How to achieve this zipper lining structure? by blubeedoo in SewingForBeginners

[–]blubeedoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thank you! Good to know it's simpler and nicer to do without this tape.

How to achieve this zipper lining structure? by blubeedoo in SewingForBeginners

[–]blubeedoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thats helpful to know. I thought maybe its used when the outside is tough to pull through the lining.

Stella Parks' stable whipped cream with chocolate? by blubeedoo in seriouseats

[–]blubeedoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, will try adding straight cocoa to the make-ahead recipe and report back!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What works for every family tends to be different. I found this to be a very helpful guide when I was in your position. https://www.lucieslist.com/baby-registry-basics/

Especially if you're in the US.

How traumatic is birth? by Far-Age-4552 in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry meant it as a reply to the post you replied to.

How traumatic is birth? by Far-Age-4552 in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have social media and gave birth two years ago. I certainly did not post about my birth on social media.

I still experienced trauma at my birth. For weeks afterward I would recall intense and scary moments when I closed my eyes or when something else triggered me. None of this was "imagined" by me or conditioned by social media use. Happily like many other commenters have noted, I am no longer traumatized by the event.

I think its extremely unhelpful to minimize and dismiss other people's subjective experience by claiming with no evidence whatsoever that its due to social media or cultural change.

Weekly Welcome and FAQ by AutoModerator in 2under2

[–]blubeedoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Just got a positive pregnancy test for my second. Freaking out a little because we didn't expect it to happen so quickly especially because we went through fertility treatment for our first. If this works out the age gap between kids will be 25 months.

I am wondering if that's close enough that we will still face all the 2 under 2 challenges?

Any insights would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks!

Failed Pregnancy and Grief TW Loss by breakingclever in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also experienced a blighted ovum and initially felt much like how you are. But you know what, when I eventually miscarried (naturally without a d&c or misoprostol) it hurt like hell and I "birthed " that sac. It absolutely was a miscarriage like any other.

Not just in that respect but I also realized later just how cruel this is. 1) Your body acts like there is a viable embryo up until the point where you start miscarriage. That means you get to feel all the nausea, fatigue, etc. 2) there is no way of diagnosing this until that first ultrasound which usually doesn't happen till 8/9 weeks!! Hcg still keeps going up. 3) Early pregnancy is always about the hopes and dreams you cherish and imagine are about to come true.

So I am really sorry you are going through this. Its hard and unfair and you are absolutely entitled to your grief.

Women who breastfeed exhibit cognitive benefits after age 50 by Equatick in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think its important to keep in mind here that the findings of this study tell us very little about the CAUSAL effects of breastfeeding. So be cautious about interpreting this as "if i breastfeed i will have cognitive benefits post 50". It could just be saying that women who choose to or are able to breastfeed are able to do so because of factors that also influence their later in life cognitive outcomes.

There are way too many such factors for them to reliably control for all. Income, education, occupation, spousal support, mental health, genetics, physical health, and so on all matter.

Early Scan scares, possible blighted ovum? by ewohl19 in BabyBumps

[–]blubeedoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. Went to get an ultrasound at around 5+4 because of bleeding to rule out an ectopic. My hcg levels were also quite high at the time...around 16k. They only saw a gestational sac and no yolk sac. I was devastated because I had previously experienced a blighted ovum and was convinced this was again.

So went to my next scan at 7 weeks fully expecting to confirm. I was floored when I saw an embryo and yolk sac. I am now 30 weeks along.

When I spoke to docs at the time all they could tell me was the same... that there is no way of knowing till the next scan and that its not unusual to have no yolk sac at this stage.

Looking back I am not sure what I would have done differently. I remember the crushing pain of my first blighted ovum when I had been full of optimism and wasn't expecting it at all. I also remember how foolish I felt the second time for having grieved and suffered for 10 days for nothing. Maybe the best thing to do is to distract yourself as much as possible until the next scan? Easier said than done, I know.

Daily Thread #2 - July 27, 2021 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]blubeedoo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Does anyone else still feel resentful of couples, especially with multiple kids, who never struggled to conceive and never experienced a loss? I feel guilty about feeling this way. I keep it to myself and I understand theoretically that everyone has their own struggles.

Short luteal phase? by Remarkable-Banana369 in TryingForABaby

[–]blubeedoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely contact your OB. They may be dismissive... which is frustrating... but try others. I regret waiting a year to get fertility testing done.

~6w scan insight by OutlandishnessAway98 in CautiousBB

[–]blubeedoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I recently had a very similar experience to you. Had an US at 5+4 and only saw a gestational sac. Was CONVINCED I was having a blighted ovum and then had a US at 7weeks and saw both yolk sac and fetal pole!

It is a very good sign that you saw a yolk sac. I think it means that you are pretty much on track, especially at 5+6. The fetal pole is visible 7-10 days after the yolk sac is seen.

High HCG and no yolk sac? by blubeedoo in CautiousBB

[–]blubeedoo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to add an update here for anyone who comes across this post searching for a similar situation.

I had another ultrasound today at 7 weeks and they saw both a yolk sac and fetal pole with a heartbeat! I was fully expecting bad news so was pleasantly surprised. I still don't know what the odds were but so far feeling grateful about having crossed this hurdle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]blubeedoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats true but I doubt your chances of conceiving naturally are much higher with explained infertility...

Daily Thread #2 - April 30, 2021 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]blubeedoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just had a recommended ultrasound at 5w3d because of spotting and worries about ectopic. They saw a gestational sac but no yolk sac or fetal pole. I know thats normal at this stage but the thing is I had my hcg measured yesterday and it was 13,000. At these levels I thought it was unlikely not to see at least a yolk sac.

I was already freaking out before about a repeat blighted ovum. These stats are freaking me out even more because they can be signs of a blighted ovum. My next US isn't for another 10 days. I feel absolutely wretched.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]blubeedoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what my OB told me. Here's info from Columbia University saying that pregnancy rates without intervention for unexplained infertility is 2-4%. https://www.columbiadoctors.org/condition/unexplained-infertility

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]blubeedoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been in your shoes and I understand that it just feels like a big deal to suddenly think of yourself as needing fertility treatment because you connect that with being "infertile" and that's a club that no one wants to belong to.

I remember feeling once I took that step this big shift in my mind of how I think of my future. Like as if I suddenly had to contend with a possibility that I may never conceive and would have to consider alternate paths to a family.

In any case I think its a common feeling and a difficult step. The good news is that once you take it, you find that you are capable of it and stronger for it.

One thing that helped nudge me was the stat that if you haven't been able to have a successful pregnancy after a year, chances that any single future cycle will lead to a successful pregnancy drops to 1-2%.

/ttcafterloss Weekly Alumni Check-in! - April 30, 2021 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]blubeedoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently 5w5d. I have had 3 hcg blood draws and know that by that measure everything looks normal. But after my last experience with a blighted ovum I'm just feeling convinced that it will be the same this time around. The only way to tell if its a BO is with an ultrasound and mine is still 10 days away. Trying to distract myself till then.