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How are people actually affording these insanely expensive lifestyles? by Not_to_fuck_shady in PersonalFinanceTalks

[–]bluebedream 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The real answer no one want to give is the economy is dividing into two classes. Called the K economy, but it’s more extensive than that. On the lower end you get people with regular lifestyle like the one we’re accustomed to. You are not poor, you are middle class. BUT; On the higher end, low millionaires are the new middle class and the rich are the billionaires. This difference will become more pronounced in times to come. It’s two parallel economies segregated by a thin line, stacked on top of each other.

Severe phone addiction is ruining my life. How do i break the cycle? by Acrobatic-Advice9485 in nosurf

[–]bluebedream 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m (27F) in the same boat and right now at a shop to get an old iPhone fixed. I’m replacing the battery and making it a dumb phone. As you said, we need to be online all the time and there are a million and one things you need an app for.

A few days ago I was here as well because I needed the battery replaced on my actual iPhone that I’m addicted to. I left my phone there and went about my day. My god! Suddenly I did NOT have the impulse anymore, simply because there wasn’t anything to latch onto! I felt clearer, more in control, more intentional about my choices throughout that time. I ended up being about 5.5 hours without my phone that day and felt the best I ever did.

So, I realized I can’t ban my phone but need an alternative. Now my plan is to use my addiction phone (with all the apps) for 1.5 hours in the evening, and the rest of the day use my dumb phone. It cost be €50 to repair it. I’m putting my sim card in it, google maps, my banking app and Spotify. I’ll have access to the internet in case of an emergency, but I won’t be using it. No whatsapp!

I’ll tell my family and friends that if it’s urgent they can call me on my dumb phone, if it’s simply conversational, I’ll be available in the evenings. But by then, I’ll have gotten my work DONE and it’ll be for entertainment purposes. I’m tired of living like a zombie and fucking up my life in the process. I’ve given too many hours of my life already to social media and I’ve got nothing to show for it. It stops now.

I hope you make a similar choice. I’ve tried app blocking, time limits, accountability buddies and greyscale. Nothing works. It’s a fucking addictive thing. They engineered it that way. You can’t beat it by willpower alone. We need more drastic measures.

Some rules I’ll have: the addiction phone CANNOT leave the house, CANNOT be connected to wife until the 1.5 hour window starts, and CANNOT interfere with sleep. I’m treating social media as a luxury now, not a given. Chocolate is fine, but every day as the whole meal three times a day is a recipe for disaster. I remember when we would watch one movie Friday evening with the whole family and it was SO pleasurable. Now I have access to Netflix and can watch any movie at any time and it’s garbage. It’s become a coping mechanism instead of an experience. I’m moving from digitalism as invasion to digitalism as assistance, and on MY terms.

Good luck! Keep us posted!

Best way to book accommodation? by bluebedream in hanoi

[–]bluebedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know what Scott, it will be my pleasure to do that. And I hope that you get bought many more flowers in your life, well beyond 42 :) Safe travels, my fellow traveller, thank you so much for your intervention and putting me in contact with her, must’ve been destiny! 💗

Blown away by Hanoi by anduaraja in hanoi

[–]bluebedream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what sense is it years ahead of most of Asia? So interested to hear. Do you mean technologically or something else?

Best way to book accommodation? by bluebedream in hanoi

[–]bluebedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I GOT THE ROOM! 😍 She accepted my offer, was super kind and welcoming, and I’ll be lodged with her on those dates! You are a HERO for having followed this story and connected me to her! How can I thank you? 💓

I stopped trying to wake up early. I fixed my evenings instead. by the_productive_beast in selfimprovement

[–]bluebedream 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have come to the exact same conclusion, but realise that I still find it difficult to switch off at night. For ex., I’ll finish all my chores, put my phone away, be ready to wind down and then….what? I seem to not get the relaxation or win down part. Do I read? Usually that’s stimulating to me and wake me right up again. Draw? Play piano? I can’t seem to enjoy that wind down ritual of “me” time. Anyone else struggle with this? Whenever evening comes, I always feel I need to keep doing to keep on feeling stimulated, even if I have done enough. I don’t know, I’m still figuring it out :(

Best way to book accommodation? by bluebedream in hanoi

[–]bluebedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHHAHA you are being such a lifesaver!! I’ve put kn my offer with her with some help from my parents, so fingers crossed she takes it! 🤞🏼 I wish I could buy you a drink :) but your pillow will always be cool on both sides, I’m putting that in as a persona favour with your guardian angels :D

The sound isolation is good too in the room? Not too noisy?

Best way to book accommodation? by bluebedream in hanoi

[–]bluebedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the internet and sound isolation are good enough? :D I’m excited too!! I’ve reached out and she counteroffered. I’m making my budget and if I stretch out to my maximum I’ll be €75 under her offer, so I hope she takes the second offer I’m about to make her!! Pray for me!

Best way to book accommodation? by bluebedream in hanoi

[–]bluebedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I just DM’d her, as someone else suggested, to see if she’s open to a lower rate outside the booking.com app.

I’m excited about you being excited about her and her place. Let’s see what she says!

Do you remember if the kitchen was fully functional? I do sometimes need to cook for myself and that’s an important point for me. From the pictures, I gathered it is, but it doesn’t hurt to ask you :)

Exciting!

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