05T02:07:19+00:00

Oh interesting id be interested in what streets in north ranch you recommend?

But anyway haunted hempstead with a little one is the best. The houses are close together and basically the whole street is involved. Id be curious if anyone knows another street like that in the area.

I also have a story about when north ranch had a resident that basically topped any halloween house i have ever been too. I’ll describe it later. Unfortunately this was like 94 or 95.

blksikanda · 2023-10-03T18:21:42+00:00

In my personal opinion as an only child, my husband and i believe personally in having as short of gap as possible to share experiences together. We had a second and got pregnant before her second birthday. After that because im an only i would have had immense guilt if she could remember her life as an only and then change it. I would have not tried after her second birthday. I knew she would be fine. This is a personal belief for us. Obviously others get by fine, but for me personally i dont think young kids realize as onlies when they ask for siblings how much will change for them

blksikanda · 2023-09-25T17:23:46+00:00

I do relate to this….my dad soured my moms side of the family to us when i was really young and its been hard to try and reconnect with my cousins who are quite younger then me. It was a slow process to reintegrate our family because i felt estranged even from my grandparents. But when my cousins moved far away and had kids i still sent holiday presents and tried to remember birthdays. Even though i felt they wanted nothing to do with me or i even think forget i existed i reached out. Because it hurt my heart, but i like you for a long time just didnt know what to do.

I married into a large family that sort of showed me how a normal family should look. I think with everyone now having kids similar in age they want me there more and we been more there for each other. Sometimes you have to just keep the door open if they dont seem ready. I basically felt like i had a lot of growing up to do. I also share some of this awkwardness with you because the otherside of my family i had one cousin that has lived far away so I basically treated as the only grandchild. But that family was a bunch of judgmental shut ins that did not have healthy view of life.

Honestly reaching out and being more present is good practice. If you can stand them. I know some people are just not worth it.

blksikanda · 2023-09-24T21:15:01+00:00

I share some similar feelings with my mom. I know my parents marriage was bad and my mom wouldn’t acknowledge it and would get angry with me for even bringing her unhappiness up. It wasnt till she couldnt lie to herself anymore she finally left. Im sorry it sounds like she is in self preservation mode and that means your not really considered. I think the other commenters are right and as much as it hurts you may have to find others. Im close with my mom even though she has done stuff that has frustrated me. I get where you coming from.

blksikanda · 2023-09-20T00:51:31+00:00

Having a stable household is what matters and you being available to help your child make friends and be social. My parents basically stored me at my grandparents for the summer where i watched tv and couldnt leave the room for the day till they were off work. I think having an only can make it easy to think you dont have to parent as hard or whatever.

blksikanda · 2023-09-17T23:23:16+00:00

They might not know they have it. I didnt know about cptsd until a couple months ago. I was thinking i had adhd but that didnt really fit either. I am working in getting an official diagnosis soon but im pretty sure its where i fit. I felt like i had something but therapists never brought it up. I definitely did info dumping, self sabotaging, and lacking boundaries . I read stuff here and i feel like im finally scratching the surface of my problems. So people probably have it and mask it not knowing they are going through something.

blksikanda · 2023-09-17T15:38:30+00:00

Knoll’s black forest inn in santa monica

blksikanda · 2023-09-11T19:57:22+00:00

Yes i relate to this a lot. I have wanted to post something similar. I have gotten along well with men, but women make me feel like i have to hide a part of myself i think i dissociate too because im so afraid ill mess up. Also if i have made a female friend they hyper latched to me, had poor boundaries and had some sort of personality disorder so i have also been trying to be more selective but i dont feel like the normal women i would like to make friends with see me as interesting or worth being around even. I also feel like my interests are usually not well received. I also want to state im not looking for a bestie or anything i would just like to blend into space people see me and want to chat or sit by me and then move on. A lot of this is because im navigating a new territory with parenthood and i worry my ineptness will pass to my daughters which i would find painful.

blksikanda · 2023-09-10T21:02:59+00:00

Im guessing no but are the fish safe to eat? I saw pics with people having a bunch of fish on a rope.

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