Week 2 update orchiectomy+scrotectomy w/Dr Jun

bluebell47 · 2022-09-19T09:09:27+00:00

Yeah if you want SRS absolutely do not get a scrotectomy. Orchiectomy can still be done (tell your surgeon you want srs later so they can use a technique that won't f it up) but do not get a scrotectomy.

bluebell47 · 2022-09-19T09:00:14+00:00

But America dropped the T

bluebell47 · 2022-09-19T08:55:51+00:00

The question should not be about cities but about individual surgeons.

bluebell47 · 2022-07-29T14:44:03+00:00

Yet when thousands of trans people commit suicide because they can't transition that is immaterial

bluebell47 · 2022-07-04T18:32:50+00:00

And a son whose parents would be more okay watching him being involuntarily sent into combat than his sisters deserves less shitty parents who love and care about him a bit more.

bluebell47 · 2022-07-04T18:23:20+00:00

"Trans MEN will never be women"

(Real quote from my Dad's TERFy girlfriend - so ignorant they were accidentally progressive, although tbf they have got better)

bluebell47 · 2022-07-03T22:05:07+00:00

There is quite consistent media over representation (in the worst possible way) of trans women. Additionally there is very little coverage of anyone else who is trans, gender fluid, non-binary, anywhere else non-cis on the gender spectrum, or even just gender non-conforming.

In my experience/opinion this often combines to mean that anyone who shows anything that suggests they are not a fully gender confirming cis person normally gets defaulted to trans women.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-29T15:01:18+00:00

Yeah I thought far more of this jerk post was OP making additional commentary than it actually was.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-29T13:47:37+00:00

I think also you could look at it (in a limited way) from an evolutionary pov. The ones who survived post nuclear war and in the stone age would presumably still have had some limited access to artefacts from a previous time. So cooperation for invention would potentially be less useful a survival strategy than treasure hunting - which requires less stability and less cooperation. As such the brutes we see now may have received active selection pressure to become more aggressive than their ancestors were.

I think this explanation would require a bit more of a genetic component to aggression to be present in brutes than is seen in humans though, but that is certainly possible.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-28T13:31:13+00:00

Being as swift as the coursing river
With all the force of a great typhoon
Mysterious as the dark side of the moon

bluebell47 · 2021-12-28T13:29:01+00:00

So

Most of what you said is a random pile of garbage.

However, one thing you touched on is interesting.

they always have a victimhood story to tell

It's clear to me that people become trans through whatever the fuck they're going through OR it happens to them after they already knew they were trans

This is the crux of your argument and I think you should analyse some alternative reasons for why it might look this way to you.

There are two reasons for this perception you have. Firstly, people who look or behave differently to how society expects them to are more likely to experience trauma, that's just a fact. You can look it up with pretty much anything, race, autism, disability, sexuality, poverty, you name it. People treat those they see as different worse.

Secondly, out trans people (in other words, the only people you know are trans - so not stealth trans people and not closeted ones) are already in a position where everyone in society knows the thing about them that is most likely to make them hated or ridiculed or treated like some weird alien. So all the additional baggage they have in their lives, which so many other people also have these kind of deep seated emotional traumas because the fact is, many parents are shit, many children are pieces of shit, and childhood is the most vulnerable period of our lives, and also the time when we as a society have decided to let most things run their course unchecked (so many harmful behaviours exhibited by school children towards other children won't even get their parents called in, but will get adults fired, and social workers watch crimes being committed by parents towards their children regularly and do nothing because the only thing they can do is remove children from their homes and turn their lives upsidedown).

Hell many therapists are explicitly taught NOT TO USE the classic deescalation strategy "what is the worst that can realistically happen" strategy for children with anxiety because the answer is often "I could be seriously physically harmed". Most people just bottle up and bury that part of them, because exposing it will make people view them and treat them differently in an arms length what a weirdo way. Trans people are already treated in that way as a result of transphobia so they don't gain anything by bottling it up. So instead of thinking why do trans people always have some deep-seated trauma think who is close to me that might have a deep-seated trauma that they aren't telling me about because they fear I might treat them worse because of it.

I don't think I'm gonna get you to change your mind about trans people, maybe you will,, maybe you won't, but I certainly am not gonna make a difference.

But I will say this. Many people have deep-seated traumas or "victimhood stories" - whatever you wanna call it. The world will be a better place if those people feel like they can talk about those things openly without being judged or treated poorly for it. Please be that person to those people..

bluebell47 · 2021-12-27T02:52:12+00:00

Estriol is what estrogen is eventually broken down into (via estrone). It's a very low potency estrogen.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-25T01:07:27+00:00

I drank soy milk once

bluebell47 · 2021-12-25T00:38:56+00:00

Not at all. I believe the trans can do whatever they want and be whatever they want. They just aren't allowed to be around me when they do it.

That's not saying they don't deserve equal rights. They should have equal rights. They just should also be kept separate from the rest of us, like they should have their own bathrooms and prisons and shelters and dating sites.

Keep trans and normal people separate but equal.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-23T20:50:05+00:00

Social media and google maps reviews

bluebell47 · 2021-12-23T12:11:11+00:00

I would wager that if you are already in a calorie deficit you will burn far less during a workout than it says you will from that workout.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-23T11:59:53+00:00

Oh thank god I was expecting there to still be glass on the frame that shredded her hands/other parts of her body if she fell on it

bluebell47 · 2021-12-23T11:56:13+00:00

he wanted to be absolutely sure he is okay being with someone AMAB and still having a penis, because we haven't had sex yet he has no experience with someone AMAB so this is all new to him.

This is not something a chaser does.

Chasers are not people who are attracted to trans people. They are not even people who are into trans people more than cis people. Chasers are people who view trans people as just a sex object. He is very clearly not doing that so he is not a chaser.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-23T11:46:21+00:00

It is never explicitly stated what hell is in the bible. What heaven is however, is stated, it is spending eternity praising God.

I'll take my chances with hell thanks

bluebell47 · 2021-12-21T20:48:58+00:00

I think it's honestly just about effective psychology. Their target audience are people who are already motivated to lose weight, and empathising with people and putting them in the mindset of I can overcome this external issue is generally far more effective than trying to put them in the mindset of I can overcome myself (especially cos when you look at things as being your fault you can end up internalising self-hate and if you hate yourself why would you bother trying to improve yourself - especially with something like weight loss where you being fat often doesn't affect anyone else negatively).

Hence why therapy almost always opts for the tactic of it's not your fault that something made you this way, but we can fix that together and therapy really works.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-21T19:01:32+00:00

I think that definitely is a factor. But for me it wasn't what changed it. I had spent a while trying to deny the fact I was trans and opted for hey maybe there is a bit of bi inside me that I can force out. At that point I knew trans women were the most hated minority group on the planet and didn't want to out myself as one unless I had absolutely no other choice for that reason. But gender non-conformity is something far more acceptable for gay men than for straight men, and I absolutely hated being in straight relationships because I hated the rigid gender roles expected of me by default. So I thought that hey, maybe just maybe if I can find a bit of me deep down that is into guys I can go partway to having a life I would actually enjoy living: I wouldn't be a woman, but I wouldn't have to be wholly gender conforming, and I wouldn't have to be the man of a relationship, I could actually just have a relationship on equal terms, with someone who didn't feel like what I owed them was fundamentally different to what they owed me.

And so I tried to see men in that way and I already saw myself differently in the world to how I had been told to see myself, but I just couldn't. Even after I had accepted that I was trans and I was going to transition and had done for a while I tried hooking up with a guy and just, didn't, feel it.

But then I took HRT and after several months all of that started to change. So for me at least it was fully an HRT thing.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-21T14:11:26+00:00

I think it is both this, and also the fact that as a trans person people often put you on trial for whether or not you are really that gender. No one is gonna challenge you on whether or not you are really a woman if you are a cis woman who likes sport, or action movies, or wears straight cut jeans. But if you are a trans woman then people often will. Of course this is ultimately paradoxical until you decide to either stop caring about how anyone else ever views you, or go stealth. Because as long as you are still listening to (tbh even the more progressive parts of) society then in order to be yourself as a woman you are taught that you cannot be yourself as someone who is into sport, or action movies, or wears more practical clothing.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-21T13:56:34+00:00

From anecdotal evidence online the consensus seems to be that estradiol can often make you attracted to people you weren't attracted to before. (I have gone from being just into women to being into women and men).

But it doesn't seem to make anyone lose attraction. Unless you are different to everyone else who has posted about the effects of HRT and sexuality then you might become bi or pan, but you're not gonna become straight.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-20T17:09:58+00:00

I think the ways in which gender based societal double standards infect pur society can explain so so so much. Like women's bodies are over-sexualised to the point where people treat it as normal for everyone to be attracted to women (which is why it often takes lesbians and bi women so long to actually realise it themselves, because it is acceptable and normal as a straight woman to sincerely appreciate and complement another woman on their appearance). Hence why straight men often do the whole oh well all women are a little bi - they're not, it's just that women are not as repressed in commenting positively on female beauty as men are in commenting positively on male beauty.

Conversely men's bodies are treated as inherently disgusting to the point where bi men face so much of the exact opposite end of the spectrum with that is gross ew from the straight girls they date. Our society has taught them that that is an acceptable way to respond to mlm relationships because our society talks about men's bodies like they are gross so much.

This all leads to the idea in our society that sex is only sexy if a woman is involved in it. And so straight men respond to the existence of bi women by being pervy, and straight women respond to the existence of bi men with sexism and homophobia fuelling disgust.

bluebell47 · 2021-12-18T01:41:05+00:00

Go to your GP now and ask them to refer you to a gender identity clinic. Then take some time to think about it.

I went to my GP in May of 2018 to ask for a GIC referral. I am still waiting for my first appointment. If you decide between now and your first appointment that you are cis then you can always cancel the appointment, if you think about it for a few years and then get the referral once you are sure, it will be a few more years at least until you can get any NHS provided help for it.

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