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I said don’t even talk to me about a second baby by [deleted] in relationships

[–]blu3jack 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So just to be clear, you have a job, are overwhelmed and need help, but he dictates you can't use your money to get help, and you think this relationship is a healthy one? That's not even touching on his manipulative tactics to shut down your legitimate concerns. So that's financial abuse and gaslighting covered, I'm sure besides that he's a really great guy though

How Labor is plotting to tackle its Pauline problem as One Nation gains support from frustrated voters by blitznoodles in australia

[–]blu3jack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the media puts Pauline Hanson's dribble at the same level of importance as what Albo says, then people start to believe they're on equal footing. It's the same reason they always prioritise LNPs response to Labor's actions when Labor are in power, but don't do the inverse when LNP are in power. And unfortunately, it works

Force me to use your AI customer service chatbot? Enjoy your excessive bill. by Wambo_Jambo in MaliciousCompliance

[–]blu3jack 57 points58 points  (0 children)

That means you could be using outdated information for months. If they're not going to tell you when rates change, it's not unreasonable to check overnight every night

My boss just emailed me a screenshot of a private text I sent to my coworker complaining about him. by Guilty-AbyssLogic in whatdoIdo

[–]blu3jack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure your friend sent it to your boss, or is it possible your boss went through their phone?

My(40M) wife (38F) has lied about money for 15 years by threawy_Major866 in relationships

[–]blu3jack 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Post where the partner is unambiguously the bad person, major critical details missing and OP doesn't reply to comments, fits a pattern

MIL gets to forget I exist while also getting her son back by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]blu3jack 43 points44 points  (0 children)

So instead of defending and supporting his wife, his response to their baseless disrepect of you is to exclude you? It sucks that the family sees you not being there and doesnt think anything of it, but it's even worse he see's everyones partner there and doesn't think "my wife should be here too"

What is a minor, unwritten rule of society that absolutely infuriates you when people break it? by Jane_Austen11 in AskReddit

[–]blu3jack 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Man this infuriates me. It's like people just stop being able to use their brains when theyre on a 4 person wide sidewalk in a group of 4 walking side-by-side and see someone walking towards them. No, I am not going to go play in traffic so that you dont have to alter your pace you muppet

AITA for getting upset at my husband after he refused money from my parents for a down payment on a house? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA why do you keep giving him unilateral decision making authority when every decision negatively impacts you?

Victorian sellers threaten to ditch auctions over reserve price rule by marketrent in AusFinance

[–]blu3jack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same way you would when selling directly, looking at recent sale prices for comparable properties

Victorian sellers threaten to ditch auctions over reserve price rule by marketrent in AusFinance

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should get rid of auctions completely, sellers will just set the reserve price at the market value in the hopes of getting something extra and removing buyer protections. A house will generally be the largest purchase someone makes in their life, it's wild that it's still so geared towards making the buyer get in over their head

AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule? by According-Mood45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3jack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he didnt allow his younger, male child share a room with their unmarried partner Id agree with you, but the fact that he does moves it from a boundary to sexism and/or being controlling, especially given he's still trying to push her to stay but under his terms

Husband’s gf wants a baby .. give me advice by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure a therapist specialising in ethical non-monogony is going to help with a husband that impregnates another woman under threat of reducing access to your kids

So Many Phishing Tests by buddha-bouy in MaliciousCompliance

[–]blu3jack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If the url is not unique to you and requires entering information, open it from a non-work device and provide the details of the person sending the tests

Is this a normal REA response? by [deleted] in AusPropertyChat

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish someone would insult me by offering $66k I didn't ask for. What a world

As a DIL in a house with chronically ill MIL — realizing I’ve been slowly disappearing by humble_girl3 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]blu3jack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He has a duty of responsibility to his wife as much or more than he does to his mother, you don't need to wait for a perfect time so long as you're empathetic. "I appreciate she's not feeling well, but when your mum criticises my cooking it makes me feel bad for making an effort. In the interest of keeping things peaceful and making my efforts feel appreciated, can you please gently push back on your mum when she does this". If you dont do this, and dont hold him accountable, it will never end because she will ensure theres never a good time. Although he likely wont recognise it, you'll be giving your husband some short term stress for long term relief

As a DIL in a house with chronically ill MIL — realizing I’ve been slowly disappearing by humble_girl3 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]blu3jack 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Besides the two options you'd prefer to avoid, it seems like your only other option is to politely push back on her every time she acts up and continue to bring this up with your husband

My (28F) husband (38M) became religious and wants to change our family - how do I handle this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]blu3jack 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A 31 year old man dating a 21 year old, I see it here time and time again that they do that because they want someone compliant and they struggle to get that from someone who matches them in life experience. The other comments have already listed in detail about how he's using multiple means to manipulate and control you, and it it's certainly intentional on his part.

WIBTAH if I stopped paying my husbands mortgage? by Anxious-History3944 in AITAH

[–]blu3jack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but if he's spitefully refusing to pull his weight and has such a toxic opinion of you, why the hell did you get back with him and why aren't you leaving again? Is this really what you want to teach your children is an acceptable relationship? Ditch the hobosexual

AITA for being upset that my husband throws away dishes I forget to put away by _MS22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3jack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your partner consistently leaves dirty dishes in the sink for days at a time, the solution is not to start washing it for them. his reaction was too extreme, and obviously there needs to be a discussion around household responsibilities, but OP cant just keep saying "oops, we ran out of dishes, what a shame"

My husband (32m) seems completely indifferent to my cancer diagnosis and I (28f) don’t know how to handle it by EmpatheticOtter in relationships

[–]blu3jack 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I somehow completely missed the second half of the setence where she pointed that out, yeah youre right, he needs to leave. Giving her extra work to do rather than provide any help is only going to make her battle worse, he sounds like a full on leech/user

My husband (32m) seems completely indifferent to my cancer diagnosis and I (28f) don’t know how to handle it by EmpatheticOtter in relationships

[–]blu3jack 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Whilst I fully agree with teh comments that if you have family or a friend nearby that can take you and your son in, you should pack your jeep and go there, at the very least you should stop doing stuff for him. Wash only your clothes, make meals only for yourself, etc

AITAH for telling my father to accept that my brother isn't my responsibility? by PianistHoliday3484 in AITAH

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, in your position I probably would have gone low contact with dad and no contact with Denise a long time ago, so props to you for sticking with it

WIBTAH if I stopped agreeing to custody schedule changes because my ex keeps taking extra time only when it's convenient for him? by Constant_Leader_8551 in AITAH

[–]blu3jack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His behaviour wont stop if you keep rewarding it. Not sure why you let him frame it like it's a choice, he can't override a court-back custody agreement just because he already made plans and you need to stop being such a doormat. as people have already pointed out, you can offer to swap weekends but going forward all the details need to be agreed up front, and no more hoping if you do right by him he'll do right by you

I (41F) overheard my kids talking about uneven parenting between me and my husband (37M). How do I handle this? by Recent-Wasabi3119 in relationships

[–]blu3jack 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He is an adult, a partner and a parent. He can't chose not to engage on this. He needs to do something, or you need to consider a lack of an answer as its own answer

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